I have real issues!!!

Somehow, I think we all wear "signs" of some kind. For many years, my own personal sign seems to have been bright blue and red neon, mounted on my forehead, with the flashing words "The Therapist is IN!" I think we attract what we focus on. Don't know if you believe in such things as karma, and the Law of Attraction, but it seems like often we have "lifelessons" to learn... and until we have learned them, we can't let go of them-- so we keep attracting different "versions" of them. That doesn't mean it doesn't SUCK while it's going on. I have learned quite a lot from the idea of "positive framing." Life seems to become better when we stop focusing on what we DON'T want, and focus on what we DO want. In my case, that means changing my thinking from "I DON'T want to meet another headcase" to "I DO want to meet an emotionally healthy person." In your case, it might mean changing your thinking from "I DON'T want to meet another jerk" to a focus on "I DO want to meet a nice man." Not sure if that will help, but it's at least something to think about...

I used to have that exact same problem. I am 35 years old now and have been happily married for 12 years now. We have been together for 15 though. I used to set high standards in looks when I dated guys and I got burned every time. Then I dropped my standards a bit and still got burned by guys. One day I had my fill and I just wanted to be friends with a guy and hang out with them. Well my husband and I met and I told him I wanted friendship only. There is 15 years difference in our ages. We became friends and we got married. I never expected it or looked for it to happen. It just did. I never could find a guy my age to treat me right.

i think you should just wait, as they say mr right will come and find you one day, there's no point in wasting yourself be going with men like that, it's just best to wait and you will be lucky one day! hope you find your right man some day or he finds you! :o)

I was hoping to have read a response that addresses an issue with which many men have complained. It's the old grind that Nice Guys Finish Last. (continued)

I don't know if anyone has said this yet, because I was not able to read all the responses. While you are waiting for the right man, right friend, right job, or whatever it is, take the time to work on yourself. If you are not healthy, then you will not attrack healthy people. I have been praying for a husband for years. I finally read some where that I need to be patient and work on myself while I am waiting. I had to realize that a lot of the needs that I had and was looking for a man to fulfill, I needed to allow God to take care of. We don't go into a relationship thinking about what we need, we go in thinking about what we can give. If each of you has that same attitude, then you will lack nothing.

I have a friend who has had the same problem, she is a beautiful and sweet young lady, but in the love/dating/marriage department, her luck has been zilch. I sat down with her one day to talk because she needed a shoulder to cry on. I had her get paper and pen and write down what she was looking for. What was at the top of her list? LOOKS....he had to be a pretty boy, and by that I mean extremely physically attractive. Since I had once been in the same bucket and my "list" guys never worked out, I suggested she do what I did, look at her list and then turn and walk in the opposite direction. That is how I found true happiness with the man I am married to now..I tell people, he is everything I wasn't looking for! It seems that my friends that are the happiest are the ones that threw the phrase, "not my type" out of the window. My husband was completely not my type but I have never been happier in a relationship.

well try to have some better gathering and everything . and if you think you are not living at any good city then try to change your city and be proffesional. try to pick up the person who is very near to you and working with you else you would never find a better person who is roaming around on the streets. Regards, Sam

The best thing you can do is wait. I am personally a nice guy, every girl I have met that I've gone out with or am just friends with constantly ask me why other guys are not like me. Here is a little personaly story. I've liked this girl for over a year, but never asked her out. Why? It is because she constantly went out with the jerk kind of guys. This always put me down, because I know I am a good person. The girl I liked always asked why she got stuck with the bad guys. I told her to wait around, don't look but just wait. Eventually, after I saw she was single for a few months, I got the nerve to ask her out. We had a good relationship, until she fell in the wrong crowd again when I had to go away for a week. Wait it out, I am sure there is a nice guy wanting to get to know you but just scared to aproach you when you are constantly with the bad guys.

hey just rem. one thing attimes u need to kiss many frogs to find ur prince,,,,,,,,,,,so chill ,,,,,,,,,things will settle soon for you.

hi.......god has made someone for u tooo...as everyone has said u jus have to wait for the right one........patience is always fruitful...

You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find a prince. I had the same problem, seem really nice first couple of dates, then it is like Jeckle and Hyde. A friend of mine told me I wasn't setting my standards high enough and that I was looking in the wrong places. Ha Ha, my standards went up and I found bigger Jerks. I would go to higher scale places and meet higher scale addicts of one type or another. I finally decided to just quit, and that was when in a Wal-Mart store I met my husband. We both reached for a shirt at the same time and I sure am glad I did. He is the most wonderful man I have ever known. So don't worry there will be someone for you when you least expect it.

They say you kiss a lot of frogs before the right one comes along. Your luck will change you just have to set your standards a little higher.Try asking your friends for help. maybe they no the right person for you. But you can not give up. There is a right person out there for you. Good luck.

nice guys will never find you... you will have to find them.. reason is.. ur beautiful... they will be too afraid to approach u... dont look for that hot guy or sexy dude... they tend to have huge egos. look for that not so good looking guy thats quiet... he will be the strong nice man ur looking for... im mentally strong... physically, im ok... nice, very.... sweet, always, sometimes i make bad jokes though (by bad i mean it tends to insult others, rarely though)..... thoughtfull, always..... and i love to please... i dont know why.. thats just me... hehe.. .^_^. hope u find ur guys... and hope he finds u.... stay prettiful always....

I have a friend like that, who seems to have this wierd ability to attract strange/sketchy guys exclusively and in large numbers. I can't quite figure it out.

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Hello KrazyK I used to have the same luck as you, infact I have had more drunks and abusive relationships than I care to remember. I actually gave up on ever finding a nice guy and resided to the fact of being single for the rest of my life. Well Sept last year I was re-united with Graham on Myspace, someone that really cared for me back in my school days, Last time I saw Graham was back in 1973! So a very long time. We was reunited, and now we are a couple and planing on getting married for next year. Im now 44, Graham will be 48 soon. Dont give up! Do what I did! Just sit back and relax, enjoy life with your friends ect, when you are at least expecting it the right one will come to you out of the blue. Lynn-Marie

darling you seem so sweety , but you blame yourself hardly.nowadays nice people are little but they present. you must correct the way in your choices . when you find someone try to recognise his family , his friends, his coworkers, not date him fast not before you know him well with his tempers. that method usually succeeds but it take time .

Maybe you're hanging out in the wrong places? I don't think bars and nightclubs are great places to find what you're looking for. If you're into religion you might want to try the church or joining a religious organization.

maybe youre not looking at the right places.