"I Love you! You are Perfect...Now Change."

Don't listen to your friends, take life seriously and aim for someone to build a home with and raise a family TOGETHER.

I think that a lot of the sore feelings between couples depends on the events before you ask them. Like with me and my husband, recently he's been really mean to me, spending a lot of time away from home working. I've been getting angry with him and if you were to ask me if there was love loss between us, I would say yes, just because I am upset with him. Though, if you asked me any other time, I would tell you that things are great and that we love each other almost as much as we did when we were dating. I think a lot of love in just the frame of mind you are in.

he he he, I have heard this millions of time. However I do belive that I personally would not marry anyone so fast that i didn´t let him see my flaws before. I had a relationship of 4 years before and we ended up not getting married *lucky me* And now i am going on a year with my new on and still not thinking of marriage. I belive that people get married to soon adn too easy these days!

there is no permanent thing in this world, but changes. you cant never have mr. right but instead you can have mr. maybe. You two have to work for a healthy and happy relationship. Just put god between the two of you to ask for his guidance, and he will surely will!

Love is about emotions and hormones. Marriage is about working and living together in a partnership. Definitely poles apart. Love can make you evaluate your lover as a marriage partner, but it can not 'fix all the problems'. Don't get me wrong, love can help make you more likely to try to come to a compromise on contentious issues but it will not make them magically disappear. Marriage takes work and it takes both parties working toward a common goal. Marriage is the every day living part of what started with a rush of blissful haze and thundering heartbeats. Once that first 'Blush of Love' has settled down you have to have common goals and interests and dreams to make staying together worth it. Remember, even the most common wedding ceremony in the US starts out with the statement that marriage is not to be rushed into, but is a step to be taken carefully, mindfully and with an accord of purpose between the couple. Love that burns bright and hot can cool and die. Marriage is a lot more difficult to 'fall out of'.

As they say, you will only know the real personality of a person when you live with him/her on the same roof. ^_^

It's the time frame in which u feel the change in the other person and not by way of formal or informal relationship.

when someone is loving everything seems to be perfect , but suddenly after marriage all changes. We would be seeing that everything starts to conflict. They lose the interest. But this can change if there is distance between them for a while. they would come to know about their love against each other.

I cannot agree with your sentiment more. When I was dating my husband, he never said a negative word. Was always loving, affectionate, and considerate. Now, he has nothing good to say. There is always something that I am not doing properly. Or something he doesnt like about my personality at any given time. He frequently tells me things about me he would like to be different, the very things that he considered "quirky" or "cute" and made me who I am when we were dating. So, yes, I definately think your title hits the nail on the head perfectly.

I have seen with most relationships, whether friends, lovers, work, clients or whatever, the more people get to know one another, the more they become themselves and their true collors are revealed. Before people get married they pretend a lot but then afterwards they are just themselves with their faults and the couple start to get irretated with the others little habbits. I think one should always be honost with your spouse to be and ask the same from them. Is it possible?

That depends. If you found yourself a spouse who expects things from you after the marriage, then, well, tough luck. That's exactly the point in being engaged before finally tying the knot. Marriage isn't something you rush into. It's something you prepare yourself for. When a person decides to get married, he has to start thinking not just about himself, but about his spouse-to-be, and future children, as well. He has to consider the simple fact that he would be sharing the rest of his life with ANOTHER PERSON. That's a whole lot to be ready for. And unless he is ready and open enough to ACCEPT this fact, it would be best not to rush into marriage.

you love a person by who he/she is. telling him to change is more of loving yourself than loving hi/her because you are setting standards the he/she is not.

I have been married for a lot of years and I can only speak for myself, but I think many people set unrealistic expectations for marriage and then find themselves dissapointed later in life. You both are individuals who have changing tastes. The things you like at 20 may not be the same at 30 or 40 and so on. That doesn't mean you should wake up the next day to a complete stranger. Experts will tell you communication is the key and anyone who has been married for a long time would probably agree. Its a give and take. Be upfront and honest from the start way before you ever get married. Talk about things that you are not willing to compromise on and be honest if your relationship won't work because of this before you ever get married. Other things that come along you just have to work through them. This is something that couples don't want to do. They want to stay on the honeymoon. Marriage requires commitment. If you marry the right person from the start it is heaven, even in the bad times. I understand that some marriages just don't work out and are not healthy for either partner, but I think a lot of those who give up, may just don't want the incovenience of working on a life long commitment.

the problem is this: most people love others for how they feel around the person not who the person is. this results in the person, once they are married letting their guard down and not always trying to make the other so happy that the other one feels like they never knew them in the first place and consistently want them to change. So, if you really love someone for who they are and accept they dont always make you feel 100% wonderful and they accept that about you then you have a much larger chance of staying together happily. I also think that before, it was unacceptable to divorce, you just worked on it until it worked. And now people are always looking for whats better and are willing to divorce for practically no reason. Just my opinion.

Well, I guess before you get married you have to know the bad habits of your partner. I am still single but in a relationship but as of now, I still obeserve the actions of my partner, his habits, in eating, if there are vices, etc.

smilingurvashi you write too good but as i know that the life of love is based on u that how much u gave happiness to your partener because there are soo much lesser persons who give only love to your partner dont think that how much he/she loves you but see that how much you give love to your partner.. ok my dear...

i would have to disagree with this. i love everything about my partner, we have been together for over 20 months now. dont get me wrong we are still learning funny little quirks about each other but that is why i love him so much. he makes me feel loved, cared for and he makes me laugh...what more could a girl want? plus hes gorgeous

Marriage is short of compromise ,, before marraige there are so many expectation ,, where as after it become reality ,, so many things changed .. therefore ,, what is needed is said

The highest form of love is when you love the other person not "if", not "because", but "despite." This is indeed very difficult to achieve but this is what married couples must aim for. It is inevitable that more and more flaws will arise with time. We cannot really change other people. We can only change ourselves and how we see or appreciate them.

It's not a complaint, but it's how one person see the other person. Everyone have different views. It's time to look at how each and every one are responsible for anything and everything that is happening around them.