Backstabbing family members

I think every family deals with this. I really don't think there is any way to effectively deal with it, as these people are inside of your family, and trying to forgive and forget what they said, when those people are family memebers and should know better is a hard task. I think you'll just have to deal with the strained relationship as best as possible.

I know what you mean about forgiving without forgetting. The moment you FORGET, history will be doomed to repeat itsself. Keep them at arms length. I wouldn't trust them either. Once someone has done osmething like that to you, it's impossible to completely trust them, ever again.

i think there are backstabbers in every family,an yes i have had the same troubles with my family.like you i dont forget.i just dont have anything to do with them or say anything to them anymore.if they are around if i go somewere i just avoid them.that way there is peace in the family

oh i have been in this position,i like you have sometimes forgiven but never forgot ,and once there is a tiff the relation is never the same from your point. i am not one to hold my thoughts to myself no matter how damaging it is, i tell them what i think and they can do with it as they please. i came to a point with my ex husbands family that i no longer visited with them, but told my husband you are free to visit them anytime ,but there not welcome here.