Do you agree with brides wearing white that aren't virgins?
By SKLC_PT
@SKLC_PT (1234)
9 responses
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I agree with wearing white, even if the bride isn't a virgin. It can alos represent purity of intent and the beginning of a new life. I think that putting apremium on virginity leaves women still acting as the property of males. Those days are over, so meanings can change.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
I aggree 100% with you on that one! For me it symbolizes the beginning of a new life and for me it was a double whammy. Reason being that when I walked down the aisle I was 6 months pregnant. So their is no way I was a virgin on my wedding day lol. I was showing bigtime so everyone could tell.
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@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
20 Feb 07
It depends on whether you're religious or not. The white=purity idea is a religious thing. If you believe in it, follow it. Personally, I plan on wearing a white dress because that's what I want to do. It has nothing to do with whether or not I'm a virgin.
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
20 Feb 07
In this day and age I don't think it really matters anymore. I've seen very pregnant brides wearing white, and white worn by brides on their second (and even third)marriages. White used to be symbolic of virginity, but it also meant the person was pure, and not in the virginity sense of the word pure. I think if a bride wants to wear white it's her choice, and she should hold her head high and not let out moded, old fashioned, conventions bother her in the least.
@SKLC_PT (1234)
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20 Feb 07
I must say I agree with what everyone has said so far, I also think they should be able to wear the color they want, after all it is their special day not anyone else's. Here people get judged a lot and especially the elderly ladies would make it their jobs to speak bad about her to whoever they could if they knew she wasn't a virgin and yet used white. It's a pity on how some people are but I guess that's how they were brought up and don't know any better.
@theproperator (2429)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I don't really care. I think we are past the era where a bride was expected to be a virgin on the wedding night, or making her wear a red "A" if she is not. I don't think it really raises eyebrows much anymore. White is now mostly a traditional color of wedding dress, we know what it used to mean, but acknowledge that the bride is not really making a statement to the state of her sexuality anymore.
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@LindaLou (483)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
I think that a bride should wear whatever makes her happiest, no matter what colour it is and should not worry about the judgments of small-minded people who are bound by the limitations of superstition and the illusion of moralistic superiority.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
Very good point, afterall it is the brides day so whatever makes her most comfortable she should go with it =)
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@mememama (3076)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I could care less. I think it is an outdated custom here in America, not sure everywhere else. I doubt that anyone at my wedding (I wasn't a virgin lol) cared either that I wore white, it's just a dress! I think they were just grateful that I was the first woman in my generation of family that married without having a kid or being pregnant in the wedding!
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@Dara_momto4 (842)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I honestly feel that a bride can wear whatever color/style dress she wants to. It's her day and she should feel beautiful in her dress, whatever the color may be. I do understand certain religions and cultures have set ideas about the dress color-whatever works for you, not a big deal.
I wore a white dress and I was almost 6 months pregnant. :)
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@Dara_momto4 (842)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I didn't hear any critisism, but even if I did it wouldn't have bothered me.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
Soooooo true. When I was a kid the average age of losing your virginity was 17 and now it's 13. So yes, I highly doubt people getting married now a days are virgins. Aggree with you on this one, even though I thinks its sad that people are "losing it" so early and easily.
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