Privacy in a relationship

i use the computer everyday, and i guess if my husband wanted to look at where i've been, i wouldn't care. I don't go anywhere that would make him wonder. If you have things on your computer that you don't want him to see, I would wonder why? Privacy is one thing, but when your on the internet, you can not be private. Not only can your partner see where you've been, but perfect strangers can also! you should keep your private thoughts somewhere else maybe.

i am in a relationship, and i still put some privacy on some things. privacy comes when i have to hang out with my friends, i let him not to stay around because i know that some of my friends are not comfortable and he also agreed that there are still some things that we should do individually, like decision making for our career and personal matter that doesn't involve the relationship. but when it comes on sharing things like computer or whether personal things like my own cellualr phone, we let each other read them or scan them through because we know for a fact that we have nothing to hide, and it doesn't irritate me at all because it is a way of building trust with your partner.

In a sense one doesn't really have that much privacy when in a relationship. And when two share the same computer, well sometimes by chance things are gonna be seen even if you don't want them to be, that's why you shouldn't be doing things that you would prefer to keep secret from your other half. Now if you had your own computer than I would say he/she had no right getting on it without your permission, but when sharing you also have to think about who else is gonna be seeing what you are doing. Anyways I don't think it's really right to be keeping secrets when in a relationship, but to each his/her own.

I guess when in a relationship you should understand that your relationship is establish based on trust. You should always consider that privacy is not an option in it. You should be as transparent as you can be. Privacy can only be applied for those people that has no relations to you. So if sharing computer and the likes it is neccessary for your partner to know what you're doing. I guess the only thing that you could find privacy in a relationship is when you are in toilet room. I guess nobody will bother you there.

In a good relationship, there is boundries. It comes naturally. I would never read my husbands emails unless he asked me too, I expect the same respect from him. If you have trust issues, you should rethink the relationship.

My husband and I share a comp at the moment, And we don't read each other's emails. We don't log in under each other's names. In fact, if one of us has left our email or myspace open, we minimize or close the page out. It's a respect thing. We feel that that is private and as we trust one another, there is no need to go snooping through the others personal stuff like that.

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if im in a monogamous relationship, i still want my privacy. it's not like i have anything serious to hide, but i'd prefer if my conversations online or email or letters were kept private. i dont understand some couples who exchange passwords and stuff. i would never do that with my significant other. its not that i dont trust him, but i just want my own personal stuff that only i have access to. he has no reason to go through my personal things. if he has a question about my life, he can just ask me instead of snooping.

How much is depends on each person. Its okay for me when my girlfriend read my messages in mobile phone but it doesn't mean that I will do the same thing. Same thing with my family. The important thing is we should ask permission.

I think all people are researved top privacy in a relationship. If you love someone you should tell them as much as possible of yourself but everyone needs things just for themselves

Can't count how much privacy does one need in a relationship, but we needs...that's sure. I don't like at all to search through my stuff,read what I've wrote n always be with me. I (I think everybody)needs some room.

yes its very much essential,we shud provide enuf elbow space to our mate but sharing things shud be always mutual it shud be forced or made compulsory one shud practice this only if both are comfortable.

I guess I don't need any privacy because I don't mind if my husband want to read my posts, emails, or blogs. I have nothing to hide, in fact I usually share what I have posted with him anyway.

I also think that everyones relationship should be open and you should not keep secrets. If you are hiding stuff from your partner and they find out later they will be upset and it will cause the relationship to go downhill. Honesty is the only way to go i think and you should be very open with each other.

If you share a computer you should have private stuff. Unless the other person has reason to think you are cheating or doing something you shouldn't be doing. Then I would and have snooped. I read a few emails and I didn't understand what was going on so I let them go. Otherwise you shouldn't snoop, you might find something you didn't want to know.

I have trust issues and not just with the one I am with but with all men in general, therefore I have gone to places I shouldn't and read things I shouldn't have, I admit my guilt and I know I shouldn't do it but then again what I read should not upset me. I caught my last husband cheating on me by reading his mail, I think if you are curious there is a reason and you should go to any length to find out if it is true. Bad as it may be that is me.

I think everyone should have some privacy but having said that if your spouse has good reasons to have trust issues with you then maybe you need to be an open book for awhile. I wouldn't want anyone going through my stuff and seeing my emails when they are personal. But one thing Dr. Phil always says is if you are fooling around on your spouse or there is reason for them to believe you are then to build that trust again you have to be an open book.

In relationship privacy is the most important thing. someone says that is important to telle the truth, and it's real, but I think privacy is what make special a relation. When you cure a relation you have to play with your partner and use privacy as much as you want to close you relation. But it's also fun to take back something only for you, something nobody will know. Only when it'll be important you will share your privacy with your partner. It's a secret that you have to take back or share.

Well, I share the computer with my partner and we have absolutely nothing to hide from each other as far as that goes. We both have our own blog sites, and we read each others every day. We have permission to check each others email accounts - especially if one of us is expecting an important email and can't be there to get it, we even know the password and account number for each others online bank account. Myself and my partner trust each other implicitly and so it's not about "finding dirt" so to speak. We just know that we don't have any secrets from each other. My ex on the other hand was obsessed with finding dirt. He'd try and get into my email account without permission and he'd get real annoyed when he realized I'd changed my password. I'd end up having to change my password at least three times a week in case he figured it out. He probably never would have done, but he tried to get in so often that it made me paranoid. He wouldn't have found anything if he had gotten in, but the fact that I didn't give him the permission to do so made it all the more important that he didn't get in. He became convinced I was hiding something from him. I finally broke it off after four and a half years. I couldn't take it any more.

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