Need ur help in taking a decision...

You need to step up right now! It's only been a few years...step up! Show him that you're no one to be pushed around. You definately don't want that to continue and then look back 35 years down the road in your marriage and discover that you've been a slave for all those years. Serioiusly...tell him that you're not going to take him acting like that and if he really loves you and wants you to stick around then he needs to treat you as a human, as a lover and as a friend once again. Good luck! Hugs!

First i will introduce myself.I'm a 24 year old gurl. muc older than you by 3 years and i have already 4 ex boyfriends.So i have a lot of experience especially in relationships. gurl, i'm sure you've already did what you need to do. i think it's time that the guy make the move. but since you told me that he's not listening to you and he's still behaving like this your relationship together will not work out. You should end your relationship together. WHo knows maybe during your break up, your guy will realize his mistakes...and he wants you back.... Want to ask another thing.... are you fully aware of his childhood experiences? That's one of the main factors of having a nice or bad behavior of a person, if you want to understand him....

things sometimes work out better when your friends with someone and then you have relations with them but its not always the case. it sounds like you need to seriously reconsider marrying him or atleast put it off for a while. Have you told him you want to marry him? maybe thats part of the problem. on another note, you do tend to loose some friends or loose touch with them when your in a relationship its part of life and growing up so to speak.

Well compromising a bit now and then is okay. I also do it, and we all have to do it, when we enter into relationships. Now, if someone dominates you and makes you compromise to such an extent, that you can barely find a piece of land under your shoes, then.......better you stop doing such compromises. Nothing is more important than your selfrespect. Therefore do two things. First, give him the last chance. Try to be as polite and still strict as you can, and make your points and problems crystal clear before him. Then tell him to make you feel comfortable in the relation. Watch him whether he takes things seriously, or just acts to be good with you. If you find a positive change in him, then congrats in advance. But if you don't, then follow the second step. Second step is to, stop seeing him, and find out a better and composed person. Remember, you are special, and please make sure before tying the nuptial knots, that you will be safe, secure and comfortable in this relation. If there is a little doubt also, then back off, before you have no other option, but to think of a divorce after your marriage.

You need to have a conversation with him and let him understand how you feel. If you do not feel that he get's it you should think about postponing the marriage. I sincerely hope that he will come around to your way of thinking, if he does not do not throw your life away. I once had a husband who was domineering and did not like me to have girlfriends or spend time with my family. After a time he became physically abusive and I had to run for my life. Please do not make the same mistake.

i think your guy is very lucky.. He treats you bad but u still love him. I don't know why ur guy can't understand you. He's being unfair. You have to end your relationship with him because it seems that he doesn't love you. But maybe he does but just very possesive. Imagine you not talking with your friends. I'd die if I were in your place so better break up with him and he'll be sorry for everything. Sometimes, you just need to separate in order to realize how this person means a lot to you and how he feels about you. Coz you've been together for a long time and i think your guy believes that your not going to leave him because of your love. So you have to give it a try.. break up with him and then he'll realize how much you mean to him and he'll be following you.

Well your boyfriend is acting like a child. There is no reason he should be dominating you. If you aren't doing anything wrong then he should trust you to go out with your friends. You need to tell him that his behaviour needs to stop or your relationship might be over...

hey don't be nurvous.if he really loves you, he wont like to change in you. love dosen't mean to change your lover. you don't worry and just wait to back your friend. if he really love you, if he really need you, he will be back. may be it will take time, but you just wait. if your love is true, he will be back.

Get out of it girl, this has nothing to do with love, but with domination... You're far too young to get married anyway, and already with this man for 2 years. Get out and start enjoying life with friends of your own age. Getting some experience with romance and BF will make you able to make the right choice when the time is there. Why do you want to get married? You have all the time of the world, no matter in what culture you live. Get a grip on your own life and don't let anybody tell you what to do and who to talk to. We live in the 21st century!!

see yaar its your life and you are not going to live like a slave of his your entire life. you make it clear to him that you are not going to live life just the way he wants. you may find it easy to compromise now but as years pass by you will remain as a slave doing everything that he wants. you must have your own opinions and tastes.just like he have friends you too must have friends. talk to him if he agrees to live in a normal way then carry on with your life else pack up else you will regret in future.

You got to be careful my friend. Unfortunately you have a BF who is too much possesive, which is sometimes very much a destructive trait in a relationship. It can increse with the passage of time and more so when you are married. You are thinking of adjusting to it, but in future, you might feel that you are on the threshhold of adjustment. Every move of yours may be followed. Normally people who are posessive may become suspecious too. So if you want to continue with him, take him to a pschychiatrist and take councelling.

You need to nip this in the bud right away! Show him that you won't be controlled like this - because thats what he's doing to you. He's controlling you. If you can't make him understand that he can't do this to you, then you need to get out of the relationship. In a way, it's better that this situation came up now, rather than after you were married. If you were married, it would be a much tougher situation to get out of, not to mention the divorce.

oh thats great to have such a love between u people but u will success in love with ur love.i think its takes such a time to set.think all as possitive u will be happy after the marrige with ur love.....................................

You can't make someone understand something, he has to want to understand. If you want someone to understand you, you have to first understand him. His domination shows that he is insecure, he feels inferior in someway. What triggered that change? Nothing happens for no reason. Events of the past, disillusions of the future? Your strengths over his weaknesses? His beliefs? Jealousy? What has he been taught about love? About relationship? If you really love him, go find out why. If that is the way he think love is, maybe its time you move on. It's ironic, guys love to control, and in a successful relationship, it is often the guy who thinks he is in control. In actual fact, it's the girl in control. Maybe you need to change, maybe he needs to change, maybe both of you need to change... Unless you understand what is going on, nothing can be done.

This could become a very dangerous and distructive situation for you if you are not very careful. This sounds like a very jealous type person. If you are only dating and engaged but not actually married and he is already acting this way, I can tell you from experience that it will only get worse after you are married. I was married to a guy like that once, I knew - just like you - BEFORE we were married that there were problems and issues similar to those you mentioned that needed to be addressed and fixed, but I married him any way. It went from bad to worse with him eventually refusing to allow me to even speak with or see my parents and family. If you cannot work these issues out, then you need to step back and take a long hard look at this relationship. Don't let him cut you off from everyone and everthing! That is very bad for you. If this continues, it would be very unwise to actually get married.

hey friend, first of all BELATED HAPPY BIRTHDAY.. now on your discussion matters,, there is always problem of the kind of activity u r talking about here.but its should be clear among the partners that both should be understanding. and if he do make restrictions upon you then it simply indicates that he totally adore you.. i mean he love you.. he thinks you are his.. well this is not good to make restrictions , this can make your relation little bit bitter.

Wow, that really sucks. Some guys seem to be more dominating when someone is their wife as opposed to just a girlfried. you should be careful. His behavior seems to be very possesive, and you don't know where that could lead. And although you are in love with this guy, if you discover he isnt the one for you - now would be the time to break free