How do you convince someone who's talented to write more often?
By Profetu
@Profetu (1253)
Romania
February 23, 2007 10:53am CST
I am what people call an artist myself,i appriciate beauty in all known arts.Now i have this problem:my lover is quite talented at writing,teachers at different universities are telling that too.But still she doesn't want to write something that will go "public".She still doesn't think she's good enough for that,therefor she's writing only for her and my eyes.How could i convince her that she's good enough to take that shot?
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7 responses
@gharinder (2044)
• India
24 Feb 07
my best friend was really very impressive at writing things, i just used to motivate her by telling her how she could use this talent for earning money, because she was facing financial problems, i succeeded to some extent, but she was a lazy bee. i think give her some positive remarks, try to motivate her frequently, i think she will definitely respond
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@gharinder (2044)
• India
24 Feb 07
i think you misunderstood what i really meant, i just meant to say that since my friend was suffering financial problems ,i used it a tool to motivate her, i think you must be knowing better, any personal thing that will help u to boost her for writing
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
24 Feb 07
Oh yeah i know that i can get results if i can "motivate" her frequently.....and the result will be something flying towards me at a high velocity (kidding).I really don't want to stress or anything...and under no circumstance i will not bring it forth if it was for money.That she can decide for herself (the money problem) if she wants or not to make money.thank you for posting
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
24 Feb 07
Maybe i did missunderstood...Thank you for your advice...but i don't think that will work with her.She could have the biggest money problem in the world,she will still not do it.Becouse (and i quote): "Writing only for selling,like so many so-called writers are doing,would be like maintaining body beauty only to sell it for good money after".I don't know if i translated it good enough,but i think it is translated well enough to get her point.I guess that,for now,she's a "lost cause" and there is nothing i can do(sigh).
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
26 Feb 07
It seems like no matter how talented someone is as a writer, they are not always going to write for publication.
I have lived with someone who was a "literature quality" wordsmith. I am talking about someone who could "paint with words," and had a vocabulary that would put even the most learned to shame. She could turn "life inside a ping-pong ball" into riveting prose. And she KNEW she was a good writer... yet, it largely "bored" her, and she said she really had very little interest in trying to write anything for publication.
She would periodically pull amazing poetry and stories out of thin air, get accolades from anyone who saw them, and then reply "Oh, gimme a break!" when anyone suggested she should publish.
It could be that your lover is not yet "ready," or it could be that she's simply not interested in writing, in "that context."
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@Transformed (1259)
• United States
25 Feb 07
She is good enough for something to go public. In our current post-modern era, pretty much "anything" can be published. She could even try self-publishing or publishing at a small, local company. If you live in a city remotely close to urban, you'll have at least one publishing house. I've been researching the process myself in hopes of finding a taker for my first novel. I wish you good luck.
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
25 Feb 07
Thank you.Well,we have some publishing companies here considering the fact that we live in Bucharest(which is the capital of my country)...One of the reasons she doesn't want to go public is exactly becouse now a days everybody and everything gets published.Thank you for your advice and i wish you best of luck with your novel :)
@TinWolf (184)
• United States
23 Feb 07
A very important "keyword" in your Q is CONVINCE! SHE might equate that to Convert? Demand? Pressure? The desire to express, through the written word is most often SELF INDUCED, though we are ofetn influenced externally in the form of suggestive ideas about subject matter.
SHE MAY in effect ascimilate "CONVINCE" as "DO YOUR HOMEWORK?" Certainly one thing you can do is ease up on NUDGING, but if you're at all supportive and knowledgeable of her work, BORROW some of it, and PROMOTE her through it. You state clearly "LOVER",,, No offense, but if that's the case, I'm going to assume YOU "LOVE" HER! I suspect much of her writing that she doesn't wish to be PUBLIC, is quite "personal" to her at least, and without question her feelings should be honored. I also suspect if allowed YOU can help promote and help expose her work, appropriately, in showing your love, and even the slightest affirmations might "Encourage" her.
Steven Wolf
Inked and ready for more than 50 years
@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
23 Feb 07
Well..i do love her(without the quotes)...and i didn't try to convince her about the writing in a obvious and "brutal" way .I try to be as subtle as i can...I really wouldn't like to make her feel uncomfortable in any way.I didn't do anything but encourage her untill now.In my humble oppinion,I respect her decisions.It just went through my mind that i would get some good advices here(which i did).Her writing is personal becouse it describes life through her eyes..I just want her not to waste this talent...(again in my oppinion) when you have a talent you should share it with the world,becouse there is a certain lack of talents in literature (at least in my country) at this moment.
Thank you for posting and giving me an advice.All the respect and best of luck to you Mr Steven Wolf.
@lindajm (24)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Maybe she's not ready. Ten years from now she may feel differently about where she's going with her writing. In the meantime she can set up a good filing system to save her early writing attempts. She could also start a writer's notebook and/or journal.
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@Profetu (1253)
• Romania
23 Feb 07
Thank you for your advice.She already has a notebook (and I read it with growing delight everytime)..The thing is that i am afraid to wait ten years...What she writes is pretty good now...I guess i am just afraid that,after ten years,becouse of (now this i hope it will not happen) some life events she will consider this hobby of her to be ...i don't know...a waste of time?...The point is that she is good at writing(i would post at least a few phrases here but that i consider being a violation of her intimacy) and i woulds really like her to realise that as soon as possible,but i find myself in the role of Don Quijote...I mean..if those literature teachers she has met told her to start writing without any fear didn't convince her...what will? Thank you again for posting :)
@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
It has been said that 'writers are the only people that would rather be scrubbing the toilet than writing'... read the book 'bird by bird' (not sure who its written by, its been a long time since i read it...time to re read it for sure!!)
or perhaps she just doesn't have the drive or passion to do so...it seems either you have it or you don't
good luck...
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