i'm so upset with my husband!!
By mgmagana
@mgmagana (3618)
United States
February 21, 2007 2:00am CST
My husband and i just had an argument, last week i did laundry and i haven't put the clothes away, they've remained in a pile in a basket, well he started calling it our drawer, i just did more laundry this past weekend, but i've been sick so i didn't put any away except for his work clothes. on monday he asked if i washed any of his work shirts i said yeah i put ur work clothes away, so then today he just started throwing all the clothes on the floor from the baskets, found 2 pairs of boxers and 1 pair of socks, i said all ur work stuff is put away, and he said oh, i'm not used to my stuff being put away! i said well i told u on monday and if u weren't a smart a** about it u would've remembered, well he started saying how i don't do anything, i just sit on my a** all day. i said oh then how did the front yard get raked today, ( of course he didn't notice) and oh how did the front room get painted? i manage to do stuff even tho all 3 of my kids including myself r sick and my 1 1/2 yr. old is glued to me! So i said okay well then i'll get a job! I'm a stay at home mom because none of my family lives close by and we have no babysitter! daycare is very expensive! so i stay home! and he has the nerve to tell me i don't do anything! i'm so upset, so i told him to go sleep with my son tonight and of course he did, oh and all the clothes he threw on the floor, my dog ended up pissing on some because of his stupidity!
3 responses
@stefan_diego (556)
• Canada
21 Feb 07
Don't do his laundry the next time. Tell him you have too much work at home and he can manage his laundry the way he wants.Just because he's the breadwinner doesn't mean he's not suppose to do things at home.It's his responsibility to be the breadwinner.
@nutmeggy13 (7)
• United States
21 Feb 07
Don't give up staying home with your children over one heated arguement. You are raising them and managing your house. This is more difficult than a full time job. I have issues with putting away laundry too. I think you just need to wait until your husband calms down and pick a time you can talk about this. I believe I've had the same arguement with my husband. He really does value what I do, but at times he "forgets" what I do all day. Staying at home seems like a fairy tale life to those who don't do it. Remember who you are truely doing this for.....your kids. Not yourself or your husband.
@twinkle76 (103)
• Philippines
21 Feb 07
hi mgmagana, i understand your situation and i imagine waht happened between you and your husband..i believe you're very stucked with the household chores and babysitting which i personally could say is very tiresome and stressing.. how cruel of him to treat you that way.. oh if we were naighbors i will help you and hug to comfort you..m a wife and a mother of a 4mo old.. waht you said about the laundry reminds me of my experience when i just gave birth and my helper went home and never returned which left me unprepared.. and if my husband says to me those things your husband said il surely get angry with him.. i hope this time you're a little ok there. jsut want u to know that i understand you and in a woman's perspective, i agree with your reaction.. hope he'll be more gentle and understanding. if he's in your place m sure he'll break off. it takes a lot of patience to be a mom, and generally husband don;t have them.
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
21 Feb 07
thx so much for ur response, since it just happened i need to hear this stuff right now to cheer me up! i'm gonna tell him i'll look for work so he can stay home and see how it feels! while hes home resting i'm still working feeding him and the kids, making sure my oldest is ready for school the next day. waking up with my 1 1/2 yr. old in the middle of the night!
