forgive and forget

when my husband cheated on me before,i learned to forgive him and forget everything what had happened.And now our relaionship became more tougher,intimate and our life went so smoothly. Its really hard to do those things but with your faith with God,he will lead you the right way.

Forgive and Forget.. I think if every human pays attention to this maxim, then life would have been fantastic. Many people nowadays live with the aim to take revenge with those who harm them, but this will lead to problems in life and will create a disorder and stressing life. Instead, we must learn to forgive and forget what has happen because no one can hurt you without your own permission and this permission comes from the heart. Therefore, be a person with strong principles and never permit anyone to hurt you. If someone is saying wrongs words about you, don't go and hit him, let him because this can't affect you as your soul know who you are and you know yourself better..so sooner or latter, the world will know your truth..so just be peaceful in life and learn to forgive and forget:)

I am a forgiving person especially if the person says SORRY and admits his/her mistake. But the damage has been done so I can never forget.

For me is very difficult to be upset on someone . I always forgive people too easy . I don't know . . . I just hate being argued with someone so I pretend that I forgot their mistakes . I would rather prefer not to talk too much about what they've done and pass over as quick as possible . . .

in my case, i think forgiven meas forgetting ... i have to forget the sweets before forgetting the pain, then maybe i could forgive the one who has hurt me.. However, its obvious that the relationship can never be restored as before after the hurt !

for me... it really easy to say that you had forgiven somebody that hurt you a lot... but the saddest part is.. its really hard to FORGET :P

To err is human and to forget is divine - so, it the best policy to forget and forgive instead of making plans to take a revenge! It is difficult to forget at times but finally you have to do it. Recently my previous host offered a very low quality service and I've to transfer my hosting account to a new one who atleast proves to be co-operative - but what to do with my previous host? I have no option but to forget and forgive the incident. Then again, I've been betrayed by my business partner, he is like my next door neighbour, but what can I do in this case also, but to forget and forgive? So, it is better to forget and forgive and move on... life is bigger than our small interests and accomplishments.

I agree with you, it is hard to forget. Though you can forgive, forgetting gets tougher than most can imagine. But everytime I feel those emotions, I always recall to mind one true story I have read. It's about the missionary couple who went in another country for a mission trip, leaving behind their young teenage daughter behind. She was one of the sweetest thing. When they return home, it was only to find out that their only child was raped and brutally murdered. The criminal was apprehended and was imprisoned. I couldn't imagine the next thing the couple did. They prayed together and after a few days, visited the serial rapist-killer in jail. Instead of the usual angry accusations and threat, even the criminal was surprised when the couple instead talked to him about the goodness of God, His loving mercy and grace. The couple forgave the man who bruttally killed their daughter unconditionally, and even shared with him the good news of the Lord, hoping that he can be saved. The man, moved by such mercy, went down into his knees and right there and then, I guess received Jesus as his Lord and Saviour. This criminal became a changed man because of the unconditional love and mercy that the parents of his last victim showed to him. Their example made him realized how good and great God is. And everytime I think about it, I know I too should learn to forgive and forget those who hurt me. If those couple who have been hurt beyond our wildest imagination by such a criminal was able not only to forgive but also to offer hope and love to the person who only deserves the worst, how much more should I not do the same for some menial, petty hurts inflicted to me by insensitive, uncaring or maybe just unaware person? We all need to learn to forgive and forget. It is not easy, but we can lift it all to God, and the burden will be much more lighter than we expect...

yes, we can forgive but hard to forget... because the memories keep repeating every time we think of the person that has hurt us. it will plant into our mind and heart and difficult to forget.it leaves a scars...

i think u never forget those things but it depends upon ur nature also if u r a guy having anger inside then u can take revenge but if u forgive then u may forget that thing as the time pass.

For me it is easier to forgive than to forget.......If you have been wronged by somebody, it may not even be advisable to forget too easily - might be wise to be on your guard with that person in future, in case of a recurrence - it can happen! Sounds cynical I know, but it's easy to pay lipservice to forgiving and forgetting, but sometimes, when real life intervenes, we have to look after number one.

ofcourse human can be mistake for any stage of life . but it is not difficult to forgive the human b/c sometime feel that i am wrong get a mistake to face lot of problem but human can be improve to face a mistake so i suggest that it may be forgive is better solution

I take the mistakes as human because i also do the same sometimes.But if we keep hung to those we are not going to progress.We need to forget and move on.this is a big life and we are here to big big things.These are very petty issues.That should not bother us.For forgetting you can use relaxation andd meditation techniques. At the same time think of the good things the person has done to you.

To forgive is harder then to forget. But the biggest stones in life are to forgive. There are too many things in this world that are wrong, too many turns in life that brings sorrow. Why remember them so much. Things that happen in life, happen to bring about a lesson to learn, something to experience. Learn to forgive people and mistakes and most importantly yourself. Because only then can you move on. Live a colourful and fulfilling life, not a life of revenge and regret. Cheers to a fulfilling life amsreya16

well well i agree with u that to make mistakes is very easy and that is why its rightly said "to err is human" now the question comes that the mistake which had occured was it purposely done,what was the impact of it....as we cannot react to all mistakes in the same way!!!!!! also if sumone does commit a mistake then it is not always that revenge is the solution....... there r many other ways also!!!! so first see what the matter is and then decide!!!! as i feel.... tc enjoy!!!!!!!!!

its really hard to forgive and forget especially when you are the one who is involved.forgiving is process and forgetting takes time to heal the wound, only time can heal the pain and only you can tell when youre ready.but inorder for you to move on you also have to accept the two it would really helped you to move on for your own happiness you cant really be happy if theres still bitterness you felt in your heart for others and you cant really be free.

we are told in the bible to forgive so that we will be forgiven and we all have things in our past we need forgiveness for so no matter how hurt you are by someone the thing is remember a time when you may have hurt someone and ask yourself if you wanted forgiveness .forgetting is a whole other thing its hard to forget a hurt but dont you feel like the bigger person when you know youve forgiven? (Matt.18:21-35 21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, "Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?" 22 Jesus answered, "I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

forgive and forget...it says in the Bible forgive and love your enemy.. but to love your enemy is the hardest thing to do... here's one sample: your sister or brother was killed by your neighbor with out any reason and he is in prison... now he asked your forgiveness.. will you forgive this man that killed your love one? remember the Bible tells us to love our enemy, now can we love the man who killed our love one? Visit also the site www.dollstruck.com and www.blogchex.com/bingot there are nice topics out there that would help you grow

Oh my, yes it is indeed hard to forgive and i really dont believe in the saying, that to forgive is to forget- coz sometimes, i can say that i've already forgiven this person but i didnt really forget what he did to me that i got mad at him at the first place. Forgiveness is really a struggle, its really hard to forget events and people specially if those events or those people have done nothing but hurt you. I am currently attending a recovery program and my life struggle is all about anger and bitterness because up until now,there is 1 person that i really find hard to forgive- sure i talk to this person, i even laugh with him, you can say that were sort of in a friendship state, but i know deep in my heart i am bitter and mad at him for doing the things that he did to me eversince- and now he did something much worse than anything he has done in the past- he got me pregnant and he wont marry me simply because he doesnt love me enough to marry me- though he keeps on telling me that he cares for me as a friend, and i really think its unfair, because he chose to prioritize his current girlfriend over me which he got pregnant...but i still talk to him, i guess i still love him, but everytime i see him, it still hurts and when i dont see him, it hurts even more. They say i should learn to forgive him so that i will be free from all this pain, and just let God do the rest but i just find it sooo difficult to do. At 1 point i wanted revenge but- i know it wont do any good and besides- revenge is not ours to give... SO i just cry it all out, everytime. Up until now i really dont understand why is it so hard for us to let go of something or someone that does nothing but hurt us? why is it so hard to forgive someone that you love or used to love? im still in a struggle... i dont have any answers yet ='(