Self Conscious About Writing

You are mistaking your need for privacy with being self concious!! My boyfriend and I have SEPARATE rooms. We share a bedroom, but we don't share a computer room. I have my laptop in the bedroom, and he has his desktop in the computer room. When we are on the computer, we leave eachother alone. Neither one of us can write with an auridnce. We are HAPPY and WILLING to share the FINISHED product, but while we are creating, we need to be alone. Again, this is not self conciousness, this is a natural need for privacy, and those around us need to respect that, as we would respect that need of those around us to have privacy while they are being creative. My boyfriend used to share the computer room with his friend who lived here, before she passed away, and he'd tell me of times when he'd have an audience. I promised him I'd NEVER do that. Also, to his advantage, I'm legally blond, and CAN'T read over his shoulder. LOL

I'm the same way, so don't feel bad. I'm really not sure how to get over it. I just try to distract myself with something else when they are reading what I've written. I just try not to let it bother me. I'm just paranoid that they'll hate my stuff. I don't see any way around that.

You are right! I might be self-conscious but I wouldn't hate if somebody is reading (that is, only things I would want them to read!) what I have wrote but then while I am writing I need to be left alone. With somebody or the other by my side I cannot possibly concentrate!! You should possibly let others read it, if they have to comment on it, improve on it.

i have the same problem. i simply hate when i have people breathing down my neck. i feel like i have to watch out for every word i add because it might displease, upset or offend them. so i resort to using pseudonyms. and when i write, i consider it a deeply personal business so the less people who know about it, the better i feel. i've also been known to hoard the stuff i've been writing. it usually takes people years to realize that i've written something

well writing is an expression of ones self i would like to think so if u r ashamed of what u write then u have something in your-self all u have to know is what u r writing is the right thing for u and mayb not anyone else, and if they do ask a question then dont worry about it just back it up dont get so nervous.

don't feel bad or when I say this, but this is such a big problem that it is almost normal... It sounds like you suffer from anxiety, and low self esteem... try looking up some symtems.. you will feel much better and live a happier more out going life if the problem is fixed... if you havde it of course... it does not make you "not normal either"

I find it somewhat disconcerting and discombobulating to have someone standing right behind me when I am trying to send an email or a message to Mylot. It interferes with my thought process. I do appreciate it though when my wife walks over before I send my message and corrects my spelling and grammatical mistakes. I just want her to wait until I am through writing my message before she comes over and reads it.

I've felt that way too, like when my fiance tries to read over my shoulder as I review something. Really, I want my friends and family to read, but at the same time I have this feeling they are going to really understand it. Like they may read it then wonder why I wasted my time doing it. At least when people online read my reviews and such, they are actively seeking out reviews to read. But if you ask someone to read it who has no interest in that sort of thing, you might get nervous about their reactions. The best way to stop being so self conscious is just to let them read it if they want to, but don't push the issue if they don't seem interested in reading it.

me too is ver conscious. I don't let anyone read it. I'm afraid that they will gonna laugh because it has wrong grammar or wrong spelling. I used to be myself in my room. I will not let them see that I am writing. That's one way I can get rid of them. After I have written, I will gonna hide it where they will not see. It's important to have privacy. I can't think well if they are looking what I wrote.

i hate people watching me when i write, thats why now i have the computer in my room.and when my boyfriend is round or any one is about up i always hide the page so they cant see what im typing or doing, sum people are just nosey

I love it when they read what I write.. but not while im writting it. That just serves as a distraction. While your attempting to get ma stuff togeta.. here you have someone scroungin' thru stuff that is not set in stone yet.. it frustrates me. Yet, I am glad that they care enought to want to read it.. that, or they are just nosy :/

i also don't like it when people crowd around me when i am writing. i actually want a solitary moment when doing so. i think it is really natural for anyone to feel self-conscious when somebody is reading what they are typing. however, once i've finished a work and i've already printing it out, i want all the people i know to read it. it's the best compensation a writer could ever have--- to have sombody else read your work. so maybe, you just have to feel confident with what you write. You said you have written a lot of online stuff, that should make you proud and believe that you are writing in a good way. :-)

I usually have written reports, short stories, blogs, and other pieces on the internet and my family and girlfriend reads behind my back. I usually ignore them and whenever they say something about my piece of writing, I tell them to keep their comments and suggestions till I finish writing then ask them afterwards. If its grammar they're correcting, I re-read my work, change what I think is correct, then save it. If they suggest an idea, I often think about it if I would put their ideas in the writing. So, them reading your writting is one way to see if they would approve or disapprove your work and at least you get to feel right on the spot what you would get as a feed back from other readers. ^_^

First off it is nobodys biz what you are wrighting until you decide to share it with whomever. I would say your boyfriend as well as coworkers are being rude if they are reading over your shoulder. What you might try is minimze your window when you catch them reading over your shoulder and point blank ask them if they mind.? Works for me anyway. I personaly don't think your being self conscious wrighting to me is very personal and you should be able to pick and chose who reads your works.

I used to be like that, but then I thought to myself, "Let them read all they want, this way they know that I am mad at them and I do not have to say it, they will see it." My family has a way of making my life Hell, so I say go ahead and let them read how I feel about them. They know better than to make me angry.

I guess this is normal. Sometimes i feel that feeling of being conscious when someone is watching over me. I feel uneasy maybe because we don't want to make mistakes in front of them. Or we are just afraid to let other people see our thoughts in writing. i guess, the best thing that we can do about it is to increase our confidence in what we are doing. This can help us not being conscious on what we do.

I feel the same as you, but I don't think it's only the two of us, all people feel the same at any important activity for them,and some times we don't want to be known by what we are writeen face to face, we could say what we want to say, but our last wepon is to wite what we want in privacy. Thank you for this chance.

I don't think it's about being self-conscious but more about privacy. I can't write when my boyfriend is in the room (sometimes even in the house) because he won't stop talking to me. He asks me what I'm writing, and I tell him I will share it with him, but he has to leave me alone to write it.

I use to be the same way. I never wanted anything I wrote, read. It was for me and me only, and my thing is poems. I write poems about how I feel or if something has affected me. Well, my fiance got a hold of some of my works and I was furious, but then, he's like, these are good. I don't think that he even now realizes some of these poems were about me and my feelings, but here nor there, he liked them. He got me to send in the best one he thought to a book company. So I did, and to my surprise, it got published. So depending on what you are writing, I found that it is not so bad. But, if it is a diary, very personal then I have learned with that if you don't want it read, don't write it and if you do then destroy it afterwards. So that is my best advice on this situation.

i guess u r a bit shy by nature....everyone wants and likes privacy...but from strangers not our loved ones...i think u r shy bcoz ur not very confident about what u r writing...u get the thoughts that what would ur boy friend or parents think if u make a mistake....this happens with everyone... u cant judge ur worth...each one is very talented..but difference lies in exploiting the talent.. i think u r very talented at writing... u just need to BELIEVE IN URSELF AND UR ABILITY...and do remember one thing ...dat we r humans and bound to make mistakes...so to rise higher u need many falls...i wish u great luck...!!!