Step-Child Adoption
By anij34
@anij34 (317)
United States
February 23, 2007 9:32am CST
My mother divorced when I was young and she remarried when I was 4 and my stepdad adopted me when I was 6. It was a wonderful gift and he will always been my daddy.
I am remarried with a 4 yr old and my 2nd husband wants to adopt my daughter, my ex husband hasn't been around since she was 8 months old. My daughter is excited about her "daddy" and wants to change her middle name and last name. I will consider letting her change her middle name. (From Kayla to Kaitlyn...not a huge change)
Whats your feelings on the step-parent adopting the child when the birth parent is not around.
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4 responses
@ScrappinHappyMom (914)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I think it is a wonderful idea! Esp. if the birth father is not involved in her life.
By your husband adopting her it will give her a sense of true belonging. I see so many kids that go through life without a real daddy and it just breaks my heart.
Just like it meant so much to you it will also to her. She will be able to say "My" dad and know in her heart that he really is her dad.
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@Joey322 (272)
• United States
23 Feb 07
i think it's great if the birth parent is non-existent.
it will give her that comfort of having two parents and a real sense of family.
i am curious as to why she is is changing her middle name though?? that isn't "normal" for an adoption....
is is just b/c she wants to??
take care!
@anij34 (317)
• United States
23 Feb 07
She approached me with the idea of changing her middle name. My parents offered it to me when my last name was being changed over to my new dads name. Since they were changing one name it isn't hard to do both at the same time. I was surprised when my daughter asked me if she could. (She is only 4 but she is at a 6 yr old level in most areas.) I have no problem with her changing her middle name, its the name I had originally wanted to give her and she wants it!
@msmonkeyfeet (789)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I think it's an awesome idea that your husband wants to adopt your daughter! I think that there's far more to being a parent than just being a dna donor and if your husband is willing to take that responsibility and loves your daughter like she was his own then hats off to him!
@kjkrush (41)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I think that is sooo wonderful.
I will become a step mother this summer. I wish I could adopt my step children. Unfortionately, their mother has custody of them for all the wrong reasons.
Feel greatful that you found a man who can except your daughter as his own.
