What are/were your grandparents like?

@dmillman (2273)
United States
February 19, 2007 1:35pm CST
Well, now that most of my grandparents are deceased, I thought it would be interesting to hear about other peoples' grandparents. What do you remember the most about them? What are/were their characteristic/traits? What do/did they do for fun? Do you remember any of their stories from when you were a child? My Grandpa (paternal grandfather) was the first grandparent of mine to die. It was the first time anyone in my family (besides distant realtives) had passed away. I was in high school when it happened. I think it made for an impressionable memory because it was the first death I had to deal with and I was in hig school at the time. I didn't think I'd cry at the wake/funeral because I didn't really see them often. But I did cry. The thing I remember the most about him is when Nana and Grandpa use to visit us a lot when we were young and always brought us chocolate, or other candy and my mom would get mad. My Grampy (my maternal grandfather) died 1-2 years ago. He'd been sick for a while and then he just died. His body was so septic that no medical school would take it (that was his request). His next request was to be cremated and have his ashes in the ocean (went to the ocean jsut about every weeken to fish when he was younger, and still did it ocassionally as he got older.)I can remember the day I got the phone call......They had a memorial service for him at church, and again, I didn't expect to cry but did. He was a grumpy old man. We called him Grumpy instead of Grampy (not to his face of course. The fishing is what I remembered the most about him, and all the games he and my grandmother would teach us when we were younger. My Grammy (maternal grandmother) died from ovarian cancer in January, 2007. I was at her side, holding her hand when she died. I only cried earlier when the hospice nurse told us she was going to pass soon. I cried a little bit later. Then I had a good cry the next day. I remember a lot about her. She was a nice lady who could get along with anyone. She would take us places and play with us. She always crocheted or knitted something for us. She was just a neat lady. When I became one of her primary caregivers, I used the advice the nursing from the nursing home where I used to work had told me "don't get emotionally involved when caring for someone you love, that's when misjudgements happed and mistakes get made." It was sad to see her declining. I think I didn't cry right when she passed because she looked so peaceful and I knew that she wouldn't be in pain anymore. I still think about her a lot, as I've 'inhereted' so of her things. My Nana (paternal grandmother) is the only one left. She's this short, pudgy German lady with an accent that reminds you of Dr. Ruth Westmeimer (sp?) and it made you laugh the way she pronounced certain things. I remember the same things about her as I do my Grandpa. Last I heard, she was doing well, but I haven't figured out what it is that's exactly wrong with her, but I will. Well, that's my grandparents. Why don't you tell me about yours?
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@DRoddy77 (1776)
• United States
19 Feb 07
The only grandparent Ive known is my maternal grandmother. Next month she will be 94 years old. She has always been very active. While I was growing up she was in her 70's but she was still always out working in her garden or doing other chores around the house. Three years ago she moved into an assisted living home but she is still pretty independent. When I had my first son, my mom brought her up to the hospital and my mom told me that my grandmother told her, "I never thought I'd live to see the day that she graduated high school..but i did. Then I never thought I would live to see her be married..but I did. Then I never thought Id see her have a child, but now I have seen everything!" and had tears in her eyes! Even though my children are still small they love her so much! I know her time here is short and I'm going to be devastated when she is gone!
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
19 Feb 07
WOW, that's a very nice and toucing story. Thank you fro sharing it with us.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
22 Feb 07
UPDATE: I just found a photo of my recently deceased grandmother, and she looked so happy, free, vibrant, alive. That's the way that I want to remember her - smiling, having fun, enjoying herself, not the way she was when she had the hearing loss and eye loss, and then the rapid deterioration. I think I'm going to do something special with that picture - I just don't know what.
@monalizra (219)
• Romania
20 Feb 07
they were the most kind and lovable people on earth... they treated me realy nice. unfortunatly just my grandmothers are alive now, but i have nothing to say about them but good words too. they are both great!
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
That's nice that you have them still around. I hope that you will visit them often to make more memories and remember the ones you've already got. Thanks.
• India
20 Feb 07
My grandfather passed away last year.He was a freedom fighter and an advocate he was 85 year old and he used to work at that age.He never depended on others.He is the inspiration to me and my cousins.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Thank you for your story.
@Deane_2005 (1644)
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
I would gladly say that my Grandmother is very cool. She used to give me money at time when I had no work. She was very cool , always on the go and she always accompany me wherever she goes. But right now she is extremely sick .She is just waiting for her time. I wish for her to be well so I could always be with her. I love my grandmother so much more than I love my parents. I think she is the best grandmother and mother at the same time.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
If that's the case, then I hope you spend as much time with her as you can. It will make all the difference once she's passed on. It will be good for the both of you too.
@dubaimt (273)
• United Arab Emirates
20 Feb 07
i met both my granddads and still have one grandmom waiting for me back home... my granddad passed away a few months before me leaving for another country and it is so sad that i wasnt able to give him the good news. i cried a lot when the news got me because i was really planning of visiting them as i havent met them for some months due to work... and how regretful i was because i stalled time to visit them. my granddad is soo sweet.. he would always kiss me and hug me when i go their place and ask when i will be going to get married and when will i go out of the country. he is a good educator, a smooth tempered person -- just like my dad-- who will put everything in order. my other granddad is just the same.. he likes to give me all the candies i can get when i was a child even if mom doesnt want it. he would pamper me and spoil me a lot. i miss them both. but now that they are my angels up there watching out for me,i am thankful. i am now giving time to my grandmom who is still alive and hoping that i will not have the same regrets again.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Thanks for your story. Sometimes you only learn the hard way. At least you learned, and you're now spending time with her. I'm sure that she enjoys it too. Might as well get as many memories as you can. I bet you she could tell you some interesting things about your father, maybe even you when you were younger. That's the stuff that they usually like to talk about, and it's good stuff for you to learn while she's here. You'll both benefit from it.
@momyof2 (55)
• United States
20 Feb 07
My grandmother is an angel. Always was in my eyes. My grandfather is a very confrontational man. Who always fought with her, cheated on her, and still belittles her in front of people. Its been more the 50 years and they are still together. Not that, that is a good thing. But in her country (Cuba) that long ago, it was said if you married someone you had to stay with them. After all those years, you would think she became a bitter and mean lady, But not her. She is kind, generous, and has a wonderful heart. That is why I admire her. For her patience and strong will to make the best of a hard life.
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
well i have good memories about my grandparents, they love us so much,and even spoiled us. truly grandparents deserved to be loved, as they give their all to their grandchildren. love you lolos and lolas
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@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
• India
20 Feb 07
My granny passed away last November. What was in her mind till her final day was to see me prosper in my life. Her love for me was the one i felt most when i lost her.
@dmillman (2273)
• United States
20 Feb 07
What about your other grandparents? Just curious, since you didn't mention them.
• United States
20 Feb 07
My mother was young when she go married. She didn't get to see the world yet, so I was mostly raised by my grandparents. They helped me out thru some hard times when I was growing up. When they passed away it took me along time to get over them and I think about them every day.
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@besthope44 (12123)
• India
21 Aug 10
I love my grandma, she is very loving and caring! She tells me all stories and make me sweets.