I have 3 boys age 8 and under I cant seem to keep them occupied.

My kids do all these things too, and they are 4 yr old twins. To get them to stop writing on the walls, I became inventive. A shower curtain is taped to the wall, and I started coloring on it and having fun. They joined in and won't color anywhere else. And it comes clean with a sponge. When the girls fight, I seperate them for 10 minutes then they miss each other so much that they are happy to see each other. When they tell me NO, I tells them NO back to whatever it is that they want. If they say no to putting the toys back in the toy bucket, I tell them they NO to getting another toy, a drink or whatever they really seem to want right then. Then they decide to do what they were told to do, because they know after they do what they are told to do, they will get something they want. I think most kids go to school not ready, that is why there is preschool. But for kids that don't go to preschool the best thing you can do is buy them a little desk, and have them sit at it and show them shapes and colors and stuff like that. Also have them color at their own little desk. Even if that desk is a flatboard propped on a bucket, it makes them feel like big kids.

Demonstrations of love like hugs and kisses and murmurs of I love you's will do wonders. Rather than yelling, calling them to a meeting while keeping the 3 and 4 younger ones clutched, and explaining what is it that you want them to do will produce better results. The 8 year old can help you with side comments regarding the things they are doing which are very annoying and why they should stop it. You can appeal to their senses by saying that you are finding them so difficult to handle, it makes you feel sick. Shot them this question 'Would they want their mother to be sick, feel very bad, be bedridden and then die if they will not behave?' The answer will always be a no. Then say in closing 'If you really do not want me to die, then behave.' Conduct this meetings once or twice a week. Innovate. And see how it produces beautiful results. I found this very effective with my kids.

Well most likely video games are the answer but you have to watch what you let them play. Letting them watch TV is good too. If they argue over who gets to play first or what show to watch then take it away from them and play the game or pick your own show. Let them know that they can't just get their way all the time. You have to be strong with little boys. If they know that they can get away with something they'll keep doing it. It also helps to give them the cold shoulder for a little while usually after about ten minutes their crying and saying sorry and wanting to cuddle up with you. This what I did when I was babysitting. You have to get them to respect your authority without being mean or abusive. I don't believe in spanking though.