do you dare to voice the unspeakable?

There are times when one's frankness and honesty requires a price quite too high to pay. Despite this knowledge however, I am still convinced that there are no substitutes for these values. Personally, I prefer that one who has something about me, regardless of whether these are bad or good observations, will tell it to me straight. No need for all those beatings around the bush. I hate it all the more if I hear it through someone else's mouth. Yes, the truth may hurt, but it destroys one's composure if it goes around in backbiter's ways. Then I'll feel how they placed me in a very disadvantageous position. If they go around backbiting, how can I deal with the issue properly? Since I have no knowledge of what's going on, how can I defend my side if the story was carried maliciously? If the comments are true, how can I make the necessary adjustments in myself when it wasn't made known to me, in a manner that it should be? A person can only change for the better if his shortcomings are being made known to him first. Therefore, keeping the comments from the concerned individual while talking about it with everyone will never help - instead it invites the ire of the person being made the gossipmonger's feast. I've always opted to be true and honest. However, before I open my mouth, I think of the best way to say it. At most times, the person to whom I talk to privately, denies it. There are some who ask for more explanation regarding the observations. The sensible accept the observations humbly with murmurs of some thank you's. But this will not always be the case. There are some who will be very angry, so angry, they will cease to be the friends I used to have. I know that most of them realized later on that I told them the real score. The signs show it. But these people are much too proud to admit it. I shove them away, it's not good to nurture friendship with people who are too proud and haughty anyway.

Ive always been a believer in the truth.Many times it has caused me more problems then not but i never have to carry the weight of things unsaid and opinions unmentioned:)