letting go of the past???
By RockstarRaye
@RockstarRaye (8)
United States
February 22, 2007 11:42am CST
i've been in plenty of relationships and obviously they havent worked cause im in another one, not new to it, but dealing with many of the same things i've dealt with in past relationships. i've always wondered why its hard for someone in a relationship to let go of things in the past, things that old partners/lovers/friends whatever you wanna call them...things that they have done to hurt you. why is it so easy to remeber the bad things, and keep reliving them rather than forgive,forget them and move on?
3 responses
@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Its because you were hurt so bad that your guard is up and it seems everytime we let our guard down something bad happens again. But We need to remember that Living is thinking everything is good until something happens then we deal with it and keep going. Otherwise you are just waiting to die.
Love is hard and hurtful, but it can also be the best thing! Try to focus on the good way you felt being with someone and if they did something wrong to you that was their problem, there is someone who will treat you the way you want. Not all relationships are happy. Relationships are full of passion, which leads to arguments and down time, but its the way you deal with it together that matters.
@Barichula (32)
• United States
22 Feb 07
It's always easy to remember the bad things, and its hard to move on and forget if you aren't keeping your mind occupied doing anything new. My best advice for anyone is to try and do things that will keep your mind occupied.
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
22 Feb 07
You'll just have to let them go because you won't benefit any from them. I think I am one person who let's things go really easy. As long as there has been closure. Life is so short to relieve the past.
