Have you ever been converted to another religion???
By Rexy_leigh
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
Philippines
February 24, 2007 10:29am CST
While myloting I was also chatting with my long lost friend, a real good friend way back my college days. We still live in the same city though, but because of real busy schedules, we haven't seen each other for almost a year and a half now..:(
Well, my concern is that she told me that she transfered to a "born again christian" from a "roman catholic" for almost four months now. I respect her decision and have nothing against any religion. But the thing is she hasn't informed her family about this, I mean not even one of her families knew about this... well, she's already in a legal age of 21, maybe that makes her feel she can already make decisions on her own, but she's still single though.. do you think she did the right thing??? do you think it's a no big deal to inform her parents that she changed her religion, knowing she's still single???
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25 responses
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
In regards to your friend I do think that she is old enough to belong to whatever church she wants to and feels comfortable in, as originally it was not her decision to chose her religion but her parents, and like myself my parents chose my religion for me but I changed it later on in my life and have been happy that I did so. Whether she is single or not has nothing to do with religion.
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@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
thanks for the reply..yeah, i believe she's old enough to decide on matters like this..but my point is, at least she could have told her parents bout it, though she might not really listen to their advises...
@baldudexx (28)
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25 Feb 07
I agree.
Religion is about which one suits you best because none of your beliefs which suit you perfectly so you have to adapt and follow the one which you think is right for you.
If her parents chose her religion and she was unhappy what would the point be ??
@lanfear55 (157)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Personaly in my life I have changed my religion twice. The first change i wont go into but it wasnt so much of a change but just a rejection of how I was raised. The second change was to Islam. My family really didnt understand at first. Of course they had the knee jerk reaction thinking that I was going to let some man controll my life and beat me. They didnt feel that this religion made any sense for me because I have always been very strong willed. Once they became more edjucated on the matter though, they now understand. Now going from roman catholic to born again, that is going to be a more tricky one to deal with with her parents. In the roman catholic religion there is a lot of heavy guilt overtones where as in a more contemporary christan setting its more forgiveness based. Whenever she does decide to tell her family they will probobly be very upset at first and tell her that she is leaving behing all of the values that they have taught her. But after they see that she is happier living this way they may understand better. I mean shes still christian, so there really wont be that much of a problem, its just technicalities.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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25 Feb 07
i was brought up as a methodist christian from my Fathers family and a wiccan witch from my mother's tradition. Luckily my family was relaxed about religion and eventually i chose to follow a wiccan/pagan path .
I feel it is important that we all find the path that is right for us. I also feel that it is important that this should be done with as little outside influence as is possible in this modern world of mass and instant communication. For me, it is not important to tell others about your religion or even your choices, what most certainly is important is the choice is made sincerely and with knowledge. Not knowledge given from a priest, vicar, immam or learned person, but knowledge of how you feel
blessed be
do as you will but hurt no one
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@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Thanks for your thoughts, eskarena... I do appreciate your points of views... :)
@charmedguyp1 (431)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Maybe the family is not 'big' on religions. Maybe she felt like changing her religion wouldnt matter to her family. I would never do such a thing without informing my parents because it would be a great disrespect to them if I would decide on such a big thing without asking for their opinion.
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@2ndHand (13)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
she really is old enough to make decisions which she believes is best for her. unfortunately, it would be better is she, at least, inform her parents and siblings about her transfer.
me, i was born as a Roman Catholic and i will stick with it forever. i have found where my happiness is.
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
I agree with you, she's old enough to decide but at least, she could have informed her parents about it.. :)
@sugarnspice (110)
• United Arab Emirates
25 Feb 07
I am Roman Catholic, I personally would not think of changing my religion. Having said that I know quite a few people who have transferred to be "born again Christians". Speaking about your friend, I am assuming that she is confident about her decision to change her religion, so I see no point in her hiding it from her family. In fact, I think that she should inform them herself, rather than wait for them to hear about it from someone else. That would hurt them and it would look like she was ashamed to be a born again Christian. I am not sure how her single status has anything to do with it?
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
I do share the same thoughts with you. And for the single status, well I just thought that she is still in a way or another under her parents' guardianship and care, coz unlike in the US where most children who reached the age of 18 has to move out and start living on their own, we Filipinos usually stay with our family 'until we get married. :)
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
24 Feb 07
I do belive that it is her decision but she should atleast tell her family about it, they have the right to know about it, even if it´s not there decision to make.
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@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Thanks for the reply..yeah, that's what I've told her too. she might not really follow what her parent's would tell her about changing her religion, but at least she could have informed them..even just her mom...for me, it's just a big sign of disrespect to her parents, especially if they would know that some of her friends, like me have known this thing way ahead than them.. :)
@nafeesa_mohd (281)
• India
25 Feb 07
i'm a born muslim.... but till the age of 18 i didnt practice islam properly.... i think no one belongs to any religion unless or otherwise they really fear god and follow the principles in that religion.... in that case i think i was converted to islam again at the age of 18.... my life is peaceful now.... thanx to Allah, the most gracious and most merciful.....
@AngelicDevil20 (855)
• India
25 Feb 07
Its her own wish.. There is nothin wrong in it.. But even though she could have informed her family..
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@pelo26 (1552)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
Yes... I was once invited by a friend to a small party in some house which turned out to be a house of praise of a religous group plainly called as christians. The next thing I know was we were being recruited and after which came a baptismal where I was bathe in a small tub. It was pure peer pressure and I was ashamed of not having able to stand up for my grown religion. Im a catholic since birth and intend to die as one.
@jayrulezzz (52)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
im open in any kind of religion but never been converted since i was born. though i attend in diffent sectoral christian religion, im still practicing the teachings of catholicism
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@prettyamylee (30)
• United States
25 Feb 07
religion is a very personal aspect of ones beliefs. i was thrust into many religions while I was young as my mom was trying to find the 'right' one. She settled on Roman Catholic, but now I am more of a gnostic "seeker of truth". Its her decision if she want to tell her parents. If you tell, she may get upset.
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@mspchaitanya (17)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I feel that the issue is much more complex than "informing" the parents. Though I have not had the exprience of conversion from one religion to other, my mother had converted from Hinduism to Christianity (protestant) and I know what goes into such sort of experiences. Though she was over 21 when she got converted, her decision was not welcome and she was ostracized from her house. Its way back in 1979, things are much different but the same sort of dynamics go into this sort of issue. Those things hurt and personally, I feel that it doesn't matter whether your friend informs her family or not. When the time is ripe they will get to know about your friend's religious affiliation. Thank you.
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@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
thanks for your thoughts..I just hope things will turn out right when my freind's parents get to know this stuffs.. :)
@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Hi there, I was talking about a friend of mine who changed her religion for four months now without telling even one of her families... and am not so sure if she did the right thing, what do you think??? :)
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
25 Feb 07
yah, i converted to christianity from islam when i was younger. i didnt really know anything about islam growing up, so i'd always been taught christian ways. however, now i know more about many religions. i dont really consider myself to be religious at all. if someone asks me my religion, i say that im christian but that's basically because i believe in God and that Jesus is the Son of God. aside from that, i like to live my life the way i want to, not the way some religion or church tells me to live it. i also believe in many things from islam, so i guess i dont really know what i am.
@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
• Nigeria
25 Feb 07
People convert to different religions all of the time. Anyway people shouldn't use a forum like this to make a decision such as which religion they want to follow but then again that's my personal opinion. The best thing you or anybody can do is to research all of the different religions and then decide what suits you the best.
@mikekire (146)
• Nigeria
25 Feb 07
What matters most is one's personal relationship with God and not really the denomination.She can transfer from church to church and yet is not in good terms with God. Your church or religion cannot take one to heaven What can take one to heaven is a good life in Chrit Jesus.Simple. I am a catholic and i know that i am going to see God. I have every assurance of my salvation. I am bornagain.
@lilxlissa (10)
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25 Feb 07
No i havent and i have my religion that i like and want tp stay the same!