It is never wrong to LOVE...even if the object of your love is already married
By cdparazo
@cdparazo (5765)
Philippines
February 24, 2007 5:44am CST
This in line with my other discussion on falling for somebody else' man. I came to realize that it is NEVER wrong to love even if the object of your love is a person already married or committed to someone else. What is wrong is the EXPRESSION of that love because you are NOT FREE to express that love. If life dealt us with a strange hand such as like this one, we should always think positively and draw from from our inner values and strength to realize the lessons we are meant to learn. I remember the one seminar I had attended and a man shared about his experience on falling for his officemate. They were always together and it can't be prevented that he fell for the girl. But he found the will to confess to his wife and to asked her to help him sort out the way he feel about his officemate. He asked his wife to help him because he knows that he is not free to express that love because he is married. He also owes his wife his loyalty & honesty and falling for somebody else doesn't mean that he no longer love his wife. He said he didn't plan nor want to fall for another woman but it happened and he realized that the best way to deal with it is for his wife to help him and in the end it made their marriage stronger for having weathered such trial. It find it very extraordinary.
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@livelifemax (91)
• India
24 Feb 07
I think love is a very good thing but any human feeling should be practical and reasonable.There is no logic in loving a girl/boy who is already committed or married.That would only bring distress to everyone.
@galatea (686)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
very few men have such restraint. i only hope they included my dad and my exs'.
but for all men out there i would rather have an honest husband/boyfriend who tells me when they falter and ask me for help rather tahn they try to macho it out on their own not knowing that they have already fallen through the sweet but painful trap of infidelity.
some of them reason out that they didnt want to hurt us that was why they hid it, or that they didnt think it was important, or that it was personal. i believe that when 2 people decide to embark on a relationship, their personal lives become one. as we share our physical so we share our emotional.
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@cdparazo (5765)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
That was why i find it extraondinary for the man who shared his experience. Most men would ordinarilly throw all caution to the winds and never think to restain themselves. He did the right thing in asking for his wife's help and it takes a wise, God-fearing and loving man to do something like that.
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