Is it okay if your spouse/partner check your personal cellfone once in a while?

oh, my goodness, is this a personal peeve of mine or what?! My husband of 1 1/2 years is insecure enough to check my email, as well as scroll through the caller id on our home phone when he gets in from work. How can anyone think that this inspires respect and trust? Whenever he dares to demand information about phone calls or emails I may get, I refuse to answer him. I insist that he focus on the real issue - his feelings of insecurity and jealousy. I might add that I have never given him reason to doubt me. He just doesn't get how insulting this kind of behavior is to me. I am an adult, not a mischievious child! Insecurity and jealousy cause people to behave in such juvenile and degrading ways! Oh, by the way, he has a cell phone, which I never check. He has email which I never read. And HE is the one who has lied and gotten caught in lies during the course of our relationship. UGH! This issue really burns me up. Relationships that are based on respect and trust don't allow such immature actions. When you invade someone's privacy by "checking" their phones, pagers, pda's, emails, diaries, journals, etc., you are saying that they are liars, you are saying that they are not worthy of your trust and respect. Basically, you are saying that they are not the one for you.

My boyfriend and I do share our phones once in a while. He checks my phones, reads the messages and sometimes, answers calls if I permit him to. There's no problem because we both gave each other the permission to do that. Besides i'm not hiding anything from him and vice versa. Sometimes he checks my bills and checks his bills too. THus, I guess everything will depend on what both of you agreed. I know some friends who don't want that their partners would envade their own private properties. But as to our case with my boyfriend, cellphones are just fine with us. Nothing to hide for.

well in my views i dont think that there is anything wrong in checking my gf's mobile or she checking my mob........ Firstly of all we both trust each other and even if suppose once a while we check each others mobile i dont think she will have any problem nor i will have any problem......... secondly its because of possessiveness that others check their partners mobile and i believe that possessiveness will be there in every true love or relationship :)

It is okay with me if my husband want to check my cellphone in anyway he wants to. I would even let him check my email. I don't have anything to hide from him. I expect him to let me check his too though. What is good for the goose is good for the gander!

Yeah I dont think this should be a problem as long as you have nothing to hide,I wouldnt expect him to ask permission before he checked but then again by checking just proves that he doesnt trust me? Just checking the phone wouldnt bother me too much but checking phone bills and emails and getting too deep would drive me crazy.

yes of course. but due to respect of each other's privacy, it's better if one would ask casually but politely that he/she wants to borrow your phone. if you're not around, it's ok if he answers it for you, might be an important call, at least he's there to tell you what it's all about. and besides, even if he checks your phone, there's no need to worry because you know you're not hiding anything from him.

honestly, i don't care if my boyfriend checks my phone every now and then. i do believe when one has nothing to hide, one will never feel uneasy being so much open to his/her partner. actually, i am not the kind of person who checks my boyfriend's inbox or sent box nor check his dialled numbers/missed calls/received calls. but if my boyfriend's the equal opposite of me, it's okey. i won't worry about anything. but i do have a boyfriend who trusts me a lot. more or less, he's like me who does not check my mobile phone at all.

First off, i wouldn't pick a spouse like that. Even if she did i wouldn't mind it cuz i know that I'd be clean.

i really won't mind if my partner will check my cellphone or email messages. there's nothing wrong about it since i am not hiding anything from him. but i guess, all of us has different opinions about this matter. my partner hates it actually when i check his cellphone. he always tell me that it is his personal property. my stand is, why keep your cellphone private when you have nothing to hide anyways?

i wouldn't mind my spouse checking my celfone especially i don't keep anything from her. but i hate it when she reads my messages and makes up stories about the messages she reads from them and gets mad like what gets formed in her head is what really happened.its harder to explain something that didn't happen but she thinks happens and you become the liar.

I'm OK if my partner checks my SMS or receiving my calls but as long as I permit her. But if you got nothing to hide then why you objected ?

I would never check anyones cell phone and I don't expect anyone I'm with to check mine. I have total trust and expect the same. I can't have a relationship if there is no trust.

I see no problem with that. I dont have anything in there to hide. I guess its the method of approach that may pose as a problem. There are those who not only check the messages but also delete some of them or perhaps when your partner checks your email and later changes the password..now, that's a problem!