should i have a second child?

Let me start with the scientific point of view: a single child often has developmental problems, but only if the parents both work and do not spend quality time with the child. A second child helps in that they both learn together to share, communication with others and so on. Financially speaking: yes, it is more costly each year to raise a child. Having more than one child does not double the cost, but it does make a significant increase. You must keep this in mind regardless of how many children you choose to have, be it 1 or several. As for the old standard, "We are two, we should have two", with so many people having more than two children, this is no longer a guide to follow. There are more than enough people in the world as it is, ie: overpopulation. Personally, I think there are far too many people having far too many children. The earth is limited in resources and we are already using them at an alarming rate. But I digress, that is another topic altogether. As for your personal wishes, desires: it's up to you and your husband how many children you wish to have. Use your own judgement and I'm sure you will be happiest.

Decision shud be taken by u and ur hubby about this matter...but I suggest...2 kinds coz if u hv 2 kids...both will enjoy with each other one not feels lonely... 1 is also not bad....

Hi, U must have the second child. we must give them the benefit of experiencing Sibling Love & also rivalry. This makes them grow better. They must learn to give and share. They must learn to sacrifice and adjust. This is best learnt from siblings. If they are single, they will yearn for sibling love. After we depart, they must have some blood relative with whom they can confide, share and love.

Well I'll tell you about my experience. I had my son when I was 22. Now once he hit a year and a half everyone kept asking about number 2. I had been so sick with my first one I was afraid to have another one. So we kept putting it off. I think partly waiting for the perfect time which never really comes. Well it wasn't until my son was 7-8 that he kept asking for a brother or sister. I felt bad for him because he missed out on the normal sibling stuff. So finally when I was 30 I had my second child so they are 8 years apart. My second is a girl. She looks up to her brother and they have fun goofing around. I wouldn't give either one of them up for the world but all I can say is I'm so glad I had another one. Someday when I'm not around they will hopefully still have eachother. But you have to do what's right for you.

hai swasti you must want second child because that must give joyfull life for the child and for u so give birth to a girl child

If you do not feel comfortable with having another child yet - then dont. I think noone should have more childs than they are comfortable with. It is your choice, so do not listen to the people who feel that it is nescessary to have 2 children. Whetever you want to have 0 , 1 or 5 children that is completely your choice :)

You should have the second child two.It will help in keeping the balance of generation.As per family planning norms too " HUM DO HAMARE DO"( WE are two and we should have two).In adverse situation of life, second child might be helpful to you.Rest is as per your desire.Good luck.

your concern about the expenses is completely justified..a person does need to look into this..as regards feeling lonely is concerned ..i guess it also depends upon the kind of relationship a child has with his/her parents..sometimes your mom or your dad could be the best friend you have and you dont exactly feel lonely..also keep in mind the age differance between the two..the elder should be old enough to manage some of his things on his own but you need to be careful there isn't any jealousy for attention..after all this blah-blah..the final comment..i personally think 1 child is enough..you dont need to have a second if you don't want to..

i have 2 daughters... my first one is 10 and the second one is 6... i know that they have a big difference now, but i'm sure that when they will grow up they will become friends, as happened to me with my sister. i don't like just one child. he will grow up alone just with friends... but it is no the same as have a sister or brother!

i feel 2 kids would be nice.. & as far as expences are concerned.. as much as u provide it will never be enough .. and kids should grow learning to be happy with what they have ..i have a son 4 months now and i plan to have another child when he is arond 2 years

Yes you should go for the second one, having one child make your child alone and so strange to others. Every one says that you should have two childs and that is a universal truth, you don't have to think about expense on having second children just remember God is there and He'll never ever let His creation laid down! Hopefully, you'll have an baby now! I want to wish you very best of luck for your upcoming child. Have a verry good day! and happy earnings!

if u could still have at least one more baby after 2 yrs fromnow...go for it. i guess ur baby boy right now will soon needs a brother or a sister someday to play with.

You should do only what you feel. I have two big boys yet but some years ago they where little and it's was fantastic, we loved them then and we love thrm very much yet. Two of them are in good conection between them and with us. From mine poin of view how much is better.BUT it's all dependes on you and your husbend. Good luck....

i have 2kids now and if i wereyou, i think it depends if you have good jobsto support their future.why don't you andyour husband save up then when time comes you are ready to have another little one with you,then go.ifi may ask?how old is your child?when i hadmy first child, she asked if he could have a baby brother,she said she was sad she had no one to play with.it's may also be a good thing for your child so that she can have someone to play, and share stuff.just plan itso things will not be tough for you,good luck1

Why do you care what other people think? If you want one child then don't have any more. It is your choice, not theirs. That being said, I have 4 children and we are considering having one more. I could have never had just one. In the end kids don't really care how much money you spend on them. My kids' favorite toys are each other. There were times I took all their toys away and they didn't even care as long as they could play with each other. They are best friends and I wouldn't do it any other way.

It's really you decision whether you will have more than one kid in the family. Never mind the opinions of other people. If you feel that one kid is enough, then so be it. There is really no hard and fast rules as to how many kids we should have.

An only child is a lonely child. You think of it from your childs point of view. He wiil love to have a sibling. Tomorrow when we are not there in this world he will have someone to call his own, even if they are in different countries. I have 2 boys and it given me immense pleasure when I see them interacting and playing together.I went through this dilemma and today I am happy I went for a second child. Expenses are apart of life.

hi, Its always nice to have two kids whatever their sexes may be. Well I am a father of two beautiful kids. A girl and a boy. As for me I feel that both the children enjoy the company of each other. They dont feel bored as they have a lot to share among themselves.Yes its expensive but at the same time its a joy to see two little cuties coming up.Children bring joy to your lives thereby one forgets the expenses incured in the process.

hi,the motherhood is agood but great fealings,its atime for giving.i think you should have a second baby , they will play together , another one love you from his whole heart without waiting any thing from you , taking care of you when you be old.but you must teaching them how they love you , love each other through your love to them.

I know its difficult to survive with 2 childrens at presently but if we have one boy then in next must look for a girl bcoz girls give shape to the life of the parents.In the old age boys will not accept but the girls will look to their old parents. bcoz girls heart are soft