Can you really ever "go home again"?
By samsonskola
@samsonskola (3357)
United States
February 22, 2007 9:29pm CST
Have any of you ever moved away from your birthplace or childhood home? Did the grass look greener maybe in another state? Have you ever thought of or actually moved back home because you were homesick, and then realized it wasn't how you remembered it?
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I for sure will not go back home and live there as I used to before. Things have changed in my life and I never really enjoyed my life there anyway, too many dark memories and painful experiences. Life is still hard on me but I don't have bad memories here yet.\ plus I like people here although sure there are racist people but in general I'll picking living here over any country.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I for sure will not go back home and live there as I used to before. Things have changed in my life and I never really enjoyed my life there anyway, too many dark memories and painful experiences. Life is still hard on me but I don't have bad memories here yet.\ plus I like people here although sure there are racist people but in general I'll pick living here over any country.
sorry re-post. i typed so fast and just hot submit then i realized the mistypo
@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
23 Feb 07
i am glad you are happy where you are, thank you for the response.
@rainbow (6761)
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23 Feb 07
I left home for 6 months when I was 21, but had to go back when I broke off my engagemment as my ex moved into the flat next door which I didn't feel too comfortable with.
When I went home it seemed different and strange, to be honest I didn't spend much time there. I saved up for a year and put the deposit on my bungalow. I still only live just less than a mile from home as my dad still has the same house but I never think of dads as home.
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@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
24 Feb 07
things do change, and i honestly have never dealt very well with major changes. at least you were able to save up and get a place where you feel comfortable. thank you.
@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I used to live in Saskatchewan when I was a child and I really miss it sometimes. I miss how beautiful the place I grew up in was. I miss being able to go take a walk on the beach when I want to. There are countless other things I miss about that place in general that they would take too long to list off. All I can say is that I miss that place terribly and I would truly love to go back there and see if it was somewhat how I remembered it. It wasn't where I was born but I believe I spent the best days of my life there.
I have thought constantly about going back to where I used to live. I'd love to see what exactly has changed sine I was there last which was a very long time ago. I wouldn't want to move back there unless I was absolutely sure that it was how I remembered it as a kid. If it had changed and wasn't as quiet as it used to be or if I was unable to locate any place there that I remember it would lose a lot of interest from me. I don't think I could see myself moving into a place near there if there was no meaning behind the place I was going to live in.
I love that place and everything to do with the time I spent there. It was like the perfect time to be alive. I loved the trees and the beach and everything else around there. It was such a beautiful place and it was incredibly quiet at night. You could honestly fall asleep on a dime and sleep like a rock for a very long time because of the peaceful environment there. There's no hustle and bustle like here in the city. Where I lived was more in a country like setting with a beach.
I used to love playing in the sand on the beach or even just taking a walk along the beach watching the sunset. These are some of the greatest memories I have that always draw me back to wanting to move there every time they cross my mind. Right now all I have are the memories of my childhood and how great it was while I lived there. The beach was always one of my favorite places to escape to whenever I wanted to pretend and play around.
I can safely see myself raising my family there in Saskatchewan as opposed to this city where you have to watch your kids like a hawk. At least in Saskatchewan there's the complete ability to get the heck out the city to the country and just unwind by doing this. No worries at all, just the silence and peace from an area of the world undisturbed by the go go go of everyday life. I love that idea, to be able to get away from the craziness which take up the majority of our lives and just slow down and enjoy things instead.
So I did move away from a place that I spent a good deal of my childhood in. When we moved here I can definitely say that the grass looked greener on the other side. My life changed when we moved away from Saskatchewan and everything got darker and tougher. Good relationships that I had were lost because of the choices others made and the people they got involved with. I feel that my innocence was taken away due to situations that other family members could have prevented. I think I could only move back to that area of the country if I were to visit it first. I'd need time to see if the feeling was still the same about the place I used to live. I used to remember feeling safe and I loved just how quiet that place is.
In conclusion, I believe that sometimes you can really go home again but you have to allow that place to be your home. You have to remember why a place is important to you and what made it like that. Then I think you can possibly get past certain things that might have changed about the places you kept so close to yourself when you were younger.
Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
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@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
24 Feb 07
it sounds like a most wonderful place to live. that's the kind of environment i would love to move back to. i miss my real home so very much and even though i've lived here for 12 years now, it is not and never will be home to me. i just got back from a quick trip back home and i didn't want to leave to come back here. maybe one day i will be able to return to my roots and feel the peace and tranquility i once did. thank you so much for sharing that, and i hope one day if you want, that you can go back to where you really love.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I did not move to another state but I moved an hour and a half away. I inherited an acre of land at my old homeplace and we always that that we would move back but now, I have no desire to move back. It is not that it isnt what I remember. The community has changed. The people who used to live there are all old or deceased now and the young ones who now live there are not as friendly or compassionate as the older ones were. I know thing have to change but sometimes change is not good.
@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I agree that a lot of changes are not for the best when it comes to a lot of communities. How sad that you don't have a reason to move back. Thank you.
@bkfuels (1603)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I think you can go back home again. I personally have never left. But in the past few years two of my best friends have moved back and they say they couldn't be happier. They were away for a lot of years but say there is no place like this to live and will never leave again.
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@samsonskola (3357)
• United States
24 Feb 07
how wonderful that they have been able to do so and be so very happy. i wish you all the best. thank you
@Dollyjiang (205)
• China
23 Feb 07
There is a word in our country : every piece of leaves will go back to the root of the tree ,and it is meaning every people would want to go back to their hometown where foster him when they get old age . Of course many of them can't do but at least they want to go back to have a look .
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