To Spy or Not To Spy....

Spying as in following your partner wherever he went? I do trust my husband even though I always stay at home and him, going to office, out with friends. I trust him because I know I am more than those friends he has, hahaha. They say I am more attractive than those girls around him. It would be a biggest mistake for him to leave us with, hahaha. I do check his cellphone because it is mine although he owns the sim card but I own the fone. I want to check his email too but I don't know his password so leave it all to him.

Yes you half to learn to trust your love one, but Let me tell your some men you can't trust. those are the ones that Womanizers. You know if you can trust the person you are with. you know automatically. because you know what kind of person he is, or she is. you agree?

I hate to disappoint you. But that is not a reason why my husband and I fight at all. We have no issues with trust. We have been together to long for that. The common issues we have is money and fighting about the kids. On which way we are going to parent them.

in a relationship, no one speaks louder than your own intuition, woman's intuition,if you feel and sense something wrong, then you have to investigate. if there is changes with your partner, doing things he never done before,like for instance he lies to you of his whereabouts. you should be vigilant on everything, before it's too late..

Well i know my wife is faithful. Although if i didn't. i doubt i would spy on her as i think this is wrong for whatever reason and in most cases you end up hurting yourself more. i suspected that my wife was cheating i'd talk to her calmly about my worries and listen to what she has to say. I know we can get swept into this sorta thing, but those who do it will probably get paranoid and start spying on future boy friends. Just my take.. Kudos! ~Joey

u cant "tell" ull just rather feel it... u have ur instincts anyway.... in a relationship a trust should not be an issue... and if you think or you know that your partner cheats? well as for me.. even if its hurts i wouldnt waste my time on her/him..why?...i want a relationship where both of you have "peace of mind"... i dont wanna stay in a relationship full of doubt and hoping that your the only "girlfriend/boyfriend"?.... (im sleepy right now i wanna make it short base on my experience and observations...) if this happend to anyone pleaseeee!! dont be stupid! your already stupid by sticking yourself in a "uncomfortable relationship" breath!! you deserve much better... "a person can tell you all by looking at his face and eyes..." all the contentment,hapiness and the love that u deserve.. hes/shes out there for you...amen!

This is the issue that my wife and I seldom face. Even before we got married, she always have this looming doubt and distrust towards me. She sometimes prefer to listen first to humors or gossips from other people than my explanations and reasonings. I always find myself on the defense. Whenever we have an issue, I always feel the accused, defending myself from her continuous barrage of questions regarding this, regarding that, etc. Well, she admitted that she's a very jealous person but isn't it enough reason to trust me by understanding/looking back at the things that I have done to her and her family? No words can express how she means to me and yet a slight change in the wind may cause her to crank up and doubt me again. It's just painful on my part that I have already committed myself to her and have done many things for our relationship to grow. There were times that I considered asking for a professional help like a psychologist or seek counseling but something in me told me that we can still manage to make it through. We can still make it work. I have alot of patience but I admit she's really testing my patience. And she's quite unfair too. I have never inspected her cellphone nor look at her emails because its not my nature to doubt my wife and doubting for me is a sign of distrust. But she, I guess she did it to me. I think many times now. Of course she wont admit it but I noticed there are certain cellphone numbers and messages removed in my cellphone. Now that we're married, I noticed that the jealousy on her subsided a bit. That's a good thing indeed. Maybe because we have other issues at hand like raising a family, looking for a place to live, etc so perhaps she got too occupied with these other matters. Ah this is the life. You can never be too up in a pure bliss nor sometimes you're down and under.

I think spying is only worth it if you are a foreigner and that you are far away from your gf/bf. Like what is very rampant nowadays online. Filipinas have American bfs online. I think it would be best for the foreigners to have background check for their filipina before coming down here in the Philippines. It's only fair and cheaper that way. I have heard a lot of sad stories that many filipinas are actually married or single parents but didn't tell their bf online about it. I would spy my bf/huband if I needed too. I don't have bf and husband yet though hehehe. that is in the future if I needed too ok?

Trust is something all relationships will have to stand the test of time, that includes friendships. I don't think we can really know if our partner is being faithful. Some people will act conspicuously and we suspect they're hiding something. While others can be cheating and not even show it at all so we never get to find out. I think that when you start a relationship the best thing to do is to be open and honest to each other. You should tell him/her that if they want to be in an open relationship, that you are either the sort who would go for it or the sort who wouldn't. I don't believe in spying, I think everyone including individuals in a relationship have their right to privacy. Spying is just absolutely wrong! In a world like today where everyone is just open and where everyone knows that no question has a definite answer I'd say that the best thing to do is act suspicious yourself. That will get your partner worried. If you both are worried about one another then the relationship is obviously problematic.