Could you forgive your husband if he cheated?

I think it all depends on the situation. If you have children then it's not just about you and him anymore, so it's not as easy to walk away. And if it's the first time or not. I always said before I was married that if my husband ever cheated I would leave no questions asked. But now that I'm married with kids the ball game is all differnt.

You know, I'd like to think I could forgive and get past it, but I just don't know. I think as someone else said, it's a matter of being in that situation and dealing with it then. I think it would be extremely hard to break it off if you have kids together. We have two young ones and I think I'd consider working it out moreso for them and so even if I couldn't fully trust or forgive I might stay for them. I mean I would stay because I love him but I know my kids would play a huge role in it. And I hope I don't get a bunch of negative replies about having to be happy yourself and not staying for the kids but I have to think that it really would be a factor in the decision. All that being said, I am quite confident that it is not an issue I'll ever have to deal with. I know everyone says that, but I believe it wholeheartedly. (and i wouldn't have said that in previous relationships) Just my two cents.

I couldn't forgive because I'v been there before with my ex fiance. He cheated with his ex girlfriend, and I thought I loved him so much that I had to try to forgive him, but I could never trust him again, and grew to resent him, and felt terrible loss of my self esteem. So I just coudlnt' put myself through that again.

Yes it would be painful as we are humand and bound by human emotions and attachments.... But will definately try to FORGIVE him...that dosen't mean that I will get back with him...I might or I might not.. But forgiving is very important is what I feel...as by forgiving it would actually help you to heal yourself of this trauma.....All humans cannot be the same so I would not like to label all men as cheaters.....:)

My husband cheated on me about 3 years ago. It was really hard to get past, and in alot of ways i dont fully trust him anymore. There are some things that will probably always bother me, and some things ill get past. But we are still together, still working at our relationship. So i suppose thats testimonial unto itself.

I didn't think I could get past something like that... until my husband cheated on me. We separated for a while but we still loved each other very much. We went to marriage counseling and dealt with the issues that had led to his cheating. Two years later I am finally able to say I have forgiven him. He has worked very hard (to my absolute amazement how much he has changed) to earn back my trust and our communication has improved a thousand-fold. I admit that I do not trust him quite as much as I once did, but I feel certain that one day I will be able to. Between two people who love each other so much they promise their lives together, I believe that it can be forgiven. I only give one "second chance" though.

no, i could not forgive him, it's way too hard to be able to forget something like that! it'd be hard for me to forgive!

I do not think i could forget if he cheated on me. i might eventually be able to forgive him. but i dont think i'd ever fully trust him again. I think i would have to leave him and just leave the situation all together, it would be too painfull to look at him everyday and know that he betrayed me and wonder when he will do it again.

No way, I could not forgive and forget. It is too painful and I could never trust a man that cheated on me.

I don't think that I could get past it. I was hurt in the past and will not ever go through that again.

I think that this is one of those things that you don't know exactly how you would react until it happens. I don't think that I would be able to forgive my husband if he slept with another woman. I am sure that I would never trust him as I have trust issues already.

I donot know if I could forgive him or not.It will be too painful for me as I love him too much.I am not sure if living together again will be possible.I could never trust him again.

I think it all depends on the situation. If you have children then it's not just about you and him anymore, so it's not as easy to walk away. And if it's the first time or not. I always said before I was married that if my husband ever cheated I would leave no questions asked. But now that I'm married with kids the ball game is all differnt.