Relatives or friends
By shoebdll
@shoebdll (31)
India
February 25, 2007 3:04pm CST
Hi,
this is shoeb from india. Grew up i a typical indian culture. People around me and in my family keeps saying that friends actully waste a lot of time of your life they do not help when you need then and its your relatives who you should turn up to when you need help. i have always tried to do that and also noticed other people around me who wanted help tried to seek help from their relatives but most of the time end up getting help from their friends. I help my friends and have the same expectation from when i need them and was successful all time.
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2 responses
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Without question it is a mixture of both. There are some things only your family can help you with but there are others that only friends can give you the right kind of help you need.
One should never reject one over the other. We should take the help offered from where ever it comes and then it is up to us to determine what is right.
Your family is close I would guess. So they depend on each other for support. That is fine and perhaps is best it that advice and help is usefull. But if a friend can give you a differant perspective and help even more then there is nothing wrong with that.
The most important thing is communication with everyone. If you tell the truth to everyone you can't go wrong.
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
India still has a very repressive society where you are expected to stick with your family for everything, including marriage. Having friends is actually a good thing, especially when it comes to marriage, since too much interbreeding can cause problems, and also, they often have different methods of resolving problems than your family does. I think you should have a few good friends that you rely on for things your parents and other relatives won't understand.
