What would you do if ......

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@mipen2006 (5528)
Australia
February 24, 2007 4:19am CST
you saw your best freind's boy/girl friend out on a date with someone else? Would you tell your friend? Would you speak to their boy/girl friend? Or would you say nothing? Personally, I think I'd speak to the boy or girl friend first, but I'm not sure. What about you, what would you do?
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@anonymili (3138)
25 Feb 07
If I saw my close friend's spouse/partner out with someone else, I would actually go up to them there and then and introduce myself. I would make it very clear to the cheating person that I had seen them and that I'm not worried about them knowing. It might even be an innocent evening out, say with a business colleague or old college friend, but if it was evident that something was going on, for example, if I saw them kissing, I would make a comment such as "Oh David's wife/girlfriend is a very close friend of mine, have you met her?" or "How did you meet John? Do you know his girlfriend is my best friend?" Just in case he hadn't told the woman that he was already spoken for. Some of you might think that's evil of me, but hey, I don't lie for anyone and I'd expect my friends to do the same thing for me :)
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
A very good reply. You would make a very good friend, and I believe your approach is as good as any.
@astroo13 (963)
• India
25 Feb 07
There are a few people who are close to me. If this happens to one of them I will surely tell them. Because they would be very unhappy if I knew about something affecting their life and didn't bother telling them. Besides I would definitely want to know if something of this sort happens to me. I try to apply the same rules for me as well as my friends. Regards
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
You're a good friend. Anyone who treats people/friends as they like to be treated themselves is worth their salt.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
25 Feb 07
This is very complicated. First I would need to justify if that person is on real date or maybe just a business meeting.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
Yes. That would bw a good place to start. We would't want to be telling our friend, if there was nothing to it.
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
Before I made a 3rd world war between my bestfriend and her boyfriend with what I saw lol!! I really would talk to the boyfriend of my bestfriend and from the scenario I will really observe how romantic was the situation for I will defenitely want not to be misunderstood with what I saw. If I will talk to the boyfriend of my bestfriend I would really asked him first who and why that date happened as well as if he is serious to my friend and I will not be the one to spill the gossip I would let that boyfriend of my bestfriend to act as a man and be responsible of what he did and admit it to my bestfriend or else I will break his bone lol!!!kidding.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
Do you really think a situation like this is worth starting a third world war for. I can see you would be loyal to your friend, which is very good. However, me being a peace loving guy, I think I would remain silent.
@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
25 Feb 07
I am not malicious, what if the girl is just a friend or a relative. But if their actions would speak something fishy is going on, I will have to leave that to both of them to settle. I am not in the position to make any actions taht I would regret in the end. Of course I would certainly feel bad about that for my frned but I know where I stand and I wouldnt want to be the cause of any misunderstanding between them.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
An excellent response and is the poeition I think I would take under the circumstances.
• United States
25 Feb 07
Wow this one is a hard one. I know I would want to know of my friends show my man out with someones else. And knowing me I would walk up to the bf and say hi and see how he asked with knowing I had seen him out with another girl. And yes thenI wouls also tell my friend that I seen her man out with another girl.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
A very good approach. Direct and to the point, and if there was mothing wrong, well no damage done.
@hoghoney (3747)
• United States
25 Feb 07
first what I would do is walk right up to my friends bf or gf and let him or her know that they have been caught and tell them that you are telling your friend what you seen. and then I would go and tell my friend because if I didnt then that means that I not a true friend.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
You're probably given the best, and most honest and direct answer of all, and now I've heard it, that's exactly what should be done. Thanks, you've earned my best response!
@SilPhil (267)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
I'm really nosey, I'd definately get involved, even though I probably shouldn't. I'd talk to the boy/girl friend first and give them a chance to confess all. But, at the end of the day, my loyalty would be to my friend. It wouldn't be a pleasant situation to be in, but I'd want to be told if someone was cheating on me, so I'd do the same for someone else.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
Well, SilPlil tou're a true friend, but I think I'd rather just keep quiet.
@beaniegdi (1964)
24 Feb 07
This is a really hard one. I know I would be dying to tell but the best friend might not want to know. I watched Deperate Housewives the other week and one of the characters found out that a married guy was being unfaithfull to his wife. She went to tell the wife but she was not pleased to know as she had always turned a blind eye to this. I think sometimes it's best to keep out of other peoples relationships - even when you're dying to get involved.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
I believe you're takimg the diplomatic way out, and I'm inclined to agree with you.