my 21 year old has moved back in

Well its certainly not horrible, you thought you were going to have time and space to yourselves and now you dont. I would keep encouraging him to find his own place because people do need to learn how to be independent and stand on there own two feet, but things also happen in life where we need a little help from others to help us get going again. As long as he knows hes loved then i dont see why you cant keep trying to get him to make his own way in the world.

When u are 21 you are supposed to be able to be on your own feet and manage by yourself, however u didn´t say much about what his reasons for moving back are´.. maybe it is just to get him ba ck on his feel for a while? I have a brother who is 23 that has moved back home after breaking up with his girlfriend. It was her apartment so he had no choise but it is just a temporary solution and although this is frustrating to my parents they do understand!

Your not horrible. Its all a matter of opinion and everyone is different. I was heartbroke when my son moved out but I think thats because him and I were alone through most of his life. It was just me and him. When I moved in with my boyfriend, he came with us along with his girl and then eventually their son. I loved having them all here but there were days that they drove me nuts. Although I was upset when he moved out, I knew that they had to get their own place and live on their own. But I told them if they ever need a place to stay, they can come back. My boyfriend has been very suportive of this whole thing even though he complains a lot when other people live with us. So I kind of know how you feel, you love them and want to help but at the same time your hoping they can make it on their own.

No your not horrible hes only 21 I think that is young for him to be on his own. But I was 18 when I moved out. I think its harder out there for a guy maybe you can help him by suggesting you wiil help him look for a place of his own. Listen it always works out. Enjoy him for now.

You're not horrible. He is lucky you both are letting him live with you. It killed me when I had to move back in with my parents. However, my health was so poor I had no choice. If he doesn't have a health problem, then would you consider showing him a timetable? This way you can set a chart of where you expect him to be. You could plan how many weeks it would take to get a job, how many weeks after the job it would take to save money for his own place... I feel sorry for you guys. My parents were great to me when I lived with them, but I'm glad I'm out now. They deserved time to themselves.

make him welcome and comfy encourage him to do something with his life though maybe he will get bored or meet a girl or send him back to school maybe help him get on with his life maybe