Single Mom afraid to tell her daughter about her father. How to do it?

I think you can always give her an alibi, for the meantime. You can tell her that her father was somewhere else, working, or something like that. It's hard to tell a 3 y/o kid the truth, she might get more confused becasue of her young age. I think there is a proper time for you to tell her about her father, but now is not the right time. Just don't put to much pressure on yourself right now, I guess it's just a kid thing..

its really hard to explain that to a 3 year old. Just wait till she got into school. You will never hide the truth to your daughter, she will ask you that question someday, but the only way is to wait for the right time. For me it is very good if she started to ask me about her father, because for me that's the time when she felt curious about incompleteness.be sure that you are always ready to explain. Ask God's help, ask God to give you right words to explain your situation to your daughter..im sure you can have the right words because GOd is never wrong. Goodluck

I think you just have to be as honest as possible with your daughter. Even at 3, kids can grasp alot more than we sometimes think they can. Try hard not to cut down her dad as you do it but explain to her the situation and keep reassuring her that you are there for her and won't leave her as her dad did.

I am a single parent, a mother of one..And i dont think i'm afraid to tell to my daughter about her father. But in a right time..Now, that she's only 2yrs. old, little by little, i let her see the pictures of her father, and saying that this is your daddy..And when the right time comes that she can already understand things, surely, i will allow her to go to her daddy because it's her right to know everything. It's difficult, i know, but we have no choice but to give what's the right for the child.

when she does ask you i think you should tell her without no bad news about him, and when she gets older she will understand

Hi Kathy, I have struggled with this as well. As a single mom of 3, I have faced this often. They ask questions that I usually don't have the answers to. It has been nearly 7 years since their father had anything to do with them. When they ask where he is, I say " I don't know". I tell them I am sure he loves them but sometimes even adults make bad choices and don't know how to fix them. I tell them that I am positive one day he will wake up and want to know them and then it will be their choice as to what happens. I NEVER talk bad about him. We pray for their father together every night and at times they write him letters though we have no where to send them. Just remember not to say anything bad about their father. It never helps and you end up looking like the bad guy. They don't need to know all the gorey details though they don't need to believe he is a saint either. After all, if he were, he'd be there. Right?

It is hard to explain for a three year old. Just tell her that u love here very very much, but that her daddy has another life and can not be here with you two. Never talk bad about him, i do not think that will help her. Later she will get the whole stpry and she will understand!