PSEUDO Relationships (Are you in it?)
By Golbatorix
@Golbatorix (157)
Philippines
February 18, 2007 6:43pm CST
Pseudo Relationships are relationship similar to the thing that we call " More than Friends but Less than Lovers ". These are relationships that are not really formal but both parties have some sort of affection to each other but it is often considered as a Fling or sometimes looked as Mutual Understandings.
A pseudo relationship would sometimes happen into a stage where you recently lost a special someone and after the heartache you were able to get attention that you were looking for from a person that might also have mutual feelings for you.As the process goes on you fell that you are with that person and presume that you have the relationship that you lost but in reality it is just a presumption but basing from your acts and gestures it seems that you are really lovers but not. Its complicated right?
So have you ever been unto a pseudo-relatioship?
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6 responses
@funnysis (2619)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I have and it is easier said that you are with someone who has the same feelings as you but neither of you want to commit at this point and may never want to but you have a love for each other that brings you close so you can make love as friends and it not be misconstrude by either person.Good luck in your answers it is a very good question.
@patootie (3592)
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21 Feb 07
I hardly know how to reply to your question .. I've never heard of pseudo relationships .. and I'm sure .. or at least I'm fairly sure I've never been in one ..
Up until the point you called it a 'fling' I was starting to nod in agreement .. but then .. nope .. bothing like that ..
I do have a very good friend .. but it's 100% platonic, always has been and always will be .. I don't think I have ever 'fancied' him in any way .. maybe I am being naive .. but I can't think of a time when I've ever had any kind of relationship that would fit the description you give ..
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
19 Feb 07
Yes I did have a pseudo-relationship with a gentleman, this was when my first marriage broke up due to he knew what kind of woman I had been and to my children and he felt sorry for me for what I was going through as my ex husband had been playing around on me this man knew about it but did not interfere at the time due to me having children and did not want to say anything. So when I was left alone with my children this particular man came into my life as a bit closer than a friend and would give to my children love and time and take them to the park so I could have a rest from my children, and also he would come in and we would have a talk watch television and cook together then he would go home we are still friends today but nothing eventuated from it into some more.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
I've never had the experience of having that kind of relationship but i've seen many cases like that. I've seen many that have failed and the thing is most of the women are at a lost when thing does not succeed. I observed that men can easily get out of it but women do have a hard time recouping from it. I guess if you're a woman its still better that men commit to you since you women are more emotional and needs emotional security. As for men that kind of relationship is kinda convenientfor us men since we could become more flexible since we're not that committed. So I guess its much better to be in a traditional relationship than this.
@alantae (243)
• United States
19 Feb 07
Yeah I'd say I have. Those relationships where you can tell that both parties are interested and that the feelings of more than just friends are there, but you don't want to say anything for fear of messing it up? For sure. They get kind of complicated though because eventually you reach that point where you either take the next step or just stop being close friends (well, in my experience at least).
