is this fair???

the way i see it is our mothers have raised us and loved us for however long we have been on this earth the least we can do it take care of them for whatever time they have left...how would you feel if you lost them?

spending time with my parents is really not an issue to me, i love spending time with them, specially with my mom, like walking at the mall, just talking about anything and everything under the sun, or watching tv together, spending time with her watching her favorite game, or accompanying her on her bingo games, i want to give them all my time whenever i can, coz u'll never know how much time left for you to be with them, i mean, they wont always be around, time will come that they will eventually leave us, so before that time comes, I want to make sure that i loved them and showed them how much i'm thankful for having them in my life... Life's shorter than u think, and people you love will not always be there, so always show how much you love them before it's too late...

Yeah..i do take care of my Mother n do spend time with her aslo..i love her very much....

"Honor thy parents" is not always feasible. My friend has her 86 year old mother living with her and her husband and 14 year old son. She is the youngest of 5 kids and nobody else will take care of "grandma". None of this would be bad at all, but grandma is awful. My friend can't leave the room w/out grandma wanting to know where she's going. If she is gone more than the 2 minutes grandma has alotted for a bathroom break, she comes looking for her. If my friend needs to go to the store, grandma calls around looking for her if she's gone too long and when she does come back, she is lectured and yelled at like a child. If my friend says something grandma doesn't like, she throws a tantrum like a spoiled child or she threatnes to hurt herself. If she gets a call, grandma has to know who it is and everything they wanted. My friend has to sit and watch T.V. all day with grandma until it's time for bed. My friend is in her 40's and is well capable of her own wellbeing, she doesn't need grandmas guilt for not being around when my friend was growing up. Grandma was always working or at a social event, so my friend was raised by nannies. Now that grandma is old, she has realized that she missed out and is now trying to make up for it by suffocating my friend. I can't go down the street and visit my friend hardly at all anymore because grandma has to be in on every detail of our conversations and sorry to say, not all of it is grandmas business, and I don't mind telling her that I wasn't speaking to her. I have the utmost respect for her. I treat her like my own grandma, but there are things I wouldn't tolerate from MY grandmother, I'm not going to tolerate it from someone else. You can't stand up to this woman and tell her to back off, she likes to bang her head with her hands and she says dreadful things. So you see, if your mom is tolerable or better, I say honor thy mom, but if she's off the hook, put her somewhere she can be taken care of. Always love her, no matter what.

i am taking care of my mother.but these day many of us forgot our responcibility towards our mother and father.