Would you return all the gifts given after a break up?
By hottie0728
@hottie0728 (1732)
United States
February 24, 2007 2:33am CST
I know it is a gift and I know that it shouldn't be returned but sometimes the guy/girl might asked some of the "expensive" gifts back like a jewelry. I believe that if my bf have given me something even if it's expensive...I am gonna keep it even if we broke up. I didn't asked for it anyway...it's his choice to buy those stuffs. Well if he asked for it then maybe I should return it, haha! I just think it's silly to asked something back you have given.
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18 responses
@dolfinllvr73 (31)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Legally you would have the right to keep it, even a engagement ring because it was given under the understanding that it is a gift. I wouldnt give anything back nor would I request anything back from anyone. I mean do when you go shopping for that special gift do you actually ask yourself if you like it enough to take it back later?
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@MySpot (2600)
• United States
12 Mar 07
Actually, I once watched a TV court case where the girl was ordered to give her engagement ring back after a break up... Of course, this was Judge Judy, who I don't find to be a fair Judge at all. As a matter of fact, it wasn't even the girl who ended the relationship but the guy that broke off the engagement! I think she said something on the lines of the ring being given with the 'intent of marriage' and because they were no longer getting married, it didn't belong to her anymore. I thought that she should have been allowed to keep it because she wanted to marry him, as it was he who decided he no longer wanted marriage.
I agree that you shouldn't ask for a gift to be returned.
@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
25 Feb 07
BTW...your cat looks adorable!
Very cute inside the blankie...nice pic!
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
7 Mar 07
Certainly I will not return the gifts on my own. Because when the gift was given, there was true concern and affection. The gift carries that affection or love whatever it is, with itself. Just because we are separated now, the happiness and feeling of the old time will not go away, may be it pains for the separation. If the person asks for it, I will not be adamant and return the gift back to the person.
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@Slim_Shady (668)
• Romania
24 Feb 07
if my partner , well , my ex partner with ask for all the gift she gived to me , i would give them back , all of them ! One of the reasons that i would give them all back , is that she will realize that she's was the only thing that meant to my , not some gifts !
The second reason would be that , if everything is truly over , what would i want to keep her gifts , to keep alive her memory , hell no , that's gonna make me suffer so take them !
@sweetstacy (159)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
well..before,when me and my boyfriend had petty fights,i usually ask for the things that i give him.but now,when i think of it,i just find it too immature.so whenever we break up..hopefully we would,i wouldn't ask for the things i gave him,even though they were so expensive.and i wouldn't return to him anything either.just break up.no strings attached anymore.
@pebbles_cubbie (3789)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I will keep everything the guy gave me regardless of how much it cost. If he didn't want me to have it in the first place then he shouldn't have given it to me. It's his loss. If it's expensive then I'll try to sell it. I keep a few things from a serious relationship a while back but I either can use it or just not ready to throw it out. I did throw most of everything out but it took me a long time to do. He didn't ask for anything back when we split. He knew he wasn't getting it back anyways.
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@gwenmari1029 (1481)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
i usually don't and nobody ever asked their gifts back after we broke up. but in case he gave me something expensive and he wants it back, i'd give it back to him. i won't use it anyway and it will just remind me of my past with that person.
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@Lshauna1 (216)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I mad my fiance' so mad a while back until he asked for all my jewerly(diamonds) back. I laughed at him. Oh! did he get madder. I did not give it to him. I walked away and let him know take me to court.I got the papers(receipts). We made up but I bet he will not ask me for them again. Since then I have received 2 diamond rings. I just love him he spoils me rotten. H*ll NO I will not if his gift back. If he did not want me to have it he would not have bought them.
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
18 Mar 07
i wud like to return the gifts.. or else that wud keep me reminding of her presence.. whatever they may be.. i wud even like to return her snaps...
@kuncipintu (10)
• Malaysia
24 Feb 07
after i brake up with my gfs, usually I thrown away the gifts because i don't want to think about her then i also don't want she think of me. she will remember the memories as she saw the gift... :)
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@breepeace (3014)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
Unless it's an engagement ring and I called off the engagement, there's not a chance I would give back any gifts given to me. :)
I might give something back if I knew it meant something to him.
@simran1430 (1790)
• India
4 Mar 07
Everyone goes through a period of venting to their friends and family about what went wrong and how your ex deserves to go straight to prison. It's okay to do a little venting, but spare your inner circle from an endless tirade for months at a time. Commit to yourself that the next time you call a close friend, you'll focus exclusively on them. This will help you get out of your head for awhile and start feeling normal again.
@MySpot (2600)
• United States
12 Mar 07
I think it's totally rude to ask for a gift to be returned! Now, if you decide to return the gifts yourself because you don't want to be reminded of your ex, that's acceptable. Sometimes, if your relationship ended on bad terms, you might return gifts out of spite, as a way of saying that you felt they were as meaningless as the relationship. I'm not that mean though ; )
@BisNeSsmiNd (55)
• Malaysia
10 Mar 07
yeah... if we break up coz he betrayed me, then i might gift all his stuff back! if bcoz of famly, i would rather keep his presents- juz for refresh our sweet memories.. but no matter what, he had warned me neva return back his presents!!! i luv him!!! :p
@jcvernz (477)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
For me, No...I wouldn't returned the things given to me because it was a great insult to my ex-boyfriend part, i dont want to hurt his feelings inspite of his hurting mine because once we were able to share some kind of love:D and by seing his gifts at hand would remind me the nice things and the bad things...those where the days quite remembering..:D He also holds a special place in my heart so i will kept him and his memories in my heart.
