Do you think marriage changes a relationship?
By astromama
@astromama (1221)
United States
February 22, 2007 1:35am CST
I am recently married and I don't feel it has changed my partnership at all, except that we fight a bit less. I didn't ever want to get married, but after three years together I realized I was resistant to an institution, a mindset... not to my partner. I also realized that while marriage was never on my to-do list, it was very important to the man I love. I finally asked myself, 'why am I denying him something that's important to him, when it really doesn't matter to me?' So, we got married. I think I was afraid I would have to become a 'wife' instead of just being me every day. I would say it has changed my partner in that he is much less insecure now that we're married... he has abandonment issues. Does marriage usually change a relationship? How? Did marriage change you or your partner?
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5 responses
@mememama (3076)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Before marriage, it would be so easy to say screw him, and leave. So now we really have to work at it, we don't want to be another statistic of divorce. Other than that, it's a piece of paper to us, we lived together beforehand so we used to the whole cohabitating thing. I think the thing that threw us for a loop was a baby! That took some time to figure out LOL, it was real ugly for awhile but thankfully we've settled back down and we're old pros at it.
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@astromama (1221)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Did you get preg before the marriage, or after? Me, I happened to be pregnant when I made the choice to finally say 'yes'... I had known for a long time he was my other half, and I wanted to spend my life with him. And we planned the baby. I think it helped to change my mind about marriage because I saw how it was the missing puzzle piece for my love. He wanted to be able to say I was his 'wife', and so I gave that to him. To make things complete.
I think the only thing that has changed is the way other people view the relationship. People tend to take you seriously when you have a 'husband' as opposed to a 'boyfriend'.
@mridula123 (734)
• India
22 Feb 07
am still single, but i respect marriage..its something u owe to someone u love..am surprised it took u so long to realize tht,nevertheless..u did it finally..exactly, it does make u more secure...c'mon..after all..how come u get a family without marriage??..and ofcourse mariage does change realtionships..i mean..ppl are more free, they do take u 4 granted ya..but dats more of a he's/She's mine feeling..i cant say more..this realtionship is divine..like they say..marriages are made in heaven!!
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@sandgroper1 (629)
• Australia
22 Feb 07
I think that when you get married that it deepens your commitment to each other and also makes you feel a little more secure, and proud. I loved being able to say that i was married. Unfortunately for me my marriage didnt last but i have finaly met a real man and we plan on getting married probably this time next year and this time i know its for real.
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@sanaritta (22)
• Pakistan
22 Feb 07
I dnt think so Marriage changes a realtionship cause.. Marriage is a relation shipp for Lifetime... n lifepartners are very sincere abt eachother....
Thats why marriages chagess lifee nt Relationship...
