"My Bestfriend Is In Love With Me..What To Do??

just go for it!

I think you should delve deep within yourself. Yes you may have a bf but maybe you also harbor feeling for this bestfriend of yours,check and double check your feelings. Now, if you're not really in love with him, I say, talk to him, frankly and matter-of-factly. Tell him how you feel, tell him that you do not want to hurt him but he's nothing more than a best friend to you, if he cannot accept that, then there's nothing to be done, burn your bridges dear, let him go, then maybe when he's able to accept it you can become friends again, if not, then you don't have any reason to feel guilty cause you did your part in trying not to loose the friendship. Life is as life goes, we cannot control other people's feelings but we can control firstly ours and our reaction to those feelings. Yes you might hurt him, that's a distinct possibility but you will hurt him more if he continues to believe that there might be a chance that you can love him the way he does you. Life is not a bed of roses and people get hurt, I just hope that we can minimize the hurt inflicted, specially those we do inflict, on people we care about.

If you do not love him, then I think you better tell him straight. He might be hurt by the truth but it's the best thing to do than to let him think that you feel the same way for him. I've had bestfriends before who had fallen in love with me. I wasn't able to handle those situations well and I ended up losing our friendship. But I wish I had been more considerate of their feelings and have at least remained civil to them. It's hard to accept sometimes that our bestfriends fall in love with us, and it makes us uneasy to be with them if we don't feel the same way toward them. But we have to consider the fact that maybe it wasn't a choice they wanted and they never expected to feel that way. They just woke up one morning feeling something they did not intend to and couldn't get rid of. Try putting yourself in your bestfriend's shoes. What if it's the other way around - you loving him and he doesn't? What would you feel? I think you should save him from further hurtache. If you can, tell him straight that you can't return his love and but that you'll always be there for him as a friend. If you will let your friendship be shattered today because of his feelings, time will come that you will long for his friendship again and all those times you shared as good friends. That's how I feel after years of losing my bestfriends.

Simple to answer. If you still love your guy then you should stick with him. But if you love your bestfriend, its better to break up with you current boyfriend early so you have a clean break up. Don not enter a third party relationship... i guarantee you that is not healthy for you life. If your bestfriend continous to bug you about how much he loves you and he intends to enter a third party relationship, then he is not a good friend at all.

In order for a love relationship to work, you have to be friends, best friends. Someone you can relax around, be honest to, someone who knows ALL your secrets and bad habits, and still loves you in spite of. Is there a chance you too have feelings for him? If you do, This could be the greatest relationship you'll ever be in. I married my best friend, and we can share everything openly. The secret to a long-lasting relationship is friendship, You've already established the friendship part, I say do some heavy thinking to see if your really fallen for him as well.

I know others before me have given you the same or perhaps a different advice altogether. However, decisions like this always rests on you, the girl. The fact that you felt uncomfortable shows you are bothered by the change in your friend's behavior. Yet you did not acknowledge the signs when you recognized it for what it was. You are in denial of his feelings because you know you can't handle the truth. And now that the truth is staring at you you back down and act hurt like it was dumped on you all of a sudden. If you are really a true friend you should have acknowledged his feelings for you and took better care to make him understand that your relationship has limits and must not go beyond friendship. Your neglect of your friend has now placed you in a tight space at this point.

I know exactly how you fell. My boyfriend & I had one guy that we were both really close too. He & i had been friends forever cause our moms were friends from way back when. One night he & I were comeing back from swimming. He said he needed to talk & pulled off to an abandoned road. Then he said "You know I've always felt really close to you, like i could tell you anything." I said well duh, thats what friends do." & laughed. He continued with some more mushy stuff then he said "I think, no, I kNOW for sure that I love you. I would do anything for you. No matter what the problem is, I can say your name & it all goes away." I told him that he knew that I had a boyfriend (who was suppose to be his friend too) & that I really cared alot about him, that he was a great guy, all the normal stuff that you would say but that if we went out & broke up we may not ever be able to be as close as we were now & that i couldnt bare loseing him as a friend. He keept saying that he was sorry that he brought it up, I told him he had nothing to be sorry about. You cant help how you fell. But after that night, he acted weird around me. He didn't cut up and play around like we use to do. After a short time, we stopped hangin out. That was about 2 years ago, we just started talkin again. It will take time, but if yall was really close, you will get comfy with him again. You fell guilty because you care about him & know that you hurt him. It's not your fault, but your still know that he is hurt inside. I think thats the hard part, knowing that you hurt a friend. (but remember, its no ones fault.) If he can except that you just want to be friends, maybe you can move on with a good friendship. Guys & girls can be friends. I've always had guy friends. I admitt that most have ended over him deciding that he "loved" me. But there are 3 of them that are my bestfriends and have been for along time & we've never had that problem. Remember, you did nothing wrong & neither did he. Time heals all wounds. Best of luck to you both, I hope it works out.

Isn't he confusing love with friendship? It happened to me once and i've overcome it just for the sake of the relation.

Hmmm. I noticed you haven't said yourself whether or not you have feelings for him. So...do you? Obviously it's a huge question you have to ask yourself. Could you ever look at him any other way other than as a friend? If you think you may have feelings for him, you still have to examine it carefully though. What if you do "go for it" & then things don't work out. Could you still be friends after that? Or would it just be too difficult? These are the questions you have to ask yourself & you have to be honest w/ yourself. Don't tell yourself what you WANT to hear. In the meantime I think it might be a good idea if you spent some time away from him. Just give yourself time to think & room to breathe.

You just have to be true to yourself so your bestfriend and bf will understand you. If that is so They will love you more If you can't just give your self a space for you to realize who is important to you.Goodluck.

Just follow your heart, you will know what to do. It's very hard to find a best friend and your boyfriend is probably important to you too, you did choose him in the first place. You must choose very carefully. I don't know... the answer.

If you think you also like him and can live your lfe together, its ok to accept him. very ideally any serious relationship should start with friendship.if you alraedy have BF, it will be cheating and a mess. think twice.

This is a very delicate situation. You should listen to your heaRT.be clear to yourself. Whom do you really love? your BF or best friend. It may be true or a lie from his part, but the same thing happened with my best friend. But things are so unpredictable that he himself has started ignoring me after i left the city. now we hardly talk.So its a complex situation

No law on earth prohibits bestfriends to fall inlove with each other. I guess its a natural thing. You tend to fall inlove with somebody you know so well. But i do disagree with your last line : that girls and guys can't be friends for they will surely fall in love with each other. Again, no law on earth prohibits girls and guys to be bestfriends. Friendship doesn't require any gender. But as for your case, you said you have a boyfriend and you don't have any feelings for your bestfriend who happened to be a guy. You must tell him that. Yes, it is painful, but you should remember that the truth hurts. Sooner or later, he'll be hurt. So why pro-long his suffering, right? But if he insist his self to you despite the fact that you are committed, then he's not being a true friend. I suggest that you stay away from him.

I think you should just tell him the truth. From your story above, I can tell that you don't love him. Tell your best friend that you don't love him and that it's better to be friends just like usual, and tell him that he'll get another woman that's better than yourself. There's a risk that your best friend will be mad at you, and your friendship will be broken, but I think if this happens, it will be only temporarily. As soon as he gets another girlfriend and doesn't love you anymore, he'll realize that he's wrong and will get back to you as your best friend. For now, you must tell him the truth, don't let him have any high expectation on you.

You need to be honest with him and tell him the truth. It is possible to continue being friends with somebody under those conditions. But he will have to be adult enough to understand that you don't share his feelings. You don't owe him your love. And you certainly don't owe him not dating other guys or having feelings for other people. If he can't do that, you won't be able to remain friends.

it is up2 you, if i think it could work together i would give it a try. can always she what happens? mean everything is worth a try once

What to do??? DO HIM. Its rare to find someone that loves you.

It's better to stay away from him for a while. You might unknowingly missled him if you always hangout together. If it's hard for you to stay away, better make it clear that you only like him as a friend. You have to tell him that nothing else will develop from this friendship. If you dont, there's a chance he'd secretly hope that there'll be something more someday since you like hanging out with him so much.

I believe as having a best friend always will have love for you but it may take a step up. This is natural and very sweet.