im confused wid love or marriage?

Dont marry someone because they ask you to marry them. You have to marry someone because you love them unconditionally and want to spend your life with them. Marriage is hard and it takes both people to make it work. YOu will have your ups and downs, but it is really important that you are both in the marriage for the right rreasons or things will not work. Take it from me.. MArriage is difficult... I have been married for 3 years. Over that time we have had some great experiences and some times that you wish you would never go through. Its important to love the person you are married to or it will never work. Im sure there are people out there who say they have the perfect marriage.. Im not one of them. Me and hubby disagree on most things, we are completely opposite. We have different dreams and aspirations and a different outlook on life, but with compromise it makes life easier. We argue.. but we care and love each other. It doesnt matter if you dont see eye to eye and disagree and argue, as long as you are both together for the same reasons, love and partnership, you will get through. Marriage is hard enough without not loving the person you are with. One more thing... My hubby and I were together for 3 years. I had 2 really close male friends, 1 bought me an engagemnet ring and proposed, the other one took me shopping one night and said "I want you to chose a ring. I want to marry you" I said no to both these people. I did not love them (plus i was in my relationship and they knew he was going to propose). A month later my hubby took me on a romantic night away and proposed. It was the best night of my life. Neither of the other guys would of made me happy. We were great friends, but friends for a reason. There was no "spark". There was only a love of friendship not companionship.

Long distance relationships can be messy and upsetting. Its always better to double him or her before you decide to marry him.Try to know him inside and outside for atleast 1-2 years before you decide to settle with him.If the guy's your long time friend i don't think he would feel any indifference towards you and that you should reject him.

Don't marry someone you don't love. You need to respond to his proposal but I hope you don't agree to marry him if youre still in love with someone else. don't ignore him, but stay single, be friends only with him, and stop pining over the other man whose gone away. Be single for a while until the right man comes along.