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Counseling is one of the best things that I have ever done for myself. It's not an instant fix though but instead it is a committment for the long term. A good therapist can really help you to see things a totally different way and there is no good therapist that will sit there and tell you what's wrong with you. That is NOT what a therapist is there for. Instead, a good therapist will help you and your husband to really stop and think about what you are saying and about how you are saying it and then hopefully how to say it to each other without World War 3. And there is not ONE person in a relationship that is all wrong if there are TWO people in that relationship. I only accept half the blame for the problems in my marriage to my ex-husband. We didn't get a divorce though because of counseling, he was a bad man doing bad things so that's why we split up. But really, if you are committed to saving your marriage, therapy is a painful process but the end result can be a miracle.

Marriage counseling DOES really work! It is what saved my marriage and I look at the experience as a very positive one. Many marriage issues arise because of communication problems, not because one spouse is doing everything wrong. There are always things both people can improve on. If you get a good counselor then communication between you and your husband can open up, and you can understand why he thinks you do things wrong, and he can understand that you're a much better wife than he is giving you credit for. I admit I ended up crying quite a bit at our counseling sessions, but it was all good and for the first time in my life I can say I have a happy marriage. Go for it, and even if your husband won't go, go by yourself, it will help you to overcome whatever issues are going on.