Divorce...Do you talk about it or Avoid it at all cost!!

My husband never mentions it, but I mention it every few weeks. We have only been married 3 years. We have recetnly lost a baby and have had 3 miscarriages before that, so I'v been under considerable stress. My husband loves me and is kind and considerate but I can't get over the idea that he might have only married me to have children. He wanted to be a father, more than he wanted to be a husband, and so far, I feel I'v failed him. I'v mentioned divorce to him when I am feeling particulary horribly. I say "You are not stuck with me, you are young enough that you could find another woman to marry and have children with". I don't want to divorce but I want my husband to be happy because I love him as a person and he deserves so much more than this. He doesn't want to divorce and gets very upset about when I mention this. So I'm trying not to mention this, but want him to still realize that this is a possibility, but only if HE wants it, because I don't./

My husband and I dated for 6 years and have been married for 5 years, we have no children and don't own anything but our car. I can totally understand that you talk openly about divorce, my husband and I have done the same. We have joked about being divorced, who would get the alimony, and even other marriages. We don't have many issues in our marriage (right now), just the normal ones like any others(like I have to TELL him to take out the garbage, or put gas in the car), but we have been through a lot in 11 years and we know each other well. I don't think that there is anything wrong with talking about divorce, with so many marriages ending in divorce nowadays it would be crazier to not talk about it in my opinion.

my husband knew going into marriage that divorce was never an option for me. To us, its really "for better or worse..." - its a commitment before God and man. That means that we both constantly work at making our relationship work. It doesn't mean we don't have disagreements but we try not to let them become all out screaming arguments. We both feel it isn't healthy for us or our kids. Just for some background, we dated (off and on) for 10 years and have been married for 7.

Well most of the misunderstandings we have, or jokes, I was the one who tell him about getting separated. He really doesn't want that to happen at all,, and doesn't wanna talk about it sometimes. But we try to be open to each other as much as possible.

Well I just read this aloud and hubby said "I have to threaten it at least 1x a week or you don't to anything and I don't threaten the divorce I just threaten that I won't sign the papers lol" So that should give everyone an idea of how open it is around here. We don't talk about getting divorced we talk about what we will do after we are divorced. We always threaten very lovingly to kill the other person as soon as we get the life insurance policy on them. Come to think about it I need to get around to that lol. We are 23 first marriage for both. Our parents were 10. We have been together since January of 2003 and we have a 2ur old and a 10 month old and another one in October that hopefully will be a boy this time. We also always joke about the girlfriend or boyfriend that we have too. Our friends have finally gotten used to the joking around.