Divorce Help!!!
By jediwa72
@jediwa72 (204)
United States
February 22, 2007 10:37am CST
Okay, so here is the deal, my husband and I are getting a divorce...we have been seperated now for around three months. I have the kids with me 2000 miles away. We are trying to work things out between the two of us to keep from having the courts divide....needless to say the kids are definatly becoming an issue. What do you all think is reasonable when it comes to child custody? He is not a bad dad but there are differences in our beliefs...nonetheless I don't feel this should keep him from seeing his kids. The issue is the 2000 miles more than anything. He doesn't celebrate Christmas or Holidays so I of course want them on the holiday itself...and we have pretty much agreed that I am the primary caretaker. SO! That being said, what is reasonable to ask? He is wanting them homeschooled so he can see them more but they are really looking forward to starting school and I think the interaction with other children is crucial. They are 3 and 4 years old. HELP!!
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@Kangleicha (376)
• India
22 Feb 07
Maybe it is just me, but I cannot fully grasp whether the custody of the child is with you or your husband. I am going to assume that it is with you and the children will stay with you most of the time.
In that case, I would suggest that in this information age, shortly going into the information age, we cannot really raise up a child in a home school. The child will not get the exposure he/she would need in his/her future. Maybe upto the age of 7-8 they can be home tutored, but after that it would not be wise to keep them at home any longer.
I hope you can talk with your ex-husband about the ill effects of home tutoring at this age of the world.
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@soldenski (2503)
• United States
22 Feb 07
What a situation!!! Is there anyway, that you two could be closer so that your ex can see the children more often and still have them go to school? If they are homeschooled, does that mean you are going to do it? You did not mention if you worked, but if you work, will you still be able to homeschool them? Good luck.
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@cwgrlsarefun (1581)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I honestly believe that going to a public school is better for our young children as they really do need that interaction with other people their own ages and size. I think that since the children are with you and you have them, he will just have visitation. It is up to him to work out his schedule so that he can spend the time with his kids. If they are really that important to him he will be able to do this. Education is the number one for our children and he needs to see this. They have plenty of breaks from school each year that he will get more than enough time with them and if he is still not happy then maybe he should think about relocating to where you and the kids are so that it is more conienant for him. I would not move closer to him as you have the kids and it is harder on them then on an adult. I also have found with my own children that it is not easy bouncing them back and forth from one parent to the other so a schedule is something that is real important for the kids. With a schedule they know exactly when and we all know that routine works better for kids then anything else.
