Do you ever miss being single?
@sarahkskeeters (235)
United States
February 23, 2007 10:20pm CST
Do you ever wish you were single again or do you like the safety and security of being married?
8 responses
@roadlesstraveled (14)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Hmmmm. I never thought that safety and security comes when one is married. I do not wish to be cynical but there are over 60% of worldwide married couples who go the usual bout of divorce, annullment, legal separation, and what-have-you's after romance fades away. I have never been in the other side of the fence to choose which is the "more" secure and safe lifestyle. I do not uphold marriage for convenience. There is nothing convenient in having to sacrifice and compromise for your spouse and children. Yet, my doors are not closed for the eventuality of marriage if the right person comes my way. Marriage is a gift. Like any gift, we treasure it. Yet, we can't force it to happen. We should all learn the art of contentment.
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@hdb425 (72)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
I totally agree with you! There is no security and safety, not even in marriage itself. Once you feel safe and secure in it, complacency sets in and it might be the cause for troubles ahead. Even in marriage, no man or woman should sit on their laurels - it takes constant work, adjustment, re-adjustment, re-romance to actually make a marriage secure. Having experienced marriage that almost went over the edge, I've learned that we cannot be complacent about it - like a precious gem, it has to polished and taken cared of to maintain its luster and brilliance.
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@sarahkskeeters (235)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I will not argue that marriage these days does not mean what it used to and WAAAAY too many people marry for the wrong reasons, only to discover a few weeks, months, years down the road that they are not happy and would prefer a different life. BUT, that is not the way it is supposed to be and I still uphold that lots of people still marry for love and have the dedication and committment it takes to make it work. Are there enough people like that out there? NO. But they exist. Marriage is SUPPOSED to be forever. It is SUPPOSED to equal safety and security.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Sometimes I do when my hubby gets on my nerves, when we have had an argument and it hasn't been resolved, when he can't see my views and only his LOL there has been many a time that i wished i was single.... but thank God they are only wishes because i would prefer in the long run, the safety and security of being married.
@sarahkskeeters (235)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I totally agree with you. When my husband and I argue and he doesn't listen to me I get SO angry! But, in the end, I wouldn't want to give up the security of being married. I love my husband and am glad to have found someone to share the rest of my life with.
@mizcheekz (178)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Of course I sometimes wish I were single - but it's usually short lived. =) Like most other posters, the security of knowing you get to spend life with the person you love and knowing you will always have someone by your side is priceless -- but don't we all just want to get away sometimes. I have to admit I did enjoy single life, but in the end, marriage takes the cake. I think just when all of lifes responsibilies start building at once is when I just want to sneak out the door and not tell anyone where I am. hehe Then my child says "lu u" (love you) and I remember why I could never leave. Oh yea, and because I love my husband. lol
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@sarahkskeeters (235)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Very well put! I coudn't have said it better myself. You expressed exactly how I feel. Thank you so much for responding.
@silverflick (5)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I married late, age 28, so I guess I've made the most of my single years. I now have a 4 month old baby and I'm spending a lot of time with her when I'm not working.
@sarahkskeeters (235)
• United States
24 Feb 07
It sounds like you got to enjoy the best of both worlds! Congratulations on your new baby (we have a 4 month old too). I don't think 28 is late in life to get married, though. I think it's just right. You're still young, but old enough that you got to enjoy a few years of fun and freedom.
@coolchic101 (848)
• United States
26 Feb 07
When I had friends and partied a lot, I was always craving to be in a relationship and for someone to love me and love them back. The whole point of me and my friends going out was to look for boyfriends. After my friend left me and started hanging out with some of her other friends, I ended up lonely. Thank God I met my husband! We've been together for 10 years and been married for 4 years. We've been through alot but we have lots of love for each other. We need each other. We need love, like we need food and water. Thats what I live for. I live for my spouse and my children.
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@sarahkskeeters (235)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I know what you mean. Rarely was I happy being a single person. When I wasn't in a relationship, I was looking for one.
@taps67 (4)
• India
26 Feb 07
yes sometimes i do wish i were single again but this is not because i am not happy in marriage etc but because i was never really able to enjoy my youth the way i would like to have because of poor living conditions and a a troubled relationship between my parents
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Sometimes I do when my hubby gets on my nerves, when we have had an argument and it hasn't been resolved, when he can't see my views and only his LOL there has been many a time that i wished i was single.... but thank God they are only wishes because i would prefer in the long run, the safety and security of being married.
