worried mom

Please, please, please, get your son help NOW! Overeacting to this type of situation is better than too little action.

check out how your son is at school. maybe he has problems with hit colegs...

don't be afraid. ask him why is he doing so. find out the reason for these happenings. you are his mom so you can ask him properly. do that. and i am sure, you will know the reason why he hates his dad.

that is really to be worried.. Well just pray and pray.. HAve a talk to your chils as well as to his dad.. everthing will be ok

Talk to your son. Tell him you're worried about him and how much you love him. See if he's willing to talk to someone. If he's not you're going to have to try. Try to find out why he hates his dad and what's causing his violent thoughts. It wont be easy, it's going to take a lot of patience and understanding on your part. He'll need to know he can trust you and you wont judge him. Good luck!

the best thing you can do for your kids is show them the meaning of tough love. Talk to him and tell him that all things have consequences. Easier said than done, I know, but something needs to be said. Our children are the products of ourselves.

hey.... there should be some reason for him to find hatred with his dad.... what's that your hiding or forgot to mention here? tell the clear details about your husband too!

children, in this age, pass through behaviourial changes and this is quite common. they get adamant, disobedient, know-it-all kind and are hard to convince and control. it's always advisable to let go and ignore them, while keeping track of their movements discreetly. having said this, your boy is in extremity with teen behaviours. this is indeed scary and your fear is just. i mean, i would have been fearful aswell. it's better to see a psyco-analysts, he might just need little help and i am sure 2-4 sessions would sweep him off this. but on your part you have to play the key role. i donot know why he has to hate his father, but what i know for sure is the fact that you have to be very brave and strong. give more time and make him feel that he is important. however, donot pamper him to the extent that he might take you for granted or start functional behaviourial pattern..

This is truly disturbing. It sounds to me like you need top spend more time with him. his dad needs to too. maybe do some family things together so that father and son can get closer to each other. Otherwise you can probably make him go for counseling and find out the reason why he hates his dad so much and work at correcting that.

Has his dad, i guess your husband done anything to him? Try to talk to him, Is he your oldest child? Try to talk to his dad too. Good luck.

This in my opinion is common among the guys in that age , some have it in extremes and some in normal , there might be many reasons for such behavior mainly coz of hormones which might give different results,and sometimes children might have a bad past which might have strong effect on their behavior. This is the stage when they feel aggravated , frustrated, anger and different mixed feeling which they dont understand how to react. This kind of behavior can be managed slowly and gradually , try to change everything on his way into positive waves, soft and peaceful systematic and keep him busy into some hobbies which is positive and interesting for him like art, music , good books ,introduce him to some good people around him , start some games like swimming . teach him some good and positive words try not to scold him when he is out of control,they r very sensible , give him some name which is positive like sweetlittle , or something which he likes it ...

If this behavior continues, it might be worth having him checked for a disorder, or maybe have counseling for him. This kind of behavior is not usual or normal for a 16 year old. Before resorting to drastic measures though - maybe see if he'll sit down and talk to you. Many kids won't open up to their parents but see what you can do. Sometimes, kids let things slip that may give clues as to why they're thinking the way they are. I hope you get this sorted soon. I'm sorry I can't be of more help to you.

Inspite of his harsh behaviour, he should be treated with patience, understanding and tolerance. Dealing with hin in love and affection will certainly change him for better.

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i think your son has been traumatized by his dad! i think you should look into y ur son hates his dad so much!go to the root of the problem! im sure your son is not acting like this without reason!

try to know the reason why he want to kill his dad.

A... that sounds scary. Find HELP soon! If needed, try to talk face to face with ur son. Try figuring out why he hates his father so much.

Try talking to your son and let him know that if he does something he will regret later on, you might not be there to take care of him. With the pictures that you saw, I think it is something very serious that might end up into something ugly. You can also ask your so to see a couselor. Or if you know your son's friends, you can also ask them to talk to him. Do anything just to let him express how bad he feels. Most of all, I think you should tell his father. Probably he can do something to remedy their "problem".

well,i'm 18 now and i was the same when i was 16. lol. it happens to everyone. although its not a light matter. finding out why your son hates his dad helps. coz there is always a reason. like everyone here suggested, talking helps. always.

I think you be very calm and try to talk to him when he is alone and in a very good mood....in which way he would be able to reveal why he hates his dad so much that he is ready to kill him. Just show him that you care and be very friendly to him, so that he would atleast know that there is someone who cares him..with this his anger may calm down a little and keep talking to him every time..ask him about how was the day in school..his friends etc..I think he may be having a problem with his friends in school too..so be very patient and do not show your tension or any such expression by which he may feel that you are worried about him..this may have a negative impact..so be cool..and dont be so worried..every thing will be fine one day..