How to change my father?

Hi! Let me start first by saying that parents always think they know best, and they are "suggesting" things because that's the best option. Especially for us Asians. It's their way of protecting (more like overprotecting) us. I don't really know if your father will change, but you should probably show him (not just tell him) that you do have a mind of your own by sticking by your decisions if you know that you are right. Maybe one day, he will realize that you are already an adult after all and can decide for yourself. In the meantime, for small things, give the old man some leeway and bow to his wishes if that's not that much of a big deal, if it's going to make him happy. But for the big decisions, you have to make them yourself, and you have to stand your ground. Always remember that parents want what is best for you....although what seems to be the best for you from their point of view may not be the best for you in the larger scheme of things.

This is the time when you will have to undertake a fine time talking with dad. Have a heart to heart talk with him and explain that although you understand that he is well meaning in everything that he does involving you, it seems he has forgotten that you have already come of age to be somehow enjoying some independence in pursuing a lifestyle of your own. By the way he has been influencing your growing up years, one can surmise that you are quite close to each other and that's good and healthy relationship between father and son.