what do you do if you think someone in your family stole from you?
By eminyone
@eminyone (113)
United States
February 21, 2007 7:27pm CST
i fight with my boyfriend like everytime my brother comes over. my boyfriend dont want him left here by himself. cant really blame him, my brother is a thief. but i hurts me to think that he would steal from me. i think my boyfriend is right and i am going to have to quit letting him come here. we have had little things dissapear like dvd, cds stuff like that. well now i have a very expiencive ring missing. the last time i saw it, it was with the other 3 on my computer stand. there is only limited people at my house one is my friend she has never stole from me ever, and my other brother, he also never stole from me. so that leaves one left. what am i suppose to do now?? my rings gone and my boyfriend is going to trip. what would you do? your suppose to beable to trust family but what do you do when you cant do it anymore? how do you cut your little brother off and not feel so bad about doing it?
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I found my ring my brother didnt steal it my boyfriend did.
I'm so happy to hear that you found your ring. You should still talk to your brother. Also talk to your boyfriend, why he took it. Was he trying to teach you a lesson? If so that's not funny. You should let him know it wasn't funny.
Still glad you found your ring.
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@chertsy (3798)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I have a brother just like your's. I wouldn't want him in my home more than 5 minutes, that's how much I don't trust him. If he's young, maybe you still have time. Tell him that you know he stole your ring, he will deny it and say stuff like you lost it. Keep your cool and be strong, tell him til that ring shows up in your hand. He's never allowed in your home again. Don't say things like you never want to see or hear from him again, just not in your home.
I lost my brother 8 years ago to murder, I haven't seen him in a long time but only spoke to him over the phone two weeks before he was killed. So don't do anything you will regret. Lay the guilt trip, make him think you will never talk to him again.
Good luck with this hard situation. I hope everything works out to the best and that you get your ring back.
@eminyone (113)
• United States
23 Feb 07
it hurts so bad when i think that he stole from me and broke my trust. i never wanted to see him for who he really is. i just cant believe it. i cant tell him i am going to call the police or anything like that becaause he is already on probation and he will go to jail. i can not be resoncible for sending my brother to jail.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Don't actually call the cops, make him think you will if you don't get your ring back. All in honesty, I would call the cops on my brother in a heart beat, if it meant he would get the help he needed. But I know he won't, so what's the point. It kills me to see what he does to my parents. Even after losing a brother, he still acts the same. Just past Christmas he stole some dollar coins from my dad. I don't know how many, but I know it was a lot. He had the nerve to show up to my parents house the day after he did it and act like nothing happened. Then he comes with his crazy wife, that the family can't stand. My sister bluntly told him to leave after he wasn't getting the hint of everyone ignoring him.
You have to show your brother tough love, I'm hoping he's younger than my brother which is 35 and been doing since he was 15. Meet him somewhere besides your home and talk to him. Tell him what he's doing is really killing you inside. You can use my brother as an example, because all he needs is another screw up and he could go to prison. He's been in and out of jail, not all for crimes also for not paying child support.
I do hope you get your ring back and your brother get's on the right track.
@eminyone (113)
• United States
27 Feb 07
i dont know what to do with my brother. he was raised thinking he could do what and dont have to listen to anyone. i just quit letting him stay here on his own. he didnt steal my ring my boyfriend did. i was soooo mad he thought he would teach me a lesson. he said i didnt put them where they belong i told him they were when i put them and the other 3 were there and he didnt need to bother them. i told him he had me feeling like crap because i thought my brother stole it and i would ever see it again.
@unisis (1673)
• Indonesia
27 Feb 07
It is also happen to me that my cousins is stolen in my house i want him left here by himself,cause i can not really blame him as a thief, but i hurts me to think that he would steal from me. i think my wife is right that i am going to have to quit letting him come here, we have had little things dissapear like walkman, ,money ,dvd it is like that, there is only limited people at my house one is my brotherin law,he has never stole from me , and my other brother, so that leaves one left, what am i suppose to do now, your suppose to be able to trust family but what do you do when you cant do it anymore.
@eminyone (113)
• United States
27 Feb 07
i got the same problem. i found my ring. i just dont leave him here alone. i thought you could trust your family but i guess i was wrong. my boyfriend had my ring hethought he would teach me a lesson. i told him it was messed up. i dont know what to do once you loss your trust in the ones you love!
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I think that you need to sit down and talk with your brother as it seems like he might have a serious problem. I would tell him that if he continues to steal from you then you don't want him to come to your house any more. You could still meet with him in other places, like a restuarant, or his place (just leave your purse in the car!).
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@dbeamon (128)
• United States
27 Feb 07
im glad you found your ring. i hope that your boyfriend who actually took the ring feels bad for scaring you and making you feel the way he did.
as for the brother stealing from you. i understand completely. i have one that has been in and out of jail most of his life. he was treate like he could do no wrong by my mom and now he believes that. he has stolen from myself and my son. thing is had he asked me for it i probably would have given it to him. he has even stole from my parents he went as far as stealing my dads check book and writing checks on his acct. he got by with this bc his name is the same as my dads. and my mom wouldnt let my dad press charges. he is now in his 30's and just as worthless as when he was 15. good luck with your dilemma. be sure and dont leave him alone in your home and i know its a pain but lock up anything of value when he comes over. good luck and god bless
@eminyone (113)
• United States
27 Feb 07
yea it sounds like we got the same brother, mine didnt take checks he just took the debit card. hes got the same name as my step dad. my step dad made him this way because he was better than me and my brother because he was his kid. so he was raised saying he didnt have to listen to my mom and didnt have to do anything. yea i would give my brother anything, i cant prove he stole anything from me, but there is only certian people here. i dont leave him here alone anymore. thank you
@sandgroper1 (629)
• Australia
22 Feb 07
1ST your own family cannot always be trusted, i would talk to him and tell him i thought it was him and why, ask for it back. Then i would say to him that i didnt feel that i was able to trust him and ask him to leave and never let him stay again. My hubbys brother is the same but it is only stupid thing that he steals from us but after a while the cost and annoyance starts to add up, we have just agreed that we wont have him at our house anymore. It caused an arguement at first with other family members but they can think and do as they like , this is our house and we get to chose who comes into it.
@Lush_heidi (994)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I would sit down and talk to your brother and explain how you feel and say(to maybe wake him up) that you will have to file police reports for insurance reasons that someone may go to jail. Maybe he will open up and admit his theft, let him know he needs help and that you cant have him over anymore if he keep doing this.Good luck! **hugs**
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