Can 2 women share a household?

oh dear, she's really worked out how to wind you up and is probably having enormous fun doing it. I think you need to set a few ground rules like you would with a teenager- she perhaps hasn't realised that she needs to muck in and help a bit if she is going to live in your home and is streating it as a bit of a holiday. Tell her you would like to talk to her about how you are all geting on and if neccessary plead not being ablt to cope right now for whatever reason you can think up in an attempt to get her to help a little. I can cope with a visitor for a couple of weeks but really I much prefer to be left alone although at the moment because I've been poorly for a few weeks now I could really do with a good fairy to come round and get me back on top of mychores.

Living with a female and living with a female family member are two different scenarios. I could live with a female (to some extent) but living with a family member for any length of time would drive me crazy. What is that they say "if we could pick our family members we would not pick the ones we have" How true it rings for you. Sorry to hear of your situation, hopefully she won't ruin what you and your husband are trying to claim back and hopefully she will be on her way soon. Take care

I think two women can share a household, sure. I have lived with several women (on seperate occassions, of course) and I have never had any problems. Its just like living with a man, actually it is easier. Still, when you live with anyone you have to respect each others space and opinions. If you have mutual respect between you, you can live with anyone and not have a problem.

my sister is living with me at this time(her and her little girl(3)) and really we dont have aproblem living togather. she works monday thru friday and i babysit for her. if she sees something that needs to be done she does it. with out asking her. she has even done my laundry(turned my whites dingy)(but i fixed them)) hahah. we get along really well considering i am 5 years older than her and we never got along when we were younger. so it is ok with her living here right now she has been here since dec 26 so well see as time goes by.

It has been my experiance that the answer to your question is NO! And it makes little difference what two women it is. Mother daughter.....wife friend.....vertualy any two woman will soon tire of each other regardless of thier relationship. I think it has to do with the issue of control. If a woman is living somewhere...no matter how long....she must have a certain amount of control over her domain. And when two women are seeking tht control it never works. Oh it can work for awhile but after a period of time it begins. Now what does that say about a man living with a woman. Hmmmmmmmm. Have you ever wondered why your man lets you run with what ever you will? Now you know.

I don't think two women can ever love together specially if that woman is like your sister in law. I'm like you. I like to do certain things in a certain way and I wouldn't tolerate it if you're abusing my hospitality. You're sister in law is not a visitor in your place. She lives with you so it is but natural that she shares in the work at home. If she will continue to be the spoiled brat she is, then better talk to your husband about it. It's not rigth that yu're the one whose gonna move out. It's your house so if there's somebody who should be moving out, then it should be your sister inlaw and not you.

I could not share my house with another female, its hard enough sharing with my husband because I am so ocd about cleanliness & having everything in a certain order. My mother in law was tring to help out right after i had my daughter & she did the dishes for me, it was nice & all but she didnt sanitize them in bleach water so after she left i had to go back & re do them. im so ocd i could never share my house with another woman

In law problems were the cause of my divorce, and many others, I would think. Sometimes we find it hard to live with anyone outside of our direct family. You sound as though you could be a little meticulous. Do you have a strategy to get her out?

I feel for you. I have been there and done that twice! First time was with a friend and she did nothing, worse yet, I was very pregnant at the time and she wouldn't lift a finger to help around the house. The second time was with my daughter, she moved in when her and hubby split up for a few weeks, 6 to be exact. I love my daughter dearly, and we are either on the phone or together all the time, but we can NOT live under the same roof!!! I think two women under the same roof is totally INSANE, I do not suggest this to anyone. I wish you the best, have you tried talking this all over with hubby? Good luck!

i'm currently living together with my sister and my boyfriend's brother in the same roof. I don't have any problems dealing with my sister but with regard to my brother's girlfriend, there's a little problem. I couldn't remember her helping us in cleaning the whole apartment, not even once. When she comes home after work, she would either take her dinner or take a shower and goes to bed directly. In the morning when she wakes up, she would go directly at work. Even if it's during weekends, still she has not helped us. Well, that's the only case wherein we have a problem living with her. I'm sorry to hear about your sister in law. At her age, she should have learned how not to be a spoiled brat anymore.

For myself, sharing a house with another woman is hard. Really hard. I stayed with my mom for a few days before I moved to Canada so we could spend some time together, and as much as we cherished that time, we were a little uncomfortable with the way we did things around each other. As much as I love my mom and my sister, I couldn't live with them. We're all just too different. I'm sorry to hear that things aren't good with your sister in law. I think with it being your home, you have to lay down the ground rules and make sure she sticks to them. If not, tell her she'll need to find somewhere else to live. You don't have to put up with that kind of shocking behavior from her.

I have lived with other women since I moved out of my parents home - 30 years ago. We aren't talking about a lesbian relationship either. I have never wanted to live in a house/apartment by myself. I know that's a sure trip down depression lane. Now, these women haven't been relatives, tho I probably could live with my sister. At a couple of points tho we lived with one of the roomie's mother, then her aunt. THAT was another story. It wasn't so much that they didn't do anything, it was more that they were not working & did stuff in the middle of the night waking us up! The aunt left abrubtly in the middle of a day while we were at work because we had told her that we had to talk about her waking us up the night before. She was certifibly crazy tho, 70 yrs ago she probably would've been in the hospital, before the liberals said that crazy people had the right to be on the street as transiants because being locked up is demeaning....

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I had to live with my mother-in-law one time and it was horrible! She wanted to teach me what to do all the time. She thought everything did was wrong and she knew how to do it better! It was turture. There is one woman of the house!

whoa, you are in a tough situation, I'm sorry to hear about that. I don't think I would want to be in that situation either. I did have my brother-in-law in the same household with us before for a while but he was nice mostly. I tried to keep his personal life out of ours and it went ok. I hope your situation isn't permanant. Anyways, you have got to try and get your husband to know that this bad behavior is going on. You need to let him know it by not complaining but by talking, hinting, and being tacful. Maybe somehow making it "her night" to cook for you guys once in a while and see what happens. Let's put some of the responsibility back on her a little. She needs to feel the burden a little and get away from the "spoiled" attitude. If he sees that his sister is being unreasonable and childish then maybe he can have a different arrangement for her soon. Maybe she just has to somehow learn it the hard way then she will change. I know this is hard but you will have to be tactful with this type of person and play the field right. You need to try to remain nice and in the end she will show up as as the bad one. Remember it is hard to be mad or angry at a happy person. Both of you have put of the defensive shield there. You can make the first move and be tactful. Here's another thing to try: Try to find something positive and compliment her on it and then jokingly say that "oh at work today a friend told me about this great job that you'd might enjoy..." and then start conversing with her. Even if she does the chore wrong compliment her anyways but say "that is an interesting way to do that", and just be nice -- believe me it is hard to be mad at a nice person. Sometimes you can just let your guard down a little and don't have to have it done exactly the way you want it all the time. Try it just once, don't fix the chore she did and don't get mad either --- isn't it a relief to just not care for once? Hopefully, my comments were helpful and hopefully, your husband will see what is going on and open up to you about this.

I think that in some cases two females are perfectly capable of living together happily, I don't think that taking on another child that you didn't plan (she sounds childish)is something that would be desired. I think it would be easier to enjoy her company if she did some chores around the house or made some kind of contribution, I can't say I blame you for not enjoying having her around.

Wow, that is very hard. I would say it is time to get her out of your house. Its not worth torturing yourself about and given her age I am most positive that she will remain the same so time to say C-YA!!!!!

When it comes to family the answer most of the time no, and if it is in regards to some one else, it depends. I lived with my mother it was $$$$. I did everything while she did not. I had a lot of different people living at my parents while growing up and a lot of them were lazy among other things. I know that when my brothers lived together in their apartment it worked out great. They kept everything clean and did not bug each other, but they are guys.

OMG, this is exactly what I'm dealing with! My future sister is law doesn't work- only her husband does and she's around the house all the time. I can't stand it! It just bugs me so much and I go crazy and just want to scream.

I know what you are saying. I have lived with both of my sister in laws but they were not my houses but theres. I was not lazy and tried to help out but two women in the same house does not work at all. I did not feel comfortable at all in someone elses kitchen and I know they did not feel comfortable with me there. It is not easy to share any household with another female. My sister in law did come to live with us once and did nothing either but fight with my brother and I didn't like that around my kids. I would say that it is time for your sister in law to go somewhere else. It is not polite of anyone to come to someone elses house and do nothing but eat you out of house and home.

It sounds like you'r sharing your house with a soiled over sized kid, not another woman. I'd be mad too. I can't do that either. I cant be in a home with a person who doesnt respect me or my stuff.. I'd be kickin her booty out.