Should we stay out of our sons/daughters bedrooms ?

I think it depends on the age of the son or daughter, and whether they have a propensity for keeping a "tidy mess" or not. My daughter is really bad about keeping her room clean, so I have to go in there once in a while and shovel it out (ok...it's not quite that bad. lol).

It's great that he has such an understanding and respectful mum! My mum when I was at home always left my bedroom to me and would never pry or even attempt to tidy, it was my responsibility if I wanted to live in a pigsty I could, but it was the exact opposite because my mum showed me respect and didn't pester me to 'get that room cleaned' my bedroom was spotless! Not even a sock on the floor, it was hoovered regularly and even the windows inside were clean! So Ross will surprise you! Sons aren't always messy!

Have you sat him down and asked him? Maybe he would like it if once evey two weeks you went in to give it a good cleaning. Maybe only once a month. I would explain to him that he does a good job, but that you would like to go in and do a deeper cleaning once in a while. Maybe you could even set a certain day or something. My son is 13, he is responsible for his own room. Once a month I go in and give it a good cleaning.

When my daughter lived at home form about the age of 12 until she left home, we had a kind of agreement that i would only go in her bedroom on a friday to change the bed, hover and dust. The rest of the time she would do everything herself. So that way we were both happy I didnt keep going in her room, which pleased her and I went in once a week so i was pleased that at least one day a week she had a tidy room!

Well... I'd say ya. Stay out... I mean, i had never gotten a single bit of privacy. I think everyone deserves their own privacy therefor the only time you can go into their bedrooms is if you knock on the door. If they aren't there Stay out. Give them respect by giving privacy =)

unless he says its ok, stay out its his space, everybody needs their own private space, kids husbands, wives, everybody if he has rotting food in there you might have to deal with it, otherwise stay out

yeah, you should step out of the privacy. Think about it, if your son was entering your room and looking at your stuff, you wouldn't feel comfortable about it. The same goes for him.

No I would never go into my Kids Rooms and if I needed something I would ask them if I could go in their Rooms to get it. They always laughed and said that I don't need to ask. But it is their Privacy same as my Bedroom is mine. When they where little it was different but they are Adults now.

You should ask him if he would like you to clean his room once in a while. Maybe he would actually appreciate the help. My mother did the same thing with my room when I was at home. I was a "pack rat", but it was never dirty- just cluttered. It's hard to keep everything that you own in a single room and keep it tidy. Once I moved out, I found that I was a bit of a neat freak and I am extremely organized. Your son will most likely be the same way once he has more space for all of his stuff.

In regards to my children I have always cleaned it up to the age where they were around 18 years of age I have 5 children and once they reached this age, I never went in their again until they left home but I used to make sure that once a week they had to go and vacume their rooms, and clean them up respectfully and then I would check it that it looked respectfully but when we were having visitors I would close their doors at this time for privacy, especially when they were not at home.

Think Jim is right on this subject hun, before i got my own home my bedroom use to be not messy but not neat either...lol....i had this brilliant way of cleaning...pile it all under the bed (wonder where molly gets it from) up until i left home and got married at the age of 26 i use to have screaming rows with my dad about the state of my bedroom, my parents never use to clean it for me, but i was obversaly made to do it, even on the night before my wedding my dad was saying my bedroom was in a state, however once i got my own place everything changed, lol as you know i now have cleaning compulsive behaviours. Not saying that Ross will once he's got his own home, but he will learn to respect his new enviroment and space. xx

My parents always have respected my privacy;when I was at home I had with them a beatiful relationship and they came to my bedroom without problems everytime they wanted.I never feel their entries as a insult of my privacy,but it's also true that they came to my room only for important things and rarely

My younger sister has cerebral palsy she is only one year old but its mild. I agree that you should respect his privacy maybe offer to tidy instead of taking it on yourself.

Just to let you know Im the son with the messy room lol

well yes if he or she says so..we must respect their own privacy on that matter...well he really cope well with his celebral palsy maybe its not serious...good for him for trying to have his own house..thats great..it shows that he can make it without yourhelp and assistance ..all the thing you could do is just pray for him ..his health and success..

i dont have grown up yet,,theyre still teens...and if ever..i really would like to give him some room for themselves..

i am a student and i think any mom should not stay out of our rooms (sons/daughters)it gives the feelin of love and care bieng with mom and always keeps cool.....

i think everyone derserves their privacy but you need to let him know you are there if he needs u

We all have the right to privacy and many of us do tend to escape to our bedrooms for a bit of peace and quiet. It shouldn't be any different for our kids if they are an adult. I don't actually have kids who are old enough to ask me to stay out of their room, but my daughter especially I don't like interrupting because she does her homework in her bedroom. I respect her need for quiet when she does that. I believe if we start habits like these at a young age, they'll stick as they grow older and hopefully we'll all respect each others need for privacy and quiet when we want it.

No -- don't stay out of your daughter's or son's bedroom but .. you should give them wide to move freely but under certain conditions ...... !!