Was I wrong?
By CRiley27
@CRiley27 (983)
United States
February 26, 2007 6:18am CST
So, I went to the grocery store yesterday. The store I go to have people who "do the carts" I got out of my car, and planned on getting a cart from inside the store,so I was walking into the store. As I was walking the cart guy was pushing a bunch of carts about 5 feet in front of mr. I didn't want to make him stop just so I could grab a cart, so I just kept walking (going to get my cart inside) I slowed down my pace as to let the guy get in and put the carts away. All of a sudden,he and his carts stop short. He then proceeds to start saying "hurry" over and over about 10 times. I realized, he was talking to me! He was saying hurry, so I would hurry up and grab a cart. I found myself,turining around to him, and sternly asking "Are you saying hurry to me???" I didn't wait for an answer,as my goal was to just point out I heard him. After I grabbed my cart and went to start my shopping,the man put his hand up, and said sorry. I said thank you and moved on. Here is the "thing" I think the cart guy was mentally challenged. When I was telling my mother this last night on the phone,she said I should be ashamed of myself, I should of just let it go. I am sorry, I just thought it was rude. Do you think I was out of line? It's not like I screamed at the guy, or made a big scene. He was being rude to me, I called him out.
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5 responses
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Maybe he was mentally challenged. Maybe he is trained to let customers into the store, before he pushes in his big train of carts. He might have been waiting for you to enter the store. And he might NOT have realized what he said.
I would let it go, and stop worrying about it, and if it happens again, LET IT GO. Is it worth it to get into an argument about etiquette with a grocery store clerk? And if he is developmentally disabled, its really not worth it and you should get over it.
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@CRiley27 (983)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Oh I am sure he was waiting for me to enter the store, hence the reason he stopped. However, for him to stand there saying hurry over and over again, I am very sure he was well aware of what he said. He said it quite a few times. As far as getting over it, I am and was shortly after my encounter with him. I just posted it here to get other people's thoughts on it. Hence the discussion. :)
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@CRiley27 (983)
• United States
26 Feb 07
See, that's my "thing" If he is rude to me again, I should just leave it? I am not saying I want to get into it with the guy, butI am not about to just let someone say what they want to me. I don't know if I would say it was unintentional, if anyone ever stood there saying to huury to me, I would have reacted the same way to anyone. Normally, I would have went to the management, and said something. I doubt anything will happen again, as I now know to stay away. Part of my point, if this guy likes to say thngs because he is mentally challenged, then he should not be working in an area with the public, and I am guessing he is mentally challenged, I have no solid proof. What I have been saying goes for everyone. This guy is working,so he can not be that mentally challenged (I don't mean that in a bad way. I mean he is capable of working) :)
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@hockeygal4ever (10021)
• United States
2 Mar 07
It's not unusual to not realize that a person is mentally challenged until after the fact. I don't think you were wrong if you didn't realize until after the fact that he was challenged. If you knew ahead I think you could have perhaps thought about it and realized that being mentally challenged he was probably told or maybe even yelled at before for going ahead of a customer and has been informed how to do it right. A lot of times they can't process things in put them into perspective of different situations and only know the black and white version. THIS is how you do it and there's no other way. That makes their job easier for them but doesn't help them when a situation prevails where a "normal" person would be able to process to simply wait a moment. He probably didn't realize HOW to tell you to go ahead of him because that's what he was told to do.
I don't think you get flogged. But if you see him again, maybe remember his mental ability and realize he probably doesn't have the ability to truly be "rude" on purpose.
@trouble4u2avoid (2915)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I'm not sure how he was pushing the carts or how many he was pushing. I used to work at Walmart and believe me, you really don't have to much control when you push those carts.
I don't understand why he was asking you to hurry over and over again unless he was using a machine to push the carts and it wasn't functioning properly.
It may have been he was just rude like you stated. But I have to tell you I have jumped in the line of a row of carts on more than on ocassion to avoid somebody getting hit.
My friend would be pushing and I would be steering and all of a sudden a customer would make a quick dash to get pass us. Needless to say, I had many bruises on my butt and legs.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Not going to say you were wrong, I might have done the same thing although I am more inclined to give "the mom look" rather than to say something.
I think this is an example of one of those times we should count to 10, take a deep breath, and say a prayer before responding. If the cart guy is mentally disabled I would feel horrid if I had spoken harshly. At the same time there are a lot of kids doing these jobs that have no respect for anyone.
