Would you do this to your kid?

Wow. That's lame. I'm eighteen and I still live at home. My parents don't really have "rules" for me. I'm not that much of a rebel. But whenever I do go somewhere, I call my mom to let her know where I'm at. I'd actually like her to know in case there's an emergency and she needs to know where I am. But I know she could never pack my bags and drop me at some guy's house.

no i wouldn't if she was 18, after all they to can make descisions and rules as there adults! i think the dad was overreacting a bit, i understand why he was worried because for all he knew something could of happened to her if she didn't even cal them or anything! i don't think that was aceptable either the way he packed her bag and left her at that guy's house, but then again he has strict rules, nobody can do anything about that and the young girl knew what her father is like! i feel sorry in a way for her tho, i wouldn't have rules like that, id give her another chance if i were the father!

I'm not sure if I would have went that far. I mean he could have given her another chance. My middle sister is 25 and still lives and home. My parents expect her to abide by their rules too..I think that's fair because she doesn't pay any rent (and she has a very well paying job). But I don't think that my parents would ever kick her out though..

Oh my gosh thats a little tense. I wouldn't do that to my kid if I did have kids. If he really cared for her by puting such high sandards for her, then he wouldn't have done something like that. it sounds to me like he disowned her. I don't see how the mom of that family would allow that to happen either. I don't think thats is the best way of punishment.

I can understand where this guy is coming from. Rules are there for a reason, and if she knew the rules she should have enough respect for her parents not to break the rules. On the other hand, I could not do this to my child no matter what the age.

No I wouldn't - especially as by the sounds of this it's only the first time she'd done it. I can slightly understand if it was a constant thing ... but this is ridiculous. Personally i think the dad has the problem - i don't see how you can just throw away a relationship with your child over just one mistake. I really feel sorry for the daughter - I would hate to lose my dad over something so trivial.

Well, on the one hand, that's a bit over the top. On the other hand, her parents were entitled to a phone call saying where she was.

When I turned 18 and still lived at home, my father made sure I knew the rules and what happened if I didn't abide by them. The rule was it was his house and I lived there if I respected that - came home before 10pm on weeknights (uless I was working late), called if I was going to be late or not come home at all, the usualy stuff... If I broke the rules, I was expected to move out. When my kids were 18, they got the same treatment, kinda the same rules. My youngest didn't want to live by my rules and I kicked him out - he joined the Navy and I think that was a wise choice for him. My oldest is still at home, taking a few classes at college, but pretty much comes and goes as he pleases. He makes sure he doesn't wake us when he comes home late or leaves early, so it works out pretty well. There are other rules that I wont tolerate and he knows the boundaries.

I think that leaving her there and never speaking to her is a bit extreme. However, in defense of the parents she was well aware of what the rules were and she should have called. They should have told her the consequences beforehand however, I think that if she thought for one second her father would never speak to her again or that she'd be kicked out she wouldn't have done such a thing.

ouch... that's drastic. I can positivly say that I wouldn't do that to my daughter. When I read the first couple of lines before I opened this topic I thought you were going to go on and say that at 18 if a kid is still living at home they either a) have to be in school or b) get a job which I do agree with but wow.. your post blew me away. I can't believe that the dad did that. He has probably forever ruined his relationship with his daughter. Was she warned that she'd have to move out simply for staying out one night. I think that's totally unfair. Granted I wouldn't be happy if my child pulled something like that but wow...

sounds like tough love but at least if they let her home (I feel they will)she knows they mean what they say kids today have it to easy i think!

Wow, thats really a little harsh! I couldn't do that to my daughter. No matter what. As a parent its our job to support our kids and not take such drastic measures whenever they make mistakes. We all make mistakes and punishing us for them isn't the answer nor will it solve the situation. I do hope that your friends and their daughter will eventually be able to sort this out. That girl no matter how angry she might be at her dad, must be pining for him deep down inside. I'm glad that her mother still talks to her though - at least she has support from one parental unit and she isn't totally alone. Maybe the girls mom would try and talk to her husband to try and make amends with him and his daughter somehow? Sadly, this situation does occur sometimes when standards have been set so high.

My god! No way! That is so unfair! Ok, now that I finished my little teenager rant. (I am 19 and still living at home while going to college, sad I know). I can understand having high standards, and can actually understand the parents setting some ground rules for their teenager. The fact is, she was living under there roof and there should be some basic rules. However, he should not have kicked her out! You can't really punish a kid over 18 I guess, (unless they rely on the parent for money, or the car etc.), but he still should have handled it differently!

Yes rules are rules, but being a parent also involves being flexible. Instead he should have made the point to his of age daughter what it did to the parents when they didnt hear from her and how worried they were for her. Maybe a slight lecture and some rules guidlines on if you arent coming home, please call by a certain time at night to inform us, so we wont worry. Again this would be common sense. I have two kids and im very lenient with them, but they know the rules, and they also knwo i wont overreact.

This does sound a little drastic, but I would be a little upset too if my daughter spent all night at some guys house without even calling. I'm 24 and I still let my parents know where I am goin and who I am going to be with (I go to college)

Never. I would neither do this to my son. This man sounds like someone who does not think before he does or says stuff. And further, how did you find out about this happening? Her mother cannot possibly be ok with this. Was it her who told you, or was it he who told you, with an air of haughtiness, that he had done this to her? With all the crap going on out in this great big world, one would assume that a father would not have been so eager to send his too-young daughter out into the cold, mean world simply to prove his point. It is probably only a game to him and he is probably one of those men who is waiting to see what kind of psychological nonsensical game he can win at with his daughter to "teach her a lesson." Now, what the funniest thing would be is if the daughter decided that she had finally had enough of daddy's mindf*ck that she would stick it to him good and actually be able to make it on her own without him there to tell her all the horrible things I am positive that this creep has told her for the bulk of her young life. Do I think that she had the right to stay out all night and not call? No way. Do I think that the punishment fits the crime? No, I do not, and I am feeling it in my soul that this is a father who felt he needed to do something for her own good all while knowing that she is 18 and it is his right to turn her room into his den. See where I am going with this? What a creep

I wouldn't kick my daughter out of home for this but I would enforce my rules. I agree that as long as a child is under your roof they should abide by your rules but in saying I think those rules should also take into consideration the child's age.I guess the father was really stressed that something had happened to her and i know how worry can make you think all sorts of things. His overall reaction was very extreme and I think he may regret it later on.

Wow that seems a bit over the top. At 18 she's an adult but she should have to courtesy to say she's going to be late or not coming home at all till the next day, parents worry, that's what they're supposed to do. There needs to be give and take though. If you're saying his wife had a kid when she was 13 it seems he's worried his daughter is going to end up pregnant but hey, she's way past 13 now, sounds he has more issues with his wife and is taking it out on the daughter. I don't have kids but I know many people my age who have teenage daughters and they don't behave like this man. If you show your kids you have trust in them, they're more likely to prove that they're trustworthy. What he's done is lose his daughter completely which is his loss and he's trying to punish her. I guess he'll eventually come around unless he was looking for an excuse to drive her out of the house as he didn't want to keep her anymore...!

Well I don't know how the father feels about it. Putting my self in his shoes, well maybe I will be angry of course but giving up her child just like that is really not good. He did not gave a chance for her to explain why she is in that guy's house. Well parents have different opinions on giving discipline to their kids but that is ridiculous of him to just give up her daughter just like that. Angry and fury will just take their place to both of them. I will still have to keep my daughter if I were him.

Wow that is drastic. I am 17, nearly 18, but would never think that my parents were that strict. I think that's a bit over the top, maybe she should have asked beforehand, but I could understand why she wouldn't because of the strict rules. I think a bit of talking is on the agenda.