Are u mature to advice me

Sunny, it would be best to tell your wife everything before you start a relationship. I hope she appreaciates your honesty and you can start a new life with no lies or secrets to hide. If you don't want to tell her at all then make sure your past stays your past, you have to get rid of all things related to the past and no mention of it should be made ever, and I mean ever. You should be mentally prepared to accept her as your wife and she is the only one now in your life. You can't make comparisons at any point in the future and most importantly no more contact with your ex-girlfriend. I see you are Indian and I know how marriages work there, in that light I advised you. Hope it helps!

Damn, you just proved me how guys are one more time:( I have question to you - why are you getting married if you are interested in other girls? Or shall I ask - Why would you cheat if you want to get married and care for your future wife? I wuld never forget if you would tell me before wedding that you cheated. It would come up sooner or later. So figure yourself if you would tell her or not. How much you care for her? Or would you live with your lies in happy marrage? I feel for you because it is not easy, But from other hand you made that situation. Don't be mad at me, but I think it would be much easier if you would tell her and let her decide too - it is her life as well. I think , that guy who cheated once will cheat again. Good luck to you

Definitely tell her before the marriage. If you hide it from her and she would find out later, which most likely she will, she will wonder what other secrets you hold. That can eat at her until a beautiful marriage is full of distrust and will end.

It depends on the circumstances and the timing. Did this affair happen before the relationship with your fiance started or afterwards? If before I would probably leave it alone. Most people go into relationships knowing the other person almost certainly has been in previous relationships, but it doesn't mean that we really want to hear about them unless it is going to impact on our relationship e.g. if an ex girlfriend were to be stalking you then your fiance would certainly need to know about it. However, if this affair was happening at the same time as your relationship with your fiance then in all fairness you should tell her about it, and if you are going to tell her then it must be before you get married rather than after. This is a hard road to take as it can end a relationship, but think about her she would feel if she marries someone who then tells her that effectively he cheated on her while you were going out. Good luck with sorting out your dilemma.

First of all, congratulations for getting married, second, please, tell your future wife as soon as possible. I thing that if you explain her that this affair was before meeting her, that it didn't mean a lot to you and that now you are mature enough to realise you shouldn't have done it and will never repeat it, she will accept it. Furthermore, if you are sincere with her, she will appreciate this and she would trust you more. Good luck

You should tell her before you get married,how can you call yourself a man if you dont even have any restraint.If she decides how to deal with it support her because you deserve whats coming to you.

You need to tell her BEFORE you are married. She might not want any to do with you after she has all of the information. It is easier and a lot less paperwork to go your own ways before getting married. If you wait until after you are married to tell her, she will surely hate you. And then you will have the expense of a divorce. You screwed up. Admit it to yourself and to her.

i think you should tell the truth point blankly to your wife.don't be afraid of that.it might upset her a bit for a while but then you are indirectly giving her a message that you are honest. your affair with the girl was before marrige so thats very normal..unless you are breaking the heart of your ex-girlfriend to get married to your wife. clarifying befirehand is a better idea.

Hi! If you are sure that this will not reach your wife in anyway at anytime, I think it would be better if you would just keep it to yourself. What she doesn't know won't hurt her. But please be sure that you will not reconsider having an affair with this girl again ever.

for me i wouldnt say anything, simply b/c u really love this girl and want to get married w/ her she will more then likely dump u after u tell her...

I don't think you should wait until you are married, marriage is about trust & honesty, you are starting your marriage out with a lie, but i cant tell you what to do you have to look into your heart & decide what is right.

uh...duh! Do you want her to tell you she's been cheating on you after you married her? I think if you're interested in other people and are willing to act on it, then why get married? Obviously, you're still getting some. Don't marry the girl and put her through torture. Tell her now before you're married that way it's still a choice for her. Or just don't marry her, cause you're not ready to.

Hey Friends. I know the feeling about this issues because I used to be in it. I would suggest tell her before the wedding if she loves u she will stand by you and forgive you about it. If not then i am sorry but maybe you shouldnt be in a relationship because u can not seem to keep commitment like/or promise. Because if you loved your fiance like you say you did you wouldnt of went out to have the affair. What are you going to do if that girl turns up pregnant? How are you going to explain that to your fiance? Here is my advice just do what your heart says because you need to be open and honest before your wedding.

hi there sunny! i believe in the saying "honesty is the best policy".My advice is tell your future wife about it.i'm sure she'll be upset or mad about it,but atleast you're being honest to her.And don't be afraid coz it's already a thing of the past,so i'm sure she will understand..

i think it will affect ur new relationship,never tell it to ur wife and never ask abt her affair,i think after marriage one chapter of ur life is closed and another chapter starts.

I'm going to go against the grain here and say I don't think you should tell her. If you aren't plagued by the guilt of it, keep it to yourself. It will only hurt her. Are you marrying her for the right reasons? You love her and all of that? See, I can honestly say that in this case, I really think that what she doesn't know won't hurt her. And if you know that she won't find out unless YOU tell her, then it is up to you whether she will know or not. However, if there is even a bit of a worry about her finding out from someone else, then you need to come clean.

Once and for all be honest.. Honesty is the best policy. No matter its weight whether it is a simple mistake or not, you must be telling this to your partner.. This only shows hopw strong your love to each other is.

yes you should tell her. it will result in better understanding among both of you

Can you think who is coming 1st out of two in your choice.Call both the girls make your doughts clear,discus on this perticuler issue.Then think who is more compectible with your heart and mind,give her 1st rank and marry her.If you are not very confident take some more time think over it then take decesion.

In my opinion u shd tell ur wd be wife about the affair but NOT AFTER THE MARRIAGE, BEFORE IT. Marriage is a bonding which is based upon trust and loyalty. U should not hide something like this from ur wd be wife.