New Mommy with Lonliness Issues

Congratulations on your new baby girl. I'm sure she is a great comfort to you while your husband is away. Why not attend a nearby church. They usually have some activity that fits almost anyone. And they often have childcare while the adults are having their Bible study, cooking class, weight control meeting, sewing group, or whatever it is that interests you. You would be able to keep busy that way as well as have an opportunity to meet new friends. Good luck.

Would it be possible for you to join a club with other mothers in the community. Could you take a course at the local college and get a babysitter for one or two hours a week? You have to get out once in a while for your mental health. Good Luck from someone that has been there.

Girl, get out there and make some friends. I have three children and my husband has been away for eight months. You can only talk to your kids for so long before you HAVE to find another adult to talk to! Find a church or introduce yourself to your neighbors. That's what I did. I also got online and found women with similar interests to my own- and while the online chatting helps, it doesn't replace human contat. Women NEED friends! We are social creatures. Don't sit alone for much longer. I'm afraid you might fall into depression. We love our husbands, but we can't build every aspect of our lives around them. You need other women in your life. I'll be here for you if you want to talk. Just send me a message and we'll go from there. But please, do get out and meet some other Mommies.

I feel your pain. I was in the same boat that you are (my husband is in the Marine Corps). So here I am in a city where I don't know anyone. Yet I'm a stay at home mom going crazy from lonliness. So what did I do? I got in touch with some of the other Marine wives......turns out they were all as board as I was. So now we go out for lunches, get our nails done, talk on the phone.....you know all that fun stuff. Why don't you try contacting some of the other soldier's wives in your area? Where are you stationed? You need to be proactive and make friends.

My mom went through that too. Only she had 5 kids. My dad was in the Navy. She did alot of crafts, ceramics,crocheting,knitting etc.. Check with the military station where you are at, they used to have a group called the USO and they had planned activites all the time. It is a great way to meet other people in your situation and make friends with someone you have something in common with. Do you live in military housing? If not, have your hubby check into it since you have "dependents" now. Housing is a great place to meet folks. And most are courteous and friendly. They usually have little parks and play areas for the kids which is a great place to meet other moms.. Online, you can go to places like bored.com for giggles or pogo.com to play games. they even have solitaire..lol and lots of other games that are free to play.. There are alot of things you can do to occupy your time, but having someone to talk to and share things with and hang out with is much better while your beloved is away. I hope this helps you. Take Care

Hi, I am also a soldiers wife and know exactly what you are going through. The days get boring and can seem monotonous. I take my son to the parks and playgrounds, and just on walks. You will be surprised who you can meet at places such as those, some who may become a friend. When my husband is out on missions, such as now, I just make myself do things. Go out to dinner, make a playdate, meet up with friends. I'm not going to say that I'm a social butterfly, far from it, but when I get bored, that's what I do. Also, have you looked around on the internet for support groups for your area? I am a member of several, where I've met practically all of my friends in this area. Yahoo has some great ones, as does myspace. If you want, feel free to message me anytime. I know what you're going through and there are several other people that I know first hand that are members of mylot that does also.

Congratulations on your new baby. It's hard being alone in an area where you don't know any one. Your husbands's company should have some kind of suppoert for you. His company commanders wife is supposed to be leading something in this area. I don't know how you would go about finding out. The military is usually very good at making sure that the families are taken care of while the men are on missions. Get him to look into it. If he won't I know that there is some thing on the military base near you. the oters have given you good advise but hope this helps too. Please tell your husbad that I appreciate his beiing a soldier and will be praying for you and him.

I am an Ex Army Wife and I am surprised that you have not met any of the others Wives. My Ex Husband was in the British Army and we used to live in Army Quarters and I used to meet loads of People as it was a close nit. Do you not live near any other Soldiers Wives? You need to get out and about, even if you have like a Mother and Toddler Group, where you will meet other Mums.

It is very important to have some adult interaction while being a stay at home mother. I believe that at the end of the day this help for us to stay sane and also helps us be good mommys to our children as we are not dealing with lonliness and bordem. If you know no one, get out and try and meet some people. Maybe ladies who are in a similar situation. I always found that taking my children to any sort of playday groups or classes helped to make friends with people that you have things in common with...children! My friend and I joined a parenting group in our town. This was where the kids were looked after by certified people (in the same building) and the parents got together for coffee/ discussions ect. It was great! Get back in contact with any old friends...someone times a simple coversation over the phone is all one needs to keep themselves sane and not lonley! Keep smiling!

I can imagine just how difficult it must be for you. What I would suggest is look into joining a Mom's and Tots group or a swimming class just to meet other women. I am sure there are a lot of moms out there in the same situation. If you go to one of these play dates you will meet other women and hopefully make a good friend there. Someone you can have coffee with. Take the baby for nice walks and when the weather is better spend more time outside doing gardening and stuff and you are likely to meet some more neighbours. Good Luck.

wow u sound like me. i am the mother of 4 boys and my hubby works all the time so i don't get no ineraction with no other adults at all until he comes home at 9:00. I am new to Charlotte as well. I play video games with my boys and just do things they like to do to get by.

congratulations for your new angel. well regarding to your problem i guess one way to help you wont get bored is computers, if you have it in your home then it will help you so that you wont get bored when the baby is sleeping and you dont have nothing to do. reading a pocket book will also help. im sorry if you dont have someone to talk at your neighbor. at least internet can help you met people and got a chance to talk with them. just like here in mylot. hope your family will be fine. goodluck and godbless you and your family!

When I had my daughter I felt the same way, so I would go for walks. I would just get me and my daughter ready take enough stuff for the afternoon and walk sometimes I would end up at the mall or a park. I felt a little less lonely and it was nice to get out of the house. You could also look into some mommy and me groups that might be good for both you and the baby it gives you a chance to meet new people and her a chance to make friends. I hope some of this helped.

Have you thought about joining a mother's group in your area? There are a lot of places that have them just for the specific reasons you mentioned. It's a great way to get some adult interaction with like-minded mothers who know how you feel, while also still spending time with your kids.

You can really benefit from discussion on mylot or other discussion forums. You can get to know people through these types of things. No doubt it is a challenging situation to deal with. Hope you can find some friends in the area you live. Keep your eyes open for another mother in a similar situation.

Well, not to mean actually, but find something to do!! Talk to your neighbours! Do anything! It doesn't mean you have a baby and out goes your social life. Do some work at home.. or study something.. read a book or whatever.

i feel the same way. I have a daughter who is almost 3 and my husband works at night so he sleeps through the day. It is pretty much like he isnt here! Like others have said, join clubs, get out and meet people. I wish i could find some friends! It is hard living in a small town and not knowing anybody. Get some kind of hobby...i do penpalling, swapping. It makes me enjoy checking the mail each day.

We join Mylot lol. I'm sorry you're suffering from loneliness issues right now. It's a terrible thing. However, here at MyLot there are many people who love making new friends and discussing different topics. Time flies when you're posting discussions and responding to others lol. I hope that you'll keep on posting, it's a great way to make new friends. I LOVE that photo of your baby girl by the way, she's adorable :)

ei congrats girl... I don't quite understand how you can get lonely? You were blessed with a healthy new baby.., she'll be the best companion you'll ever have. Surely there are other moms in your neighborhood. Go out and make some friends... Cheers!

hi ya congrats and hearty wishes to u for ur daughter...ya obviously u can make lots of friends even in online...they ll make u happy and u want feel lonliness..if u make lot of friends then time will not be enough ..u ll surely feel it...if i m lucky i ll be one of those friends...so dont worry and enjoy each second