My wandering eye...
By lirael
@lirael (501)
Philippines
February 26, 2007 12:52am CST
I have a wonderful husband, handsome too, by society's standard. He's not perfect, but I love his flaws. But having him doesn't stop me from appreciating other good looking man. I got married, I didn't go blind. I can see nothing wrong with that. I know its one thing to look, and another thing to want. For me, I just look. I'm the type who appreciates the good things in life, and good looking men are one of those things.lol!
My hubby says its fine with him, but sometimes I have to wonder. Is it really ok? With him I mean. Faced with a similar situation, how would you feel? I dread asking my friends, little things tick them off when it comes to their wives/husband. So if you were in his position, how would you feel?
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@shywolf (4514)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I don't think that any human being, no matter how in love, can ever stop looking at and appreciating other human beings. It is just in our nature. As long as you're not doing anything about it, which you aren't, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I don't think that anyone who tells you that they never look at all would be being entirely truthful. Heck, my whole being is centered around finding my true love, and I will love that person with every fiber in my being when I find them, but that doesn't mean that I won't still notice other guys who catch my eye! I think that it would honestly be impossible not to! LOL.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
2 Mar 07
My husband still looks at other women, and I still look at other men... and um for that matter we both look at both. We even point out a particularly hot person to get the other one's opinion. =p
I really doubt that your husband never finds other women attractive. It's just not human nature not to look. Like you said, you got married, you didn't go blind. I wouldn't worry about it unless he says it bothers him.
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@nvtellan (1907)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
Well, my wife does that to me whenever she saw a good-looking man whether in person or on tv. But it's ok with me because I know she's not really serious about dating the guy and such. As you said it, its just natural to admire at the beauty and that's just it. Thinking or planning to covet the guy is another matter.
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@maildumpster (3815)
• United States
2 Apr 07
There is nothing wrong with what you are doing. You are absolutely right - you got married, you didn't die!
Another way of looking at it -
Just cause you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu.
My hubby knows I look. I know he looks. Neither of us makes it obvious to the other one. Well he tries not to at least. LOL
@catcai (1056)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
If i was in his position and considering that i have trust in you- i think it will be ok for me that you do get to appreciate some good things in life- after all if i was a guy- I wouldnt deny having an eye for beautiful women as well. But this will really depend on your husbands personality- if you know him to well not to be the jealous type of guy- then i think when he says, its ok then it means its ok. Besides, i agree with you- just looking is OK but wanting is another... =) happy postings!
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
19 Mar 07
well yeah it is ok..its natural thing to admire someone ...even though were married as long as its only on that stage...nothing further...
@chips85 (91)
• India
19 Mar 07
I think it should be ok to look. But how your husband or anybody percieves it is what matters in a relation. If my boyfriend/husband had a problem with it I would rather not. because it is a small thing after all. And men married or otherwise do more of 'looking'. So I dont think it is harmful just by itself.
