Saying no to anybody

That is why you can't say no to anybody, cause you are worried to much about their feelings, i mean you have to worry about other peoples feelings sometimes, but when you don't want to do something, its not about THEIR feelings, its about YOURE feelings.

If somebody ask you to come and you are not available be better to tell them the truth. Because nobody else will suffer but only you if you dont be honest to them. Dont think that they will be hurt if you will say no. The more you think of them the more that you will think of be better to be with them.

Ya i know its very difficult to say 'NO' to naybody whether its a stranger or a known person. Earlier I was very shy n I hesitated to say 'No'. Many a times I suffered coz of this, people used to betray me. then My MOM told me that say 'NO' without hurting any1. I asked how could I. She told me , if somebody asks for anything and u dont wanna give him, just say , "I could have given u, that would have been my pleasure,but at this point of time , this is very much needed by me. Sorry I cant give u." if somebody asks u to company him to some place where u dont wanna go, then say ," Sorry deat I loved to go there, but as I have a meeting or somebody is coming at my house, I will not b able to accompany u. Sorry for that, some other time". Really this lesson helped me a lot. U too try atleast once. I think that will help u as well.

If you worry about hurting someones feeling then yes you will have difficulty saying no. It is not selfish to say no. Most people will be able to do what they are asking you to do. so why are you encouraging them to be lazy. Most people do not need a favor but ask just because they know you will not say no. If you find your self the least bit reluctant, or annoyed at the request say sorry I can not do that for you. You do not have to explain why, or give a reason, You are an adult, so behave like one, not an obedient child, that is led around by the hand