Letting Go or Fighting for the one you love?

Regardless of being married, involved or just for fling... when love is the issue, its all hard to face the truth.. al those two have consequences... first of my decisions, is to let it go.. that may make the person i love to choose the path he wanted, and choose the person he loved most that can make him happy, honestly, its true that what makes him happy, we give it a chance, if he is really into it.. why try to hold him back? but, the consequence is in return all for you, that you have learned to let it go but what inside you bleeds, because you love that person, because of too much and so much you can ever give, since you want to give everything, therefore you'll give the freedom..... as you watch the person go, you will feel the mixed emotions of joy and pain, but the most later part, when you're alone and everything seems silent, you will have the bitter memories of that person, reminiscing all the happy days and the greatest times you have been both..you will obviously have the last cry... second is, you have to fight for it. as well as the first, this also have the consequence... even if you try to change something or improve the person, no matter how many times you sacrifice and fight for it, or even force the bond to hold on... eventually the strongest dam will give way to the water... feelings will just be overwhelmed and shall be release in the most natural, that no matter how much you fought for it, it just ended up the way you never want to.. but luck is always there, the person you have loved so much may settle, and as he do, he'll blend with you and will find his reasons to hold on, thus in time the fighting will develop into true love... the luckiest to have a person change for the sacrifice and benefit of love. we cant force and hold someone in chain... we are humans with wide spaces and wide possibilities, no one can ever imprison us because of forceful love.. i believe its the best is we have the natural flow, where love comes and stays, there is no need for sacrifices and letting go, its then just the way it is as you pleased, but we can only picture that for the best compatibilities.. and hence mostly so hard to find.. thats why we can never blame people even if in the peak of pain and misery they hold on, even if the person doesn't want your love, we plead and ask over and over again for chances... because no one can tell where we can go.. thats how much liberated and solemn love can be.. take care joven^_^

Why is love defined in terms of having and not having or fighting and letting go? Isn't it true that love is not about choosing sides but rather the cohesion of two opposing forces ? If one needs to fight just to justify their emotion, then it is not love. If one has to give up and let go just to prove you are willing to sacrifice then it is not love. Both instances shows underlying motives that are self serving. The person who fights wants everyone especially their beloved to know that he/she can love fiercely and willing to do everything to validate that emotion. Their behavior says: "I love therefore I am." Their existence as a human is anchored on how well they love and how much when true love should have been immeasurable and does not define time. The person who lets go is taking the passive role yet is of the same mind as the one who takes the active role in proving their love. Passive lovers try to validate their emotions by showing to everyone: "I have loved. There's nothing more that I want as long as m love is happy." Well I hope the Vatican elevates you to sainthood. That is not love. Love is more than mere emotion. It is a state of being. We exist because of love. We are alive because of love. We will live beyond the physical realm because of love. It is immeasurable, undefinable and boundless. In fact it is a two edged sword in that it can not be caged within the laws of the universe or of man. However love follows the laws of the spiritual realm, that one place unexplored fully by human understanding. We are only at the tip of the iceberg when it comes to comprehending what love is and how to love one another.

When it comes to love, I'm a certified fighter to the point that it can break me. Letting go is just a cliche found in poems and love stories. Everything worth having is worth fighting for. I did that mistake before when my 1st "unofficial" girlfriend just left me because I don't know my place in her life. I can't declare to her other suitors that I AM her boyfriend because truthfully I had a low self esteem. Me and my girl were 2 opposite sides of the coin. I felt there was just too much to live up to so instead of fully doing my best I just disappeared in the shadows.

I guess both... first fight for the one you love by not giving up... do the best possible way to save the relationship...do not give up that easy... prove your love... give all that you can... in the end if it doesn't work I guess thats the time to let go... atleast you did your best... you gave your all...

i think..it's when i let go of the one i love and go on with my life and search for the one..

If you truly love that person and that she also loves you in return.....you must fight for what you really feel...but in other cases,,...there are those who stay foolish..continuing the fight eventhough there the one he/she loves doesn't give any importance to him/her....

As for me, I would let go and fight for the one I love. Letting go here, means when you are just courting with someone, you have to have the courage to NOT fight too much to have the one you love. Sometimes you have to know where to draw a line. It takes 2 to clap. Learn to let go. However, when it's in the marriage situation, you have to learn to fight for the one you love. Because you honor your vow and you would want the other party to do the same as well, plus that is what commitment is.