Does it Really Take a Whole Town to Raise a Child?
By orcanut
@orcanut (146)
Canada
February 20, 2007 8:47am CST
If my child is any indication, what I really need is a whole city, so we can spell each other off!! My two year old will not go to bed nor will he stay in bed once he is there! He actually made himself sick (and yes, I used to disregard all the other parents who've said that - thinking that sure, maybe their kids had a weak gag reflex, but they were not "really" making themselves sick...until my lovely monster, oops, I mean munchkin, proceeded to gulp and gag on cue until he threw up. We've tried being consistent, we've tried being tough, we've tried everything! I don't want to clean up puck every night, I don't want to be doing laundry every day, I don't want to be up every night, and I want my own bed back! HELP!!
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@crowfan (67)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I ve had that problem with my youngest child he just would not go to bed for anything so i got online and just was lookin around i told my self i was gonna be very patient i would put him into bed and 3 or so minutes later he would be up again like he was bragging to me that he was up so i didnt say anything and just calmly took him back to his bed.which was very hard i had to make i didnt let him know i was getting very aggravated anyways i took him back to his bed 45 times in one night i marked it down on paper every time he got up
@orcanut (146)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
Oh my - I applaud your patience! We've tried that too. Actually, last night was pretty good - I took him to bed (usually dad does), read him two stories and sang/hummed to him until he fell asleep - he slept all night! maybe he know I was ranting about him on the internet!
@Joey322 (272)
• United States
20 Feb 07
oh my gosh! don't tell me this!! my little bean is only 5 months old....i hope we don't go through this..yikes!gosh, i can sympathize, though. i have a 1 yr old labrador who is no longer a cute and cuddly puppy, but, now is a 100 pound teenager who chews anything he can get a hold of to tiny bits (we call "carnage") and insists we play with him 24/7. i mean, doesn't he SEE that i'm trying to put the baby to bed and i can't throw his ball???
gosh...dogs!
we enver thought he would stop haveing accidents in the house and we never thought he'd learn to NOT gulp his water b/c it would make him sick! (yeah, you think a 2 year old puke is bad...try a daily dose of doggie vomit at random locations in your house!! UGGHH!!)
i can offer some solace...somehow, i don't know exactly when, but within the past 1-2 weeks, he has calmed down to the point where he is actually well-behaved and is pretty chilled out!my husband and i just sit in amazement when he calmly lies on the floor while we watch TV instead of his usual nudging slimy rags at us to play tug-o-war! he now goes to the door EVERYTIME he needs out and has stopped gulping water. i'm actually concerned that something may be wrong with him....
so, if kids are anything like dogs, and sometimes they are, i can offer this.....
it will pass. soon enough you will have your bed back and no more puke on the floor. AND you will have an amazing little boy in return for your efforts;)
take care.
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@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Poor you :(. It's rough, but really I do believe the key is consistency. When he throws up, simply go in the room, clean the mess and put him back to bed. I don't think you should start any conversation with him when you do this as that is really what he's looking for, more attention. It may take awhile (as in a couple of weeks) but eventually I do feel it will work.
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@orcanut (146)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Any chance you could come stay with us for a few weeks and then you could clean up the mess?? We've actually tried that - maybe not for a few weeks - but the no communication, get in, clean up, get out routine. I'm not sure where or at what point we get back to him being up all night and/or not going to bed. We had a reward chart for when he stayed in his bed (which included when he was up through the night but went back to his own bed) - then we stopped giving stars for that, then moved on to giving stars for sleeping all night - now we are on to stars for going to bed without it taking two hours! Wish us luck and thanks!
@sarge225 (39)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Wow, your son reminds me of my baby sister, she is two. and she does everything your son does except the puking part, but she does make herself sick by gagging until she gets attention, and she does sleep with my mom in her bed all the time because she prefers not to sleep by herself. I know my mother works a fulltime job and she does alot of other stuff to as well, shopping, around the house, etc. So she is pretty much too tired to do anything about it so she just goes with it. its tough she tells me, but I used to be the same way and its just a phase. she said I satrted coming out of it beofre I turned 4 so. It might be a little longer to go, but just ride with it. They will eventually come out of it. I mean I thought like you too at first seeing my sister, I just think why not discipline her, they do, but she will just end up laughing or crying either way she gets my moms attention. but this phase will pass sooner or later. hopefully sooner
@orcanut (146)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
We have a 14 year old and the two year old. You would think that we made all the mistakes with the 14 year old and learned our lessons for the 2 year old! I once told a friend "never" sleep with your baby - and then turned around and did it myself with the youngest. I think everyone has to do what works, for you, at the time. Especially if you are a single parent, or even a stressed out parent with a lot of balancing to do! Sad to say, but it's good to know I'm not alone!