Why do the Eldest get all the pressure?

The eldest child tend to have all the responsibility because as an eldest child your parents rely on you on the household chores especially in works that you must learn since you are still young. Being an eldest child, it is our parents is our teacher of everything that we must know about life because we are destined to be a leader for our younger siblings. Our parents pass to us the responsibility to help and train our younger sibling all the things that they must know especially on household chores. It is usually the eldest that is the example of the younger one so it is really right that we take all the responsibility and pressures that our parents gave us for us to be matured and responsible enough to take our role as a good example and a role model for our younger siblings. Talking about the rewards of everything that we sacrifice for is not really coming back to us in a form of money or good treatment but we will discover that reward once we were able to be a good example for our siblings. If we saw our siblings grow to be good citizens because of what we have done for them and because of what we have showed them that's the time that we can say that we are rewarded. It is worth all the sacrifice when we saw our siblings and our family having a harmoniouslife together. As parents we are being strict to our eldest because we want the best for them and for the rest of our children. Thats why I being the eldest child learned to be patient during my school days because I want to show to my siblings that I was able to get a degree becuase of my sacrifice and because of the teachings of my parents that being poor is not a hindrance to dream and fulfill my dreams.

The eldest just gets it all I am the eldest male in my family and my younger and older siblings and cousins come to me for advice, help and everything else. I belive it is a role you just fall into whether you like it or not. The older sib she does her best but it seem that i get most of it and now that the parent, aunts and uncles are getting older they are also relying on me for several things. so it is a role you just seem to fall in to and it is up to you or a family member to become the responsible one.

In both my family and the family i had the oldest doesnt have the responsibilities in fact in my own family i think te second eldest has taken that role and has grown to become a very resopnsible young lady and at the age of 23 has done a lot more than anyone her age .It wasn`t until i talked at heart one night with her as to what impact i had on her .and in the family i came from it was my older sister who took the same role from her tow older brothers she was there and did all that a parent would and should of done in rearing seven children and today i`m proud of her achievements in life

im with you on that one. i am the eldist and my younger sister doesnt have any pressure at all. i was the first to do my exams, go to college and university. so iv had all the pressure and my sister doesnt. i was told between college and university i couldnt have a gap year but my sister has just dropped out of college, and that is ok....it doesnt make any sense?

If our parents are the 4 star generals in our life then our eldest sibling is the 1 star general. They have pressure because they're the one tasked with the others when the parents are gone. Parents can't manage the family alone. They need someone who can be there for their children and the eldest one is the one for the job. Parents couldn't be in school or in parties but the eldest sibling can.

I think it's because your parents are still 'learning' with the eldest. When they find out that things they have been strict about with the eldest, haven't actually harmed them, they then tend to let the younger siblings do/have it earlier! There's also that by the time you have had more than two children you tend to worry less and are more relaxed with the younger ones. BTW I am the eldest in my family and I have three adult daughters.